On Being a 'Hellion':
"But for the fearful, and unbelieving, and
abominable, and murderers, and fornicators, and sorcerers, and idolaters,
and all liars, their part shall be in the lake that burns
with fire..." - Apocalypse of John
"When does a liar not know he's a liar?
When his native language is one built on a foundation of
misrepresentations." - Veh
See, the Scriptures make clear
that God desires genuine morality, -- not living a lie & pretending to be
"moral" because you appear to adhere to some sort of externals -
which seems to be the inevitable pattern of bad religion (which pretends
to be "good religion" ;-). Being a guy who luvs guys does not suggest for a
you must give up your integrity, lower your standards or live in celibacy (as
if most guys could)! Jesus & Paul both affirmed that being
"single" was a calling that only certain people were called to.
Everyone else is destined to get their proverbial rocks off. "Celibate
clergy"? -- That's a heresy waiting for the right moment to show
itself for the
gross hypocrisy it is! Those "super spiritual" leaders who outwardly
shun 'carnality' would step down from the pulpit if you could see their
thought life (know what I
mean! ;-) HYPOCRITES! It is a widely held belief -that
for many people- sex is a genuine need -- & the one who feeds it the
least - thinks about it the most!
So-called "Fundamentalists" are
composed of Pseudo-Legalists, hypocrites & Liars. What they present as
the "moral high ground" is not supported in Scripture. Guys honest
enough to 'hook up'
(to empty both lungs &
with another person in an attitude of caring & love, - ultimately end up
thinking less about sex, & more about living the greater parts of life.
FACT: Sexually mature men (beginning in the teens) are designed to
As internal imbalances build, so does the urge/need to copulate. Men who are
taught that sex outside of 'marriage' (now there's a
concept polluted by the 20th century) is a 'sin', ultimately find a
way to relieve their sexual tension (often with a religiously drilled feeling of shame) or walk around with perpetual
Is this not the naked truth? Many of us matured sexually at 14 - 16
years of age, but 'society' told us to 'wait' until we got 'married', after
we finished school,- I mean college, etc. "Just wait" they say...
So this is the irony: This same time period (peaking
sexual drive) is when a lot of guys
discover real intimacy with other guys. It goes from the gym-mat to
the camp-out or the stay over (& the wrestling match in the bedroom).
There's a feeling of competition but also one of camaraderie, closeness &
caring. Being accepted & appreciated by other guys is a real morale
boost for almost any guy & peers can easily become tender role-models.
Very often, this admiration for other guys & the interactions spawned from
it becomes physical closeness & sexual.
This form of affection
bonds men closer than brothers & effectively releases peaking sexual
pressure in an atmosphere of trust & respect. Many g0ys
who have recalled their early experiences with other guys tell similar
stories where general closeness with a good friend turned into wrestling,
and then cuddling until both guys climaxed. M2M, face2face love-making
is a gentle & intimate way to connect off the field & because it is
non-penetrative, it is generally safer than virtually every other form of
sexual contact (always know your bro, -though). I've never heard of anyone catching an
STD from "FROT"
but crabs, lice & skin conditions like HPV are real reasons to know your bro
Many dudes who have had these friendships are
now married with kids, & others are in relationship/s of another nature.
However, the stories about early M/M relationships seem very similar to each
other. Most of the time, it happened between a couple of guys who were
the best of friends& who were so comfortable & accepting of each other that
physical intimacy became mutual. Unlike the frenzied "circle jerks" shown in gAy
porn, -- most of the time ... the act was 1-on-1, very tender, caring, &
built a bond of mutual trust.
Since such things were/are not
generally discussed ... m2m relationships simply happened & were basically "accepted"
by most men involved as an unspoken part of life as a guy. Lots of
guys discovered that it was natural & wonderful to have such depth of trust
in another guy that they could enjoy each other's company in that way.
Lots of these guys would identify themselves as str8, -- but because of age
& circumstances, they weren't sexually active with females. Was the
relationship with other guys a proxy for women? Not usually ... and often, - even after
sexual activity with women started, it was not unusual for these guys to
regularly take a roll in the hay with another guy (but anal-sex was
venue. It was understood that penetration was something done with
women -- in the appropriate orifice).
However, in the early 1950's, the
media began to publish certain 'research' that promoted the premise
(a lie) that
most people were 100%-straight & that same-gender-intimacy was a practice of
minority of "deviants" (This premise was false, -- but it was loudly broadcast
in the media & conservative publications of the era). Suddenly, the mass-broadcast image of male/male
intimacy was given a perverse face that bore little resemblance to the
tender sexual encounters between most dudes (but more resembled the propaganda
campaign of 'Reefer Madness' with a turn against male sexuality)! This was/is devastating for the young mind that has been poisoned with paranoia & the
"tenderness toward other guys is for faggots".
Suddenly the message became the Devil's: "or even touch (NAWGAH)
each other, lest you die". This
was tremendously destructive because there was/still-is so much peer/peer
G0YS know from
experience) that the reality of like-sex relationships completely defied
the new stereotype/s. Suddenly, simply showing same-sex physical
affection became context for being labeled a "homo-sexual'. What
replaced tender same-sex interactions? Violence did. Almost overnight,
over +50% of the male population went from having "loving friends" to
being so-called "abominations".
Suddenly, fear & shame, replaced openness & acceptance. Tender
compassion was falsely relabeled as "perverse homosexual tendencies", -while
aggression & hostility became the acceptable forms of
public show of male/male interaction. It became acceptable to punch
your friend in the shoulder upon meeting, but not to gently put an arm
around the same shoulder. Throughout history, there have always been
cultural examples of fear of intimacy gone insane; -- But the post 1950's
galvanized it like never before - with mass media broadcast by television & a
powerful religious influence censoring broadcast content. The same
RELIGIOUS DOGMATIC mindset that crucified Jesus, was controlling the message
... all the while holding itself up as "Godly Values". Contrary to the
"Good 'ol Days" framing the religious right would love to give the 40's &
50's; -- the reality is that a naive population which had abandoned the
knowledge of God was deceived in-masse by the 'god of the fallen world'.
Religious zealots often refer to same-gender intimacy as a "loss of natural
affection" -- but the overwhelming historical evidence is that
"natural-affection" has always had a same-gender dimension. Jesus had said that there would come a time when the love of many (millions)
would "wax cold". Fascinating term -- because "wax" is a substance
that changes its liquid/solid form slowly over a temperature
RANGE instead of at a fixed, discernable point.
"We are the recorders
and reporters of facts - not the judges of the behaviors we describe."
- Alfred Kinsey
I'll again point out that
Kinsey's research in the 1940's had suggested that well over half of the male
population had experienced at least one episode of male/male sexual contact
resulting in climax (G0YS abound). That figure was immediately declared a "grievous
lie" from the pulpits across the country. Huge external pressures were
brought to bear to "adjust" the statistics. Conservatives & the
(ask/tell) military said 1-3%. However, even if we compromise to a figure in between,
-- still leads to
the conclusion that 1 out of every 3 men have had at least 1 male/male
(generally not anal-sex)
The Result of the
HOMO/HETERO Sex Myth:
EXCERPT: When the psychiatric definition of
"the homosexual male" became the socially constructed norm, male homosexuality
became a perceived rarity -- so often encountered in reports of adolescent HOM (homosexually
oriented male) self-perceptions within the context of
their schools or community. HOM adolescents were generally led to believe they are
“the only one," or part of a tiny minority if they are lucky. They do not
feel they belong to the greater human world. Alone and often feeling like
they are "freaks" - even the likely product of the rare genetic anomaly; --
many gay-identified males have believed and publicly asserted - they end
up in a state of anomie, exacerbated by homophobic reactions of others,
including themselves at times. Heterosexist and
not only that one is a rarity and "does not belong," but that hatred,
marginalization, and even exclusion will apply if one’s homosexual secret
is known or suspected.
Once the stigma of the
LIE gained general acceptance, it created an atmosphere of shame in
which those who had similar same-sex attractions were terrified to
acknowledge them openly; And those who did (usually 6's on the
Kinsey scale), were
indoctrinated with the LIE that they were a minority; --When the fact is
that the MAJORITY of guys have such attractions!.
Notice what is
ASSUMED: That youth with same-sex attractions are a "MINORITY".
That's a LIE.
Kinsey discovered the truth in the 1940's.
actual "minority" consists of
However, once the lie is believed, it does create a minority or sorts:
Those who are living based on the dictates of the lie!
This effectively created/isolated minority are then "educated" about "gay" sex
-- which centers around ANAL-penetration (a visual counterfeit that
somewhat resembles M/F sexuality). Now, watch the progression...
While stating that: Gay
& Bisexual men are at alarming risks for HIV, -- the same rhetoric
goes on about their mission of "Public Education". Just WHAT
does this "EDUCATION" consist of? It consists of the same
message, - now +20 years old ... a message the assumes ANAL*sex* as a
given, & then preaches "Use a condom every time.". Since condoms
fail during anal sex about 2% of the time ... the message is veiled
lesson on playing "Russian Roulette". "Gay
& Bisexual men are at tremendous risk of HIV"
& STD's in general
because they are educated to engage in the very behaviors that put
them at risk. So then, the same groups preaching a message
that KILLS, holds "PRIDE" events to push their message; -- & they
create a "supportive environment" to combat messages contrary to
theirs (such as this website brings).
Professing themselves wise, they have become as fools.
Theologically Neutral "MESSAGE" needs to change into one like THIS:
"In the 1940's Dr. Al Kinsey discovered that it is completely normal for
+2 out of 3 people to have romantic or intimate feelings for members of
their own gender. That means +2 out of 3 people in this room; +2 out
of 3 of your friends -- including family members - have varying degrees
of mixed sexual attractions. It's no crisis until insecure people
(usually with something to prove or maybe something to hide), try to
make it into one; -- & studies have proven that the people who want to
draw the hardest lines to govern others with are often those who have tendencies to cross those
lines! You can't prove anything by pointing fingers & making rude
comments because for all anyone knows, you're just like everyone else,
but too chicken-sh1t
to admit it.
There are certain behaviors that are very perilous, such as ANAL*sex*.
Even when barriers like condoms are used, such activities are still
extremely risky & because of this fact & other civil objections -- acts
like those are actually illegal in parts of the world. If you want
to kill yourself, friends & lovers, --- engage in them. If you
would like to live a longer, healthier life: Avoid the dangers of sexual
activity like the plague. It's common sense."
What is completely ironic is
that pulpits & preachers across the country who would mindlessly quote
scriptures like "Let God be true & every man a liar", -- suddenly sided with
liars. Jesus said that evil men would go from bad to worse & this
is precisely what happened.
The mass of so-called
theologians who had sloppily proclaimed that Leviticus forbid "HOMO-sex"
(instead of the actual prohibition against the perilous act of anal-sex) were now confronted with
Kinsey's statistics that
essentially damned a large percentage of them (Romans 2:1 anyone?)! Since having
+50% of the "righteous" self-condemned as potential
"ho-mo-sex-shual abominations" was unacceptable, a
new set of numbers needed to be acquired & a new way of thinking
established. The government & certain quack-psychologists provided those
Now, safe in the fabrication that only 1-3% of the population was
"homosexual", the self-righteous were safe to scratch their itching ears
with the new teachers whose writings they heaped around themselves.
Furthermore, the "homosexual" issue would soon provide a platform to rant &
raise money from! Ex-gay 'ministry' anyone? As the 1950's became
the 60's, the so-called enemy called: "the dirty nigger", was supplanted by the: "dirty
homosexual". This dynamic was a shift from baseless-hate based on race (in
violation of Galatians 3:28a), to a baseless-hate based on gender (in violation of
Galatians 3:28c). The reprobate mind of the fertility cult was reborn,
--this time under the
title of fundamentalism with slogans like "Adam & Eve; - not
Adam & Steve"! It all unfolded just as Jesus
described: Evil representing itself as righteous & simultaneously oppressing
many people & stealing their lives based on a lie. The
fool's-errand of the ex-gay
"ministry" was born & matched precisely what Paul wrote about false gospels
attempting to bring about righteousness by human effort (read
Paul wrote that the promoters of such "false-gospels" were
harsh language in the original Greek). Why is it that survivors of
ex-gay ministries often compare them to a "hellish nightmare"? It's
because these "ministries" are dreamt up by sons of perdition!
No matter what the name the
faction covers itself with: Jehovah's Witness, Mormon, Baptist (Southern
Methodist ... no matter what the title, - they'll share common traits, have
a counterfeit systematic theology (as if studying the Scriptures could bring eternal
life), under the veneer of righteousness, -- & they subtly
violate every aspect of Romans chapter 1 - the very chapter they'll use to
criticize & condemn others with! Because of their arrogance & the
great tower they are building toward the heavens, - most of them will not be
able to see the magnitude of the evil they partake of. The Scripture
declares that a sign of the last days is that men will LACK natural
affection. Being G0Y IS NATURAL AFFECTION. The lie that denies
that, is the same that has made a paranoid society of men who run from the
tenderness of close male relationships to partake in some sort of violence
in order to "prove" they're part of the 97% "straight-crowd". What a
mind job! The LIE continues by implying that ALL male/male
sensuality cumulates in anal-penetration, but mixed-gender anal-sex
is not discussed as an issue (hypocrites)! I actually
read some on-line accounts of "Straight-Christian" couples who engaged in
anal-sex before marriage because they didn't want to "sin" by having vaginal
sex! That's like having an airline pilot who shoots heroin because he
doesn't want to have a beer with his meal & risk having any detectable
alcohol on his breath! Jesus said such tortured legalistic thinking
was like: "straining out a gnat while swallowing a camel.".
The hypocrisy is like a "preechar" labeling two men sharing fellatio as
"abominations"; -- while his own wife is hanging off his tool by her lips!
So-called 'Fundamentalists' look at the teenage couple getting
physical with each other & exclaim (under the guise of holiness) that
they need to wait until they are "married". So what do you
suppose the answer will be if the 16 year old & the 15 year old want
to marry? Oh! Now I've opened a can of worms ... because we
"know" that most parents would not give "permission" for their teen
children to marry. Keep in mind
that Joseph & Mary were teenagers when Jesus was born (Do you
think God knew this?). Joseph was probably 16 & Mary - 14.
The parents of the Messiah were TEENAGERS.
Teen parents was not the exception, -- but the
RULE. To hear fundamentalists explain it, they
make it sound like people got married young because life expectancy
was short. Rubbish. People got married "young" because
they were ADULTS. Physiological adulthood happens at puberty, - not at
the arbitrary age of 18.
Jesus taught that "such as a man thinks in his heart, so IS he". This means that the
guys thinking about taking a roll in the hay are no different in what they IS <grin> than the guys actually taking the roll! I'm
not talking about sex for the sake of casual 1-night-stands, - but it does seem ironic
that those who puritanically project themselves on the 'moral high ground'
are usually the ones who get caught in the cycle of one-night-stands, guilt,
reinvented will-power, one-night-stands, guilt, & on & on...
"Just wait" the fundamentalist says. But, what does the
Scripture say? It is written: "But because of the desires of the
flesh, let every man have his wife, and every
woman her husband. Let the husband give to the wife what is right; and
let the wife do the same to the husband. The wife has not power over
her body, but the husband; and in the same way the husband has not power
over his body, but the wife. Do not keep back from one another what
is right, but only for a short time, and by agreement, so that you may
give yourselves to prayer, and come together again;
so that Satan may not
get the better of you through your loss of self-control."
Look at what Paul is saying!
He's COMMANDING the church elders to allow people to marry so that they'll
not be tempted to sin - like the use of prostitutes, (or in the case of
people who may have a lower sex drive -- so their spouses won't go outside
of the marriage for it)! The problems with promiscuity in the church
does not rest on the teenagers. It is the "legal" adults who will be
judged; -- For marriage is discouraged or denied to those who would desire
it simply because they are young. Many people will testify that they experienced their first & most
powerful love as teens. The common practice of society is to deride such "early
love stories" as "immature". Perhaps the truth is that human nature is
such that people do not want to admit that they MISSED out on the person who
should have been a spouse! Being more "mature" in social
terminology usually translates
into having had several relationships, sleeping around a few times & when guilt
builds enough -- getting a legal document <shudder> to endorse the "more mature
The hypocrisy is astonishing.
"But the Spirit says
clearly that in later times some will be turned away from the
faith, giving their minds to spirits of deceit, and the teachings of
demons, Through the hypocrisy of men whose words are untrue, whose
consciences are seared; --Who keep men from being married and
from taking food which God made to be taken with praise by those who
have faith and true knowledge." - I Tim 4:1-3
So here's a message for those who lack empathy & expect people to wait until
18+ years old to "marry": Expect them to be sexually active in the interim,
because it is natural & the Scripture say it will happen! They're not the ones in rebellion; ... YOU
(in authority) are the one/s violating the command of the Scripture! What we actually have here
is one generation of liars encouraging a new batch. The perception that one can
ignore the 'sexual-faucet' when the pressure begins to build is completely
at odds with what the Scripture itself says about such things! Anyone
living such a delusion is instantly postured for a fall! Sexual maturity is
time for sex, & even Paul acknowledges that this set of needs will drive
people to overcome their devotion to God (I Ti 5:11).
Jesus said that he came so that we
'might have life in more abundance' (Jn 10:10). The fact is that most of the
time -- Jack would enjoy taking a roll in the hay with his buddy Ben; --
except that fundamentalists (& those they've influenced) would scream
"abomination" (without a shred of
Scriptural backing)! So, with society impeding a natural outlet of M2M
sex into friendship building
frottage; --Expect Jack to bed Brenda, & Ben - Kelly - much earlier on. Got
diapers? Of course, in the secularized realm - heavily biased with the
anti-same-sex message (church & world in agreement - imagine that...), it
isn't diapers that get purchased but a trip to the abortion clinic. So then:
By a blunt sloppy use of language + a lazy, evil perversion of Scripture:
Fundamentalists encourage the very behavior in the secular realm -that they
claim to abhor: abortion.
"These people honor me with their
lips but their hearts are far from me."
This guy -in the picture- is a teenager. And in
some countries, he wouldn't be allowed to visit the "adult"
section in the bookstore. I'm not trying to defend the river of moral sleeze
that masquerades as "adult" material; --However I'm simply
pointing out the extreme irony that as a teen -- this guy is more 'male' than
many men will EVER be! And why would any
sane person expect him N0T to be
his penis? In a SANE society (where "adulthood" is
determined by post-pubescent physical attributes -not at an arbitrary age (&
bisexuality is recognized as the NORM); -And people view Analsex as a shit-covered
act of disgust) ... in that
society some other guy (probably a mentor
within about a decade of the same age) would take an extreme interest in him
& pour out his love, life & substance to encourage & be a close
part of the potential clearly shown by the guy. Sexual-tension wouldn't be
an issue lasting beyond a day, -nor would either guy be 'bitched'
by the other. This is how M2M relationships in ancient Greece were
practiced for millennia. And women would be the "relationships of last
resort" when a guy finally decided that he wanted a
Sex is God's Timetable!
the age of stunted & delayed intellectual maturity that is our
day, -many people try to rationalize "why" it "wrong" for teens
to be having "sex". There is a term for people who think
such things. They're called "idiots". And you are probably
surrounded by them. You need only look back to the 18th century in
the North American states and read the accomplishments of the
nations' founders to realize that by the time they were teenagers,
--they were extremely well educated, and many -married. By
"teen" I mean around 15/16; --And by well educated -- I mean
what we would consider college-level by today's standards. Think
I'm exaggerating? Here's the fact: They were simply
NORMAL. Adulthood & life were fully engaged by entry into
puberty. Mind & body were expected to be in sync.
Teenage parents was the RULE in that civilized society. 2000
years ago, the Apostle Paul drove the point home that the unmet
needs of natural sexuality would overcome a person's devotion to God
(I Cor 7). It's only been since the 20th century that the
insane (yes, INSANE) notion has
developed that teenagers should simply "quench their
urges" until they're in their post-college 20's. Over
the same period, education has become so slack that people don't
know half of what they should by age 13. I'm not trying to diminish
the seriousness of sex & what it creates within a relationship.
I'm trying to relay a message that the teenager who's taking the
naked body love-tour is acting appropriately for his age -at least
regarding his expression & need for sex. Society (& parents,
guardians & politicians) are the ones who are seriously
misguided by expecting the next generation to adhere to a series of
social rules that parents themselves could not! And expressing
intimacy toward one's own gender is not a moral shortfall in an of
itself. It's what the deepest friendships are often made
of. What I see lacking is common-sense from "adults"
and a generation of youth that often don't understand (because the
previous generation has under-prepared them) that at the age for
SEX, -they should be engaging life instead of whoring around on
"spring break" with an attitude of "slack &
party". If you're a teenager who is "doing the
deed" with somebody, --I'm trying to let you know that your
behavior is to be expected & is normal for ADULTS. You should
look at yourselves & understand the seriousness of your choices
(I'm not saying to become asexual, either). Perhaps, --you need to
take the high-road and not follow the crowd. If you want to
act like a man, then it's preferable to be a man to the
fullest. You'll find that lots of people will respect that
-regardless of your youth. Society itself has betrayed
you. G0YS understand and we want you to know that as long as
you are respecting others regarding the subject of sex, --then we
respect your thoughtful decisions regardless of your age. Love
works no ill.
Get a Clue!
G0YS.ORG: It's a message that requires emergency broadcast levels because
society & theology are sadly so sick with lies. Consider: A large swatch of
society has swallowed the lie that there is something wrong with
loving somebody -merely for the reason that they're the same gender
as you. From every civil measuring rod ever devised based on sane,
legal standards: There is simply no reason behind this distortion.
It is a prejudice without merit, benefit or logic. We live in a
world where people are often more comfortable expressing affection
to a pet - than to another person (especially a person of the same
gender). This sin is grievous because it runs completely
counter to the fundamental theme of the Gospel. As a result -
it produces every evil heresy that Christians are to flee. It
simultaneously adds & takes away from the letter of the Scripture. It accuses
God of not executing a solution that encompasses all people.
It promotes a "works based" salvation via "ex-gay
programs", -anathema. And it results in the body of
Christ saying to the other members "I don't need
you". We'll see who is ultimately "cut off"
when God judges such carnal, lawless, elitist, sex-based theology.
Read Galatians 3:28 yet?