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"Cursed
is he who removes his neighbor's boundary marker!"
- Moses While the quotation from Moses above is most likely dealing with issues of property; -- the bigger issue of BOUNDARIES is covered by the quote as well. Paul - writer of much of the New testament - was probably drawing on that principle when he penned: "All food is clean, but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall. So whatever you believe about these things keep between yourself and God. Blessed is the man who does not condemn himself by what he approves." - Rom 14 Paul's message was that it is wrong to do things that cause your 'brother' to transgress his own conscience. In simple terms: Don't move your neighbor's BOUNDARY Marker. Because Paul's teaching was about the new-found liberty in Christ's covenant -- the message was that a person's own boundary marker may be moved to encompass more of what life has to offer. What was once restricted by ritual - is now open pasture! Notice that each person is at liberty to move HIS OWN boundary marker based in good faith as to what is legitimate "open territory". However -- that teaching is balanced with the primary tenant of Christ's theology: "Love works no ill toward his neighbor...". Paul makes clear that it is possible to condemn yourself by what you allow if what you do violates the tenant of neighborly love. Paul's example was food. Brilliant! You see: you don't get any more intimate with something than to eat it & make it part of yourself! So: What's to learn from a 2000 year old lawyer & a 4000 year-old Egyptian-raised-rebel? Well, as covered in great detail within the G0D-HATES area; -- the section of text Moses penned in Leviticus forbidding men laying with men has a powerful legal delimiting clause: "AS HE LIES WITH A WOMAN". Since Moses's law also gives instruction regarding HOW men are to lay with a woman (throw the Karma-Sutra away) -- the prohibition becomes very specific: Anal-Sex is absolutely forbidden[.] G0YS hold to the theological model that argues -using the Scriptures - that Torah specifically forbade anal-sex and that lax, indiscriminate men twisted that prohibition beyond the letter & lawlessly expanded it (with sloppy exegesis & outright mistranslation); -- to allege that same-gender affections were the forbidden. G0YS point out numerous Scriptural citations to support our [gender-blind/anti-anal] posturing; -- but more importantly, g0ys point to the overall themes & purpose of the law in the Old Testament + the Law of Christ in the New. G0Y'S [gender-blind/anti-anal] position on the issue of sexual affections should make any "Christian" or "Jew" swallow hard contemplating seriously the citation from Deuteronomy 19 above! Oh, and the most scholarly Jewish Rabbis agree with the g0ys (How ironic is that)! Some claim that the specific prohibition is based on mere religious dogma. However, if you check out the modern statistics that track the spread of sexually transmitted diseases -- you'll find that Anal-sex is +5000% more effective at spreading STD's that all other forms of sexual contact! And, because it is so much more dangerous -- societies that tolerate the practice are soon consumed with sexually transmitted plagues. (God doesn't send the plague as some religious nuts claim. But the increased risk of plague/s is the reason the Torah forbid the act in the 1st place!). Moses wasn't the only law-giver to forbid men playing the "female role". The ancient Greeks -- the culture that left behind a legacy of man2man same-sex affection in their historical, visual artistic record; -- They also outlawed anal-sex! Mull that over in your mind & consider how different their culture was from modern "gay male" moirés (which almost exclusively pander to anal-fetishes)! The same gay-male community that loves to point at the Greeks -- would be incarcerated for moral decadence by that same Greek culture! An ironic fact, yes? Ultimately, the grand folly is an attempt to violate natural law by ignoring a boundary marker and compounding the foolishness by coercing others into disregarding the 5000+ year old boundary marker as well! Of course - the majority of men know by instinct that anal-sex is unnatural & unsanitary. It takes a repeated message that says "Disregard your natural aversion" to wear away at the consciences of men weak-willed enough to follow the herd. From the standpoint of psychology: Only about 1%-5% of any population consists of leadership personalities. In a culture that sends the message: "GaySex=AnalSex", - only 1%-5% of exclusively-same-gender-attracted men will have the personal fortitude to unconditionally reject it while NOT conforming to the ASSociated culture. The rejection of that act & others that attempt to make a man a proxy for a woman is the predominant trait - THE LINE - that separates g0ys from gAy-male culture in general. Men who discover their inclinations are those described here - need not "embrace diversity" - if that "diverse behavior" violates their consciences. And because g0ys' posturing is one that divides based on actions that involve torts (whether intentional or not), we are vocal about our posturing. This causes many men who are in the "gAy male" community to accuse g0ys of being "judgmental". If by "judgmental" they mean that g0ys dare to call certain behaviors "reckless disregard" & therefore criminal in act & immoral in intent - then I'd have to say that we're guilty as charged: Guilty of using our good sense of reason.
THE LINE: The line called "g0y" is embraced by nearly all men when they hear the philosophy articulated; -At least those who haven't injured their own consciences by delving into anal-fetishes (whether M/F or M/M). The LINE represents the moral high ground where men need not be concerned about being humiliated by other men who may find them attractive & need not be shamed because they fall into the +60% of men who experiences various degrees of same gender attraction. The line called "g0y" cuts thru the lies & separates the light of friendship & respect from the darkness of meaningless hookups & disposable people. "G0Y" loves masculinity & therefore would never even consider trying to reshape "Danny into a Donna". G0Y treats the other as if he was priceless. G0Y REALITIES: An editorial Contribution
As a Kinsey-6 G0Y, my own life has been characterized by a respect of my male
peers & esteeming masculine principles. Raised in a conservative,
fundamentalist-connected home - I have seen the best & worst parts of the
religious right & had to make my own decisions based on facts & reason as I
discovered that there was no way I could ever truly "fit in" with
fundamentalists because of my sexuality. However, the passing of time
revealed to me in no uncertain terms that I wasn't the only guy with deeply
concealed affections. However, my mannerisms were always controlled & I
adopted early the philosophy that I should become the same kind of person that I
desired. I became a gym-rat in my early teens & as a result - developed
friendships with a number of male athletes & a few other gym rats. On the
surface - my friendships looked a lot like most others. In private is
where the variances occurred. How many other guys were doing the same
things - I have no way of knowing, - but I suspect it is much more widespread than
generally realized.
Fellatio:
"But what about 'oral'?" Statistically, from an STD perspective: 0ral is about +5000% safer than anal (& because g0ys don't do anal, - nor do g0ys do guys who do anal - that's 2500x safer)! Generally, men prefer to give oral to circumcised guys as opposed to uncut (but don't panic if you have a hood). It comes down to a matter of perceived cleanliness. Why? Because intimacy with anyone always has risk. In school, "lice checks" were done 1-2 times annually. Lice could be spread by close contact -nothing even considered 'sexual'. So, slow pleasuring a guy with your mouth is obviously a means to convey not only, eh - 'lice', but things not so nice. I.E: HP-Virus can mess you up. The 'wart' is a sign that a guy is a carrier ... but in the age of medicine -Dr. Deceiver removes warts from the nads of carriers & thus removes the visual indicators that someone is an HP-Virus carrier. Damn inconvenient to get on your nads; --But magnitudes worse to get in your mouth. Arse-Phukkerz are the #1 carriers & spreaders --followed by the women who 'do them'. And HPV is merely one of many perils. So, the message is: Doing a good buddy has some risk (how good is that communication?); --And, doing a stranger is just plain stupid! Use mouthwash immediately before & after if possible. There is also a vaccine available. As people, we depend on our senses as an indicator of a guys relative health. It isn't always accurate -- but one can surmise that if a guy generally is clean than he is less likely to allow situations to arise where his personal hygiene shortfalls become perilous for others. One g0y wrote: "Being a clean-freak, -The only time I'd blow my uncut buddy was immediately after showering, swimming or Jacuzzi." Another writes: "The 1st time I blew a guy, it was my buddy Dan on his 16th birthday. We were at the lake & I swam under the dock & while he floated face up on the other side - I pulled his lower body toward me & worked his speedo's down over his hard on. After stroking him to the point where I thought he was probably as clean as the crystal lake were were swimming it, -I went down on his uncut mantool for the full 15 seconds or so - until he jizz'd a river from the sensation. His fresh mansauce wasn't ever an issue in my mind: What I wanted was a totally clean dick to work it out of -- not something that had been sweltering between his legs & wrapped in a ripening foreskin - for even an hour.". I've had other guys tell me the same thing. "Totally clean is the rule." One g0y suggests: "It's one of the ultimate acts of loving kindness a guy can do to another. However, it's one that I expect to come from intimacy. One way to clear the "STD" issue is to ask the question in such a way as to preserve the guy's pride no matter how he answers. Questions like: "Because I'm into dick2dick, it really isn't a big issue; --But have you had STI's or anything in the past or are still being treated -- that we might want to wait to clear up before doing more than some rod-rubb'n & ball-bonding?" If you're with another g0y, the answer will be negative most of the time. If the guy has recently dealt with something -then the safe position is to know specifically the contagion factor & not go there if it's still an issue. Products like ClearShield that form a monomolecular, invisible glove can substantially reduce skin borne issues like yeast, jock itch, hpv & other sub-dermal source conditions. If the guy has been on antibiotics to deal with a condition, -the best advice is to know for sure that whatever he had - is now clear (I knew a guy who got NSU from his wife shortly after his wedding -although it's rare). You don't want to mess with anything that could wreck your health[.] Sticking with g0ys (NEVER with Arse-pounders -not even those who are willing to go on the C2C-diet w. you {but would play in an arsehole if given the chance} ) is the safest way to engage. And remember -- this shouldn't be a 1-nite-stand type of interaction. With g0ys, "sex" is never casual. It always has meaning & is the "super" in the glue of friendship/s. Staying clean is tremendously important. Depending on the guy's comfort level - he may or may not want to reciprocate. Lots of g0ys take things slowly and if this is part of the way your buddy chooses to be -- then accept it. It's about him anyway, right? Be gentle & watch for his feedback cues. Keep in mind what feels good to you & most importantly: Forget every BJ scene in any porn you've ever watched. (They ain't accurate depictions of the act's dynamics!). Be gentle & take your time. When your buddy finally shoots - remember that you can tease out a series of "aftershocks" that will stretch out his experience & pleasure -especially by using your lips & tongue to tender the bundle of nerves at the base of his glans (dickhead). And here's a suggestion: Whether you love the guy so much you want to drink him down, -- or whether you treat his load like rinsewater; --have the decency to use a good mouthwash before & afterward. It'll kill germs & make your breath something he'll want to sleep beside. And sleeping with him is a good idea after the event. Don't simply leave (it makes a guy feel used). If you're not really tired -- then give your buddy a good body massage & let him know that he's a friend you love to be around. And by all means -- if the guy seems withdrawn or appears to have something "eating at him", be sure that he understands the g0ys concept of M2M friendships regarding intimacy, respect & discretion. Fellatio is an extremely intimate event. It's got to be handled with an intense degree of love -- even if it's with a buddy you can be casual with, wrestle & joke around with. Light heartedness aside -- when the guy is groaning out his nutt & afterward; -- your body-language, comments & reactions can build him up as a man or rip him down. Be considerate, gentle & compassionate; --Use your words to encourage & build his esteem. Lots of men suffer from a loud mental minefield caused by Sixth-Graders, Sex-sellers & Sister-'Satan'. What I mean by that is -for many men- there is a lifetime of negative messages that have bombarded them (& their peers) from junior high school to their places of religious exercise - plus misinformation pushed by pornographers. Huge numbers of men have a roar of negative messages between their ears that collectively has the power of a hypnotist. This roar of lies asserts that same-gender intimacy between men is a form of moral turpitude and makes a man less of a man. Those messages generally come from the misapplication of various religious texts and the x-gender innuendos of the "gay" community. This river of lies really begins to take hold around puberty and by the time +63% of the male population hits 16, -the alleged dire pronouncements about "liking men" has seriously traumatized them and totally supplanted natural-affection & logical reasoning in this subject with a panic-inducing mental-roar of peers, pastors & pornographers all telling them endless negativities about what liking other men "ultimately means" (as opposed to being able to thoughtfully and calmly consider the feelings for themselves). Fortunately, men who embrace the g0y philosophy have (1) general experience upon doing so: Genuine FREEDOM from that roar of lies which society has earlier put between their ears by years of repetition. G0YS know that men can love other men without changing our mannerisms to a camp/femme persona, nor embracing any x-gender philosophies, nor living like a dung-beetle. G0YS know that it's natural for men to bond with & love a select group of guys based on mutual interests, attractions & personalities. G0YS know that we are simply within the majority of normal guys, - and that "GAY" is a mindfuck-term that causes division among men where none should exist. Men loving men is not the exception; --It is the rule. G0YS know that. Gays, don't; -And sadly, -neither does the bulk of society because of the giant mindfuck spectre of misinformation & flawed reasoning that is the "gay community".
Because my relationships all started as friendships - they continued as
friendships - great friendships w. "benefits"; -- Not clingy, or possessive or
judgmental regarding petty stuff. It was nothing like the mindset of M/F
couples who "go steady", etc. We accepted that we were guys with lives
that had numerous aspects to the living of. We were "fine" with
girlfriends & accepted that guys could have other guy friends that they were
intensely intimate with. We knew that one guy cannot possess another - and
that love, friendships & relationships were not designed to cancel each other
out. No foot stomping ultimatums about "me me me - ONLY me"! That
kind of stuff is what women did (& what we somewhat expected of them - do to
the bad influence of modern social moirés). Many of my peers are married with children today - and many dealing with the same old ill-fitting labels that we managed to duck in school - now thru the experiences of our kids & friend's kids. Some are not aware of the "g0y" concept - & instead, probably have some inner turmoil & suspicions that they're part of some "bisexual minority" instead of the +60% MALE-MAJORITY! However - I've been reaching out & sending this link to those guys whom I still have contact information for. G0YS.org changes lives - because it draws the line of acceptable M2M behavior - not based on some arbitrary rule, - but by drawing on the health & historical evidence of civilized cultures that go back +4000 years! G0YS are men who can completely love other men; - But in doing so, never confound the masculine-sexual-appreciation of that love - never wanting men to play the "female role". |