Shot of Love

Friends with "Benefits"?

Honestly, that sounds almost like a sleazy term in this day & age. But I think that's more of a function of how it's often applied in common speech -rather than what it means among men who are genuinely friends. You see, it's often applied to mixed gender couples who have a sexual component, to what is otherwise a casual relationship. I won't go into the long drawn out philosophical discussions as to whether men & women who are sexual w. each other - can actually BE "Friends". I tend to think that those situations tend to outgrow mere friendship too quickly - often, for at least one of the members & then the imbalance seeks to bring the other up to the next level. And I can't express how serious the situation instantly becomes the moment a pregnancy occurs.  I am staunchly pro-life and because the entire g0ys movement came into existence from my pen, - I will not compromise on what is a self evident, immovable moral truth. Human life begins at the beginning. "Pro-choice" people value personal convenience over the right to even question IF another person exists. G0YS have no place among us for sociopaths...

And, with those permutations out of the way; -What about men who discover that their love for a buddy goes beyond Philadelphia & into Eros? In other words, when friendship between men takes on an aesthetic appreciation of the male physique & causes sexual reflex - what then? This happenstance is tremendously common. Most guys are selectively ambisexual. What is news to most men is how common this occurrence is (+63% of the male population). The "gay male community" wants to debase this reflex by putting it in high-heels & injecting it with estrogen. Well, to hell with that! G0YS are grounded in the reality of what things are: We're men who love masculinity & have no desire to debase it! Love happens. And when it happens to you - you want answers. Glad you're here!

So, let me help you with the one component that Buds w. bens is most in need of: Mutual interest. In other words: It takes (2) to tango. If you want your buddy to notice you then you need to work on your physique. Supplements, gym, workouts & time. Men, generally recognize & deeply appreciate strong masculine cues. This is why bodybuilding mags have lots of pictures. Men generally like the aesthetics of sexy men.  The attraction is different than the attraction generated by sexy women. But it can be a strong force of attraction. Once you start working out - men will comment, "Hey, you been working out?". Strong, masculine cues are attractive to most men. Compare that approach with the gay-male community that is preoccupied with "drag". Their attempt is to confuse the mind-brain system of another man & get into bed based on projecting false female cues & affectations. This is why gay men disrespectfully refer to other men as "bitch", "queen", etc. It's a bunch of social losers trying to "get a real man" by pretending to be a women. Those interactions are built on gigantic lies; -Never on equal footing & they tend to end harshly when somebody with functional testicles gets sober. The entire GLITQ_ETC thin'gus is seriously fucked up from the get-go. NOT G0Y! Simply read our mail!

It's been my experience that lots of guys become sexually active at 12-14 years of age. And it usually starts with an intense friendship with another guy. And it's generally NEVER "AnalSex". There are exceptions and this usually involves toxic exposure to "gay porn". However, for the vast majority of men - the 1st time they ever empty their nuts - it's balls to balls with another guy. Thanks to the g0ys movement, men now have a +3000-year historical context for this and it's a totally normal "guy thing"; - Not a "gay thing" requiring some bizarre set of gender-bending rituals! In other words: Sploog'n with a buddy does NOT mean you need to embrace genderfuck, ass-sex, nor friendships with men who want to emulate their creepy aunts. And it fuck'n matters! As one guy said: "I'm only into guys. However, I have NEVER been with a guy who self-identified as 'gay'. Guys who identified as 'gay' always seems to be insecure in their identity as men. That's damn UNattractive. The guys I bedded were always friends - masculine guys I really loved & admired. It was never cheap, nor casual, nor sleazy, nor planned as mere a 1-nite-stand. Yeah, it took time to break down inhibitions - but it was always worth it. And it was always ultra discreet: 'Hey Bro ... feel like hanging out this weekend?', sorta thing. Nobody stopped being "a guy"! There were no attempts to emulate the androgynous affectations of some multi-letter mind-job "minority". 'Plans to hang out', was code speech for a weekend of fun w. lots of slow, gentle, touching, cuddling & respectful M2M climaxing without anyone ever being b!tched! Once a buddy knows that he's gonna get off with you without risking his masculine reputation - the anticipation of the event shifts his nuts into overdrive & max's out his semen production until the 'event'. And that's freak'n hott!  And up until about 8-centuries ago - completely "normal"!