Ground ZER0 in the "UNgay" Paradigm Shift!

Making Love ... for REAL!

Quick Links:

Intro (reopens site)
G0Y? Eh?
No-Apology
God Hates:
I Believe
Beautiful-Hide
G0YDAR
Male|Mail
Links!
0ur Groups
Literature
Peripheral View
Support Us
It Happens
Prejudices
UNvirgins
The 'LINE':
Flame
'n Fags
Head's up Dad!
GYM-g0ys!
Make'n L
0ve
Pedastery?
Peeps 101
Terr0rists
BrokeBack
'Da 'Scene'
Aesthetics 101
Empathy is G0Y

 

 


Remarkably common are testimonies just like the following:
"I grew up in a neighborhood where boys having 'sex' with boys was the rule, on a regular to occasional basis. As an almost unbroken rule, the 'sex' involved mutual masturbation as well as oral sex. Anal sex was generally non-existent. Given that this was a form of sexual interaction involving boys who had the most sex with their best friends, and lesser amounts of sex with lesser friends, male bonding factors applied - as well as sexism . That is, we were all aware of what we were to do with females, as some of us were doing - as in fucking - but would never think of doing that [anal intercourse] to one's best friend, considered to be one's equal." - Adams





 

"I hate women."
"They're all whores."

Two
quotes from notorious womanizing men!

Rhetorical Question: The women who have sexual relations with such men - what are they experiencing:

  • Love; -
  • Or merely being used? 

I think the answer is obvious.

The irony is that I know both of the men who made the statements quoted above. Overall - they're basically regular guys, good friends & they have no shortage of female companions.
They do not represent an odd class of westernized man: However - each has a stream of women who seem to have no number & certainly no permanence in these guys lives.  These guys are considered extremely 'virile' & sexually active/successful males in the eyes of most who know them.  They also have a clique of friends in whom the boast about their latest sexual exploits.  But, as noted: These guys do not have long term female relationships - nor do they seem able to sustain them.

Remarkably: I have observed the exact same pattern of behavior in the gay-male community: Endless one-night stands with guy-strangers; -- No relationship steadfastness or permanency.  And the irony is that many of these gay men have "female friends" in whom they confide their most intimate secrets & exploits.  There is a reason why the "fag-hag" exists in stereotype.

Of course - not one brush paints the whole picture - especially when fidelity to form is required.  However - because the men described above constitute large clusters of well recognized behavior patterns; -- I thought I'd take a look into sexual moirés & make some educated guesses as to the underlying psychology.


Hypothesis:
  • Men who fixate on sex without the ability to bond with or appreciate the long-term aspects of their lovers are victims of prejudiced thinking patterns. 
  • And their partners usually reinforce the prejudiced beliefs.
  • And society / marketing media reinforces these beliefs.

So - What IS the PREJUDICE?

The prejudice is the same as most: The belief that the other person is unequal - usually inferior, of less worth & lacking rights.  This basic belief is the foundation for contempt. After all: If a man is at the mercy of someone whom he feels is inherently inferior to him - the need for the inferior person generates a sense of resentment and a need to further demean the other in order for the man (who feels humiliated in his need of the inferior) to regain his sense of superiority.
Put this way: A man is never more vulnerable then when he is naked & sexually aroused.  A man's sexual response controls him - makes him subject to it & seizes control of his body & his responses.  That's a lot of power to give another person over you.  If the person who has such power over you is someone you feel is inferior to you -- then the implication is that the weak - weakens the strong; -& the strong is incapable of stopping the events that lead to their own weakening!  This is why there is an endless string of one-night stands but no lasting relationships or strong bonds of deep friendship.

Enablers:

Media & marketing promote this imbalanced thinking by constantly stressing the differences between genders. Such differences are usually the product of culture rather than nature.  Consider westernized culture & body hair as a dynamic.  A man who does not shave is simply being a "man". He can let pits, pubes & chest grow without too much chance of being socially outcast.  However - how is a woman viewed who lets here pits, pubes & leg-hair grow uncontrolled?  Hmmm.  Is the hair in these places UNnatural for her?  If not, then why the perceptual distaste?  The answer is social conditioning.  Companies that make hair removal related products have a lot at stake if women suddenly accept themselves the way nature makes them. Need I say more to prove my point?
The fact is that there are tremendous similarities between the genders. 2 eyes and a nose, 10 fingers & 10 toes.  Why do men have nipples?  Western society seems terrified of the similarities.  Hmmm.  Of course, most people buy into the bias without considering what they're buying into.  Western societies love to point at practices of other cultures like the lip-disk, neck-rings or foot-binding.  "Silly pagans!", we yell at them as we apply the shaving cream, the blade & then the make-up.  How far is the ear-ring from the ear-dowel?  Hmmm.  

Of course - those who buy into this message that screams "HETERO" or "different" - perpetuate the imbalanced thinking by promoting the same ideology in their communications.  A Man who believes himself to be superior can only be with a woman who believes it.  An assertive woman soon is seen as being a "bitch" -- and she may well be if she sees men as inferior to her!  Whatever the form - the philosophy of 'inequality' spawns endless occasions for people to deride & denigrate each other over frivolity.  Consider the civil war that broke out in Rwanda - where 2 groups of people were killing each other over physical traits that amounted to average height & the shape of the nose!  And others such as Hitler's 'final solution', slavery in the US -based on racial beliefs, the Camarouge who were killing people who wore eye-glasses.  Endless manifestations but a common symptom: A belief that certain physical traits create superior/inferior classes of people.  The most common is the male/female schism.    

Manifestations:

As expressed earlier: This imbalance has numerous manifestations - all similarly accusing the worthiness of the other person.  In M/F relationships, the dynamic is endless sexual partners & no relationships of any depth because one or both people are too fixated on their own superiority - or the one who believes [him/her]self to be superior becomes filled with contempt & a petty attitude for the other.
Among M/M couples - the schism of DOMINANT/SUBMISSIVE is mirrored by the extremely unequal act of analsex: TOPS/BOTTOMS.  Since the ANUS is NOT a genital organ -- the practice is derived from a flawed perception that penetration somehow equals sex. 
Men - lacking a vagina, have no baseline of comparison for the female part of sex other than the VISUAL aspect.  A male who BOTTOMS is merely emulating what he has SEEN - what he THINKS women do. Is there any wonder why the "gay-male" community is preoccupied with drag & x-gender behavior?  Of course there are people in the gay community who will deny my observations as a 'prejudice'.  However - those same critics will fail to identify where the practice originated & where the ideas for it come from.
Why is the stereotype of the gay-man one in which the person puts female affectations into his mannerisms.  It may be a stereotype, - but stereotypes are based on identifiable behavior-clusters that can be spotted easily in the fabric of society.  A gay-man who TOPS is merely EMULATING what he thinks is a masculine sexual act (because at his core being he feels less than a man - the act of penetrating gives him a faux-sense of being more masculine); And the BOTTOM takes on the psychology of a proxy-khunt.  Because the anus is not a female genital - but an anus -- the act of using it as a proxy is a fraud: Which is precisely why some have identified that act as a crime against nature. Technically - it is!
In other words: A gay-man who TOPS another man is seeking the same type of environment  to insert his penis into that would exist in a Male/Female sexual exchange.  The female vagina is specifically designed for this act.  An anus (male or female) is NOT.  The act (when anal) is a fraud. It is not sex because sex is about genitals - not rectums. (However - giving benefit of the doubt where any may exist: Guys doing the top/bottom thing may do so because someone TOLD THEM a few zillion times that this is HOW men sexually interact. "Over-ride your common-sense & do like this..."! Letting someone else manipulate the space between your ears can be a dangerous thing -- especially when the thing between your ears is guiding the thing between your legs!  Sex is about a focus on genitals - not arses!) 
Historically, anal-rape was the most grievous insult that could be dealt to a foe. Why? Because of the widespread belief in many cultures (past & present) that women were weak (because they are generally weaker physically); --So to rape a man (to penetrate him) was to "make a woman of him" - to make him "weak".  Technically, in the legal sense of natural law: Analsex IS a crime.  Moses wrote that the act was a mala- inse' crime -- a capitol offense. So, while other nations were "raping" their defeated foes ... Israel was NOT.  His law against it turns out to have been appropriate on another level; -- Because anal-sex<sic> spreads diseases (many deadly) explosively into any population that takes up the practice  According to studies - the act spreads STI's +5000% more effectively than all other forms of "sexual contact".  Cultures that take up that practice destroy themselves. We're watching it -right now- infect the globe; - proving the point. Argument over.

Oh G0Y!

The male/male phenomenon currently expressing itself as the g0y men's movement is actually nothing new.  Historical evidence clearly shows periods in time among certain cultures such as the Greeks - when male/male intimacy & sexual interactions were accepted & openly celebrated.  While the modern "gay male community" has made an appeal to the Greeks as progenitors of the gay movement; - The fact that AnalSex was illegal in ancient Greece effectively filters & excludes from 80%-90% of today's current "gay male" culture! Ironic? I think so.
As recent studies (from Kinsey to current Internet polls) show, about +60% of the population experiences varying amounts of Same Gender Attractions (SGA). About 10% of those are exclusively SGA.  The monumental implication is that +50% of the population is ambisexual (Bi).  1 out of every 2 people can swing both ways!  Recent studies about "homophobia" have shown that people with the highest levels of homophobia are usually people with a high propensity to experience SGA.  Many ask why.  I believe the reason for fear of SGA has several reasons - perhaps many ... but only (3) are primary:

  1. Current widespread religious beliefs that are critical & negative of all SGA.
  2. An innate fear of being sexually abused, anally raped & effectively emasculated via.
  3. A fear of being ostracized because of stigmas connected to the above 2 factors (being labeled part of a socially offensive group).

Because the imagery connected to the act of anal-sex (& other forms of scat-fetish) - is so repugnant to so many people - the baseline feelings of revulsion & disgust form a powerful psychological barrier that prevents scrutiny of the prejudice & to whom the negative feelings actually apply.  In other words: Once an image locks in the mind of a viewer that relays a sense of disgust and then that image with the associated negative feelings are connected to a word (such as 'gay'), -the prejudice sets like concrete against the term -- now connecting the word to the imagery & the feeling.   The next time the term is used to label somebody - the feeling accompanies it. 

Disgust is a powerful emotion evoked by the imagery of something vile, impure & contaminating.  Let me illustrate how powerful it is with a true story.  Years ago, the BBC did a special on food processing facilities.  During filming at a juice making company - a camera shot showed a stainless steel conveyor belt covered with freshly washed vegetables headed toward the pulverizors - where they are crushed & made into juice. However - on this occasion, the camera also caught a large live snake slithering along the conveyor & falling into the pulverizor where it was inevitably smashed up, cut & wrung into the juice.  The commentator for the BBC asked "Aren't you going to stop that!?" - pointing at the overall operation.  The reply was along the lines of "No - the batch consists of so much juice that something like a snake being mixed in doesn't violate the government contamination standards.".  My question is: How much pulverized snake are you willing to accept in your juice?  Pay close attention to the feeling you are experiencing as you consider drinking down a glass of juice you know contains some small part of snake-oil.  Powerful emotion, isn't it!  

One of the goals of the g0y men's movement is to remove 0urselves from any ASSociation with the term gAy & hence, -zero out the negative emotions currently smeared on all male/male intimacy because of the destructive imagery promoted by the vocal minority called the "gay-male community" (& the prejudices reinforced by the religious-fundamentalists of several faiths).  The gay-male community is heavily preoccupied with rectums, feces & scat-fetish.  That is an undisputed fact and one only need to look at the overwhelming majority of gay porn publications to see that this fetish is readily accepted & considered the PRIMARY, integral gay male denominator.  As pointed out elsewhere; -Only in that subculture is a fascination with feces a tolerated 7 celebrated behavior.  Society overwhelming understands the biohazard surrounding it & spends BILLION$ every year to safely dispose of sewage.  How much  feces is acceptable in your snake-juice, eh - I mean fruit-juice!? 
The fact that feces ("SHIT") is a massive health hazard is not only accepted by the general public, but scientifically established as a leading public health concern.  Yet - a group of PERVERTS - wants to celebrate filth-play as part of their eroticism!  And would you look at the statistics: The gay male community has the highest rate of STI's (+4200% higher than the general public at large according to the American Red Cross)!  Should we be surprised?  WTF! One of the most remarkable reactions from people who hear about the g0y men's movement is "Male/Male sexuality that doesn't involve AnalSex or a preoccupation with filth!? Wow - never even considered it."

What the g0y men's movement has done is provide a platform for men to adopt that draws a clear line of ethics against analsex as well as opposing other fetishes with filth; - (not against gender composition).  The g0y movement expresses the belief that current "gAy male culture" is generally immoral for these primary reasons.

  1. The widespread fetishes with filth & AnalSex -which is essentially a tort against nature:
    1. treats a man as a proxy for a woman (in numerous avenues of expression).
    2. provides an avenue for the explosive spread of diseases - which is 'immoral' because people get hurt.
  2. Promotes & supports those same actions - which makes the community as a monolith willfully complicit.  a/k/a "Accomplices"
While the issues of "FRAUD" & "TORTS" are not usually considered religious, - but legal in nature; -- G0YS point out that in the Torah - Moses' command against 'Men lying with mankind as he does a woman" has no symmetrical prohibition against "woman lying with woman as with a man".  The lack of a reciprocal commandment in a volume of LAW (The Torah is a volume of LAW.) speaks volumes.  Since it is a fundamental principle of law to not go beyond the letter of what is written (inclusio unius est exclusio alterius) -- then it is immediately clear that Moses has no prohibition against 'woman lying with women'!  Is this a matter of Moses playing gender favorites?  No. 
For one: It's a matter if biology. Under Moses law - the only lawful way for a man to "lie" with a woman was to penetrate her.  Throw your Karma-Sutra away.  Since women have proper anatomy to be penetrated; - There is defined the 'natural use'.  However, if a man was to lie with a man as with a woman under Moses law - then the man would be, by definition - penetrating a man.  Since a man has no appropriate anatomy with which to be penetrated -- then the back hole (anus) becomes the unlawful target.  Under Moses law - it is unlawful to come into contact with human dung.  What would a penis inside a rectum be in contact with? 

G0YS unfold the law to overcome the religious prejudice against same gender attractions that many, many people have been oppressed with their entire lives. This understanding reframes Romans chapter 1 & shows Paul's expose against ungodliness not to be one against women with women & men with men; - But against women and men having anal sex.
There is also a valid 2nd reading of that same prohibition against "men laying with mankind as he lies with a woman."  The term "AS HE LIES" can also be the basis of temporal framework - meaning "AT THE SAME TIME".  Although the law does not forbid same gender intimacy, the rules regarding man/woman were quite solid.  Western society is out of touch with most of these for several reasons.  In Moses' culture - polygamy was generally accepted.  A man might have several wives. There is no law against women lying with women because a man may choose to sleep with several of his wives at the same time.  Throughout the dark night a man might be woken several times to copulate with any of those wives & the issue of "who's child it is" would never arise.  However - if a man had a paramour (male lover) the law in Leviticus 18:22 states that the 2 men cannot lie together at the same time a man is lying with a woman (a wife, concubine). This is because having 2 men in the same bed as a woman would introduce legal questions as to the paternity of children sired.  The concept of "exclusivity gay" was not a legal consideration because men were generally seen as ambisexual - & every honest Rabbi KNEW about the dynamics of David & Jonathan well before either was born -- because what was written about them is common to man anyhow.
From a legal standpoint: Adultery (sexual activity with another man's wife) was a capitol offense -with good reasons: A man should never be expected to raise another's child; - And uncontained sexuality spreads disease/infertility/death.  2 men in the same bed with a woman opens a Pandora's box of litigation woes. Once again - the issue was not being made of 2 of the same gender being together - but of issues of law regarding paternity, adultery, etc.    
Due to the Hebrew man's right to contract at his coming of age - there was nothing to stop 2 Hebrew men from making covenant with each other & within those covenants expressing love & mutual care for each other's family.  They have the fundamental right to self determination & the mingling of their affairs with whom they choose. Unless a 3rd party has a legal interest (as would be the case of the father of a BRIDE) - nobody has authority to encumber a contract made in good faith between two men.  If two men of legal age fell in love & want to merge their lives; - They simply DID IT. Two self-determining beings made in God's image wouldn't ask for permission for what is a fundamental right of contract!    This is precisely what David & Jonathan illustrated with their love & subsequent covenants; -- Which is HOW the kingdom of Saul became David's; - & WHY David was able to probate it to Jonathan's son Mephibosheth; -& was the legal basis for David's adoption of Mephibosheth & his family into David's.  It is all in David's love-covenant with Prince Jonathan. READ THE ACCOUNT

Peter specifically said that people who did not understand legal fundamentals would misread Paul's writings (to the detriment of many) & this is precisely what has happened in reference to Romans chapter 1 and ALL OCCURRENCES where the term "HOMOSEXUAL" or equivalent occurs in translations of the Scripture.  This is much further explained in the GOD HATES section of the g0ys website. 

In contrast to the "gay-male" community & the "bar scene" (which bolster the principles of unbridled pleasure, passion & a gross disconcert for civility in general as made clear in many publications); - g0ys believe that effectively dealing with the subjects above puts to rest issues of law & conscience (not in a dismissive light or tone of frivolity -- but in good conscience,  good faith and an atmosphere of understanding the WHY). 
In summary: G0YS believe that loving relationships cannot co-exist with attitudes of contempt for: law, morality & humility; And that law, morality & humility do not encumber same gender relationships, - butt only certain acts that tend to cause harm.


 The g0y difference?

 

The testimony in the orange paragraph (above-left) is interesting in 2 massively important respects:

  1. First, it makes clear the 'sexism' present in the author's life during his youth. Women were seen by him & his peers to be different in regards to sexual matters then their friendships.
  2. And, without the constraint of an externally applied moral code, - these guys were sexually active with each other in proportion with the level of friendship; -- But all possessed an innate moral disdain for the concept of anal-sex -believed to demean the man - & therefore was seen as a disrespectful act. These guys knew instinctively that men don't buttphuck other men & doing so would have meant alienation from the group. 

These factors considered; - The obvious conclusion that can be drawn is that in the natural state, a male peer group will instinctively draw a hard-line of separation at actions that are seen as emasculating, - & distance themselves from those who promote/partake in such actions.

It's also of interest to note that this author mentions (elsewhere) that his peer group did not consist of any effeminate acting guys or anyone who might fit a "gay stereotype".  His testimony was an account of his life growing up in the 1960's - prior to Stonewall & in a cultural paradigm where these guys were not aware of the 'perversion' called 'homosexual' until later on in life.  This account is remarkable because it shows a dynamic among male friends that involved sexuality - directly correlating to the degree of friendship; -- & set in a context of a natural moral code for interaction with peers without external influence or shaming with arbitrary rules.  A key point is that these guys knew by instinct that penetrating a guy was a demeaning unmanly, act.

The account above is not unusual.  What was remarkable is that doing research on this subject lead me to peer groups consisting of rough 'n tumble guys (now older with lady-wooing reputations) who were involved in 'circle-jerks' & other male/male sexual interactions (never anal) throughout their youth; & these guys would be the first to hurl a 'phag-insult' at effeminate or anally promiscuous men.  Many still have sexist attitudes that follow them throughout their lives.  Watching these - they often end up in divorces in which their attitudes toward women being 'unequal' comes out in regular conversation.  And yet - the "equal" the buddy they got-off with in their youth remains a lifelong close friend.  Perhaps if more men saw their spouses as "equals" instead of another species - their relationships would be more stable. Of course - a woman must also see herself in the same light; -And the belief must be held as a core understanding of the reality of things -- not as some abstract philosophy to be aspired to (as an internal self-evident truth; - not an external ideal to be 'lived up to'.).   

This innately respectful male sexuality is the very heart of being g0y.  It is the dynamic where guys humbly enter each other's personal space to show acceptance, affection & among the closest friends - alleviate tension via extended physical contact.  Among male peers in groups that understand that penetration=disrespect; -- touching that leads to relief of tension -especially sexual -is the highest form of male bonding & an intensely personal event shared between friends.  It is a blatant lie to assert that men do not appreciate the beauty of the male body (which is why muscle & fitness mags are full of photos). Most (as in the MAJORITY) of men have a great aesthetic appreciation for masculine traits.  Men are also drawn towards personal characteristics that are admirable in other men - such as courage.  Such traits are infectious among peers in a group & a respected guy who befriends a peer & pulls him toward the 'close inner circle' knows that over time - it's possible that the friendship will take on sexual dimensions based on mutual respect -like those discussed above. However - most men find the act of analsex a completely disgusting concept. 

 

HYP0THESIS:

Based on testimonies like that above & their number, - it is my hypothesis that in the natural state - adolescent men will intimately bond with their peers. The intimacy is based on an unspoken set of rules regarding the equality of both men in the act of coupling & that mutual affection is shared in an atmosphere of masculine respect & acceptance.  Those who do not meet the mandate of a masculine gender role within such groups are ostracized - because accepting them & their difference represents a threat to the core values of the group - by the implication made nonverbally by accepting "the sissy".  The specter of gender non-conformity sends up a powerful warning flare; -& anal-sex is the brightest warning signal: A message that threatens a fundamental & instinctive moral imperative & a core masculine identity. 

The sissy is cast-out because a "sissy" represents a personality that leans near cowardice and a potential to bend toward actions that will threaten the group's core identity. "We don't have 1 sissy because we don't want more to follow." - Such philosophies are not discussed out-loud - but known instinctively. 

Therefore - a group of sissies that bands together becomes the icon of 'the loser group' - a group of pseudo-men who have lost the connection between their balls & their consciences; - At least as far as the regular guy on the masculinity-bell-curve is concerned.  And, where do you find the largest collection of "sissies & pseudo-men" today? That's right: The "Gay-Male" community. And what are the WELL-KNOWN & ADVERTISED CHARACTER TRAITS of the GAY MALE community? X-gender confusion, drag, butt-sluts, queens, & crowned by guys who advertise 'sex' with other guys (with a preoccupation with Anal fetishes). All this social-scat is wrapped in the highest levels of Sexually Transmitted Diseases of ANY demographic on the planet!

The "loser group", in the eyes of the observing Boy-Scout-Gang, - has lived up to the very expectations they had of the sissies they rejected in the 1st place. And the TRAITS, STEREOTYPES & STIGMAS of the "Loser Group" are now the characteristics to be avoided in the name of "masculinity". And what is one of the traits of the loser group?  Male/male intimacy & sexuality; - (mixed with faux-pussy analFetish).  And society - which is generally N0T composed of analytical minds - fails to separate the (2) components.

The DISASTER, -- the LIE - that cascades into the public psyche is that male/male intimacy is a "gay" community exclusive.  What the g0y men's movement has taken the pains to point out is that male/male sexuality is NOT exclusive to "gAy"; - Butt the "gAy" male culture is the culture that DESTROYED the noble image of male/male-intimacy by anally-raping it, smearing it with feces & putting it in drag; -And then worshipping that loudly degraded icon THEY CALL "GAY SEX"!  And sadly, because there are "men" involved, -society believes the perversion to be representative of ALL male/male physical intimacy; -& because the perversion (& many variations) spread diseases & glorify shoving objects into body orifices that were not naturally designed to accommodate: There is a huge amount of money to be made by those who market to the perversion/s (thus promoting & perpetuating them.)!

And guys who have not had the ability to see this gradual shift in paradigm from the bird's eye perspective (of time's passing & the numerous interconnected facets of the social evolution of the 'gay' phenomena) - are confused by the "in their face spectre", the conflicting messages, their own masculinity + the fact that many of them do find masculine men attractive on some physical level.  Where the "gay male" image has gained loud media, - the natural male bonding process in the 'gang' is now confronted with a loud, contrary LIE that asserts a "heterosexual norm" & that male/male intimacy is part of the "gay thing".  Gentle male/male physical affection has been effectively stigmatized & smeared with feces, effeminacy, arse-sex & a connection to the word "gay". The natural affections to touch, hug, hold, cuddle & nudge to a loving mutual climax have been put into a box of terror that asserts that doing so will make a guy part of  "gay culture"  - a term which carries a tremendous amount of baggage -well beyond mere same-sex intimacy!   At this point in time, we believe that the term is beyond redemption and g0ys offer no apology for abandoning it!

G0YS believe it is time to make a distinction and an emotional appeal for men to accept the warm male affirming parts of their innermost beings without being ashamed that they are capable of loving other men (in the fullness of love's dimensions); -- While N0T being deceived into thinking that their affection needs resemble anything like showcased in the moral-sewage of "gay-media". In simple terms: It's possible to have a BrokeBack-Mountain experience WITHOUT the ButtFukk'n!         

Naked Honesty:

The key component of a g0y relationship involves disclosure & acceptance of several facts.  These are not issues usually discussed openly, -- but nonverbally assumed fundamental truths.

  1. Sexual release is a need. This is true for men. For men, this is true. And if you are a man, you know how TRUE IT IS. Are there any questions? If not - then why do we tolerate people discussing this topic as if it is not true - as if sexual release was an option? Granted - there is probably a small percentage of the population to whom this form of  OCD to-self does not affect.  Perhaps physical or genetic reasons spare some from the inevitable need to pump out copious amounts of man sauce through a seizuring penis, -- but most men begin to lose their ability to think of anything else -if they are hindered from regular ejaculations. And by "MAN", --I mean a HUMAN MALE JUST 3 seconds PAST PUBERTY... 
    Once again, fake, formal religion has failed humanity miserably in this regard. Truth is the last thing Father Ropehyder wants you to know, because if you realized the truth - you'd know what Father Ropehyder is doing in those extra-long morning showers that gradually deform the bar of soap into an acute "(" shape. 
    The reason that teenagers get morning wood is so that the foreskin will detach from the glans to facilitate intercourse.  Men are programmed for sexual release in their teens.  But, - one of the 1st messages "churchianity" tells men is that their sexuality is shameful & their need for regular release is "sinful".  It's my belief that if you attend the Church of Kellogg, etc -- you need to tell Elder Penisprude that his preoccupation with preventing undocumented male ejaculation is a sign of mental illness.  If that doesn't work - simply exit permanently. Religious hypocrites deride the truths Gentile g0ys know by instinct. The unspoken lesson of the circle-jerk is that guys need to get-off & it's normal, natural & nothing to be ashamed about. It's "a guy thing".  Denying it is simply a mark of self-hatred, ignorance -or both.
  2. Just as it's easier for a 3rd-party to tickle you than for you to tickle yourself; -- Having a 3rd party give you a helping hand in the sexual release department feels infinitely more pleasurable than using the 'self service pumps'.  So - your best friend "J" circle jerks with the bois & is the kewlest guy on earth who likes wrestl'n with you too.  Last time he stayed overnight - you wrestled & then he got you pinned.  Once pinned he began to tickle you so long you thought you were gonna have a stroke, - & he occasionally gently groped your balls while making jokes;  -& the next thing you knew you were hard as a rock.  Big, bad "J" then used his circle-jerk skills to slowly stroke you until you were shoot'n ropes halfway to the headboard & having your nutt so hard that that you thought your curled toes might break off.  Afterward he busted into a gentle massage all over ya because he really does love the ground you walk on (- & he got off on getting you off).  Next time you'll be sure to get pinned earlier -- unless of course - you somehow manage to pin big "J" & then give him a taste of his own medicine!  Or- maybe you'll just get naked & cuddle into a good cock-fight.  It's a guy thing.

    Of course - fundamentalist-type religion/s (always on patrol to make sure that nobody has an orgasm without the official paperwork signed) goes about trying to thwart such exchanges by suggesting that "masturbation in general is a sin" - to begin with.  However - what they call "hoe-moe-sex-shu-ality" is labeled (by them) as an 'abomination that is punishable by death & will send your soul straight to hell - praise the Lawd!'  Of course - they'll add that masturbation is 'only' a 'lesser-sin' (because they're all doing it themselves -so must downplay it)!  Well - let's consider that posturing & pour a little damnation back in their erection, - eh, direction:
    If "Hoe-moe-sex-shu-ality" is sex with the same gender; -- Then isn't masturbation "ho-mo-sex-ual" too - being sex with the same gender? After all -- you ARE the same gender as yourself, right?  Am I the only one who smells the bullsh1t of hypocrisy? I suggest that this is the argument to kick 'Pope Muhammad' between the crotch with. The smoke of smoldering brain circuitry is a pleasing aroma before the Lawd  - as they try to justify how yanking one's own winky is less "homo" that fondling that of another guy; - especially when the word "homo" means "the same" & you don't get any more "the same" then when you are fondling -you!  Of course, the point is not to villianize self gratification - but to cause a sense of personal despair among those who teach that same-gender-attractions are "abominable" - while they themselves cannot stop jacking off!  Once the "youth leader" realizes he's an "abomination" because he jacks off (& he is the same gender as the dude he's jack'n...[being himself]), -- he'll be open to legitimate alternative views that get him off the hook as well. Enter g0ys.

  3. Most guys agree that the emotions they feel in regards to sexuality are not well accounted for in the anecdotes of society nor the classifications society has for "sexual orientation".  In general, the biggest LIE is that the Bi-sexual (ambisexual) part of the population is a small minority.  Over +53% of the population experiences Same Gender Attractions!  The next lie about am Bi-sexuality is that people who are - feel the same degree of attraction for men & women. Actually - the levels of attraction vary tremendously and it is often more of an issue of individual traits that determine the force of attraction.  This is why you occasionally hear about a guy who has always been "straight" suddenly falling in love with another guy.  People who experience this type of event are often at a loss to explain "what is wrong with them". The answer is: Nothing.  Last time I checked +53% was not a minority! However - for people in the 1-5 range on Kinsey's scale -- they very often feel that what they have experienced attraction-wise does not fit into the social sex-boxes of "straight, bi & gay".  They're right.  Society doesn't know the truth about sexuality because it is afraid of the truth and the mass media is run by people -- generally terrified that other people will find out that they swing both ways. People who accept the lies promote the lies.  Meanwhile - lots of guys are in a state of confusion because they discover they are getting aroused around their good looking male buddies in certain situations. Guys who carry these emotions silently within them often suffer terribly with unmet needs, questions & guilt thrown at them by the likes of  religious fundamentalists.  Meanwhile the specters of a guy half in drag & half in leather - with his penis up another guys arse - waving "Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii guyths" has less than zer0 appeal. Most men who feel real love toward other men do not relate to the conventional wisdoms of the day about sexuality matters & who they are!  They love other dudes but they do not relate to the spectre of "gay" at all; -& furthermore find many "gay" stereotypes, stigmas & fetishes to be completely contrary to their moral center.

 We know the feelings - hence this website!

Respect Issues:

Part of the g0y paradigm places heavy emphasis on RESPECT. First, I'll give you an example of a widespread symptom of DISrespect: You're with some male friends on the road and you drive by an attractive woman.  Heads turn, jaws drop and a comment is made; "I'd like to *FUKK* her!". See the symptom of *DIS*respect?
I'll turn it on it's ear to make sure you understand:  You're out for a walk.  A car goes by with several guys in it and you hear one of them yell, "I'd like to *FUKK* Him!" - speaking about you.  At that moment, do you feel like a person or an object? On a scale of 1 to 10, how much respect do you feel the person who yelled the comment has for you - as a person?
G0YS NEVER see another person as a mere sexual object[.] When a g0y sees a totally studly bro - the reaction is: "I'd like to have that dude in my circle of close friends!".  G0YDAR attempts to make it so. G0YS aim for long-term relationships that place friendship as #1.  The most powerful affirmations we have are to love & be loved. When 2 people hook up to have a  naked sheet staining party and then forget each others names because no attempt is made to continue the friendship: What the hell is that about?
G0YS never disconnect their heart from their penis.  You'll notice that the heart beats hardest just after the orgasm; - & keeps on beating until you're dead!  So it should be with your friendships! Omnia Vincit Amor.
People who see others as objects for mere sexual gratification are the same ones who make the porn industry a success. Fukk'n sociopaths...  And they're everywhere!

Making Love Man2Man:

When giving details on this subject from the g0y perspective, - it is very common to hear from men who have had the experience & never been able to articulate their feelings [for the mere reason that the current paradigms on sexuality lacked the terminology or even a model held up as an ideal]. Once they see 'g0y' described - there comes a moment of clarity where their sexuality suddenly makes complete sense for the first time; -& in addition to embracing the concept of g0y - there is a simultaneous & complete rejection of the ill-fitting (unisex, ambiguous, anything-goes) gay-male-paradigm.   

Broke-Back Mountain almost got it right.  Where it seriously dropped the ball & became a "gay agenda film" instead of a story about buddy-love - was during the scenes that hinted of the way sexual interactions between the two guys occurred. From the perspective of a guy who has 'broken other guys in' regarding their first experience to climax with another guy -- I can tell you that Analsex is as close to their thinking as broccoli is to a Great White Shark's.  The BBM script was written by a woman; -- & what did she know about M2M other than what is in gay pubs? After all -- those things claim to be the 'word' on M2M.  G0YS know they represent a minority of loud perverts; -- Meanwhile +50% of the male population shrinks back & thinks "Man, I hope nobody ever thinks that vulgar sh1t about me!".  BrokeBack - as written was like fine juice with a solid hint of snake-sh1t in it!

If the first love scene had been done right - it would have been like this:
Once the 2 guys were in close quarters & bedding down, one would have gained the courage to start slow-rubb'n on the other - probably back, neck & shoulder area.  Smalltalk about "hitting the spot with the massage", friendship & "where it feels good" would gradually fill the silence as 2 things occurred: The heart rate of each guy would go into his aerobic zone & the skin of each would begin to flush; - While externally the demeanor of each would stay even-keeled (but maybe just a little bit nervous from the internal sexual tension).  As each guy grew more comfortable, - clothing would gradually come off in the name of "the massage" or being "too warm", etc.  It wouldn't be a frenzied thrashing to undress. That would be too obvious & frontal.  Slow gentle contact with gradual disrobing could easily take around half an hour!  The event proceeds respectfully on equal footing.  As clothing comes off & more skin is accessible -- sexual tension continues to climb & conversation becomes less frequent. 
Each shifts his attention to the physique of his buddy & each uses their closeness to slow-caress & admire musculature, shape, & the feel of more skin; - while observing physiological responses:  [Increased breathing.  Pounding heart. Perspiration. Goose pimples & Erect penis].  All those traits that are considered secondary male sex characteristics: Solid jaw, razor stubble Adam's-apple -& the like are the focus & enjoyment of each guy during his encounter.  As skin calls to skin, the two gently move close together in an embrace pec2pec, penis2penis. Legs intertwine & each guy can feel the physical responses of his buddy's maleness from his breathing to the little movements each penis makes beside the other as they move closer to ejaculatory inevitably. Thousands of body hairs gently lock & unlock - moving across short tracks of skin before meeting other hairs & pausing once again.  Hands & arms slow caress as faces gently rub, - & each guy softly vocalizes in response to his level of stimulation.  Naked legs & bare feet slowly seduce each other; - each guy feeding off the signals his buddy is sending - responding in kind.  Climax occurs nearly at the same time - as the responses from each guy's genitals are felt by the other & used to keep each into sync.  As a guy's prostate loads with jizz,- his intense response tells his buddy that he is going to cumm, - & the increased pressure & movement in the groin area coupled with all the muscle contractions inherent just prior to a male orgasm cues the same.  Both men embrace tighter as their mating penises rhythmically vomit out the contents of their balls into a warm pool of man-sauce between them; And each guy mentally imprints how good his buddy helped him to feel & how tight their friendship/love really is.  Going to sleep gently cuddled up & draped across each other is usually the anticlimax; -With round-2 happening in the early morning just prior to getting up. 
THAT'S the scenario that should have been in BrokeBack - stretched out over 15-30 minutes of total film time; -Because - generally - that's the way it actually happens. Nowhere does a proctologic exam with the 'erect pelvic-digit' occur (except where guys have bought into the 'gay-porn' paradigm & spent some time being indoctrinated & talked out of their natural instincts)!

Well, <duh>!

Having written all that - a large percentage of men reading this will relate completely. Some, in the "gay-male" community will have their epiphany - realizing for the first time why they never "fit in". See, based on polling - about 10%-20% of the gay-male community does N0T engage in anal-fetish.  Many of those also relate to g0y & are now reaching the conclusion that the only reason they have been part of the gay community is because there was no alternative label, - nobody else to better identify with.  Well, now they know...

Sholly Huck'n Fit!

You guys nailed it! My 1st C2C experience with a guy (Tom) was when I was a teen & a member of the swim team - during early summer break. We were using his family's camp near a lake & decided to share the bed in his bedroom rather than mess up the other beds in the cabin.  We ended up doing a late night swim & it was kinda cold in the area at night because of the low altitude. 
Well, we slid into bed & he was still cold to the touch & I was warm.  He stuck his cold foot on my leg & commented how warm I was already; -- & I took the opportunity to ask "if he was still cold" while wrapping my arms around his frigid upper body & sliding him closer to me (I was giving off heat like a campfire or something).  Well, the guy really was cold & shaking a little, -so when he felt all that warmth pulling him closer, -he went with it & in seconds he had his arms around me with his cold hands on my back & his cold legs wrapped around mine.  I rolled up so that he was literally on top of me, pec2pec -balls2balls -as I slowly rubbed my warm hands over his frigid back.  We were each wearing a towel wrap around our waists -secured with a strip of velcro. And then he said something like. "Man, even my nuts are freezing..."
I felt like there was something about the way he said it that was more than just a comment & something in my head told me that I might never get this chance again - so I told him to "lift up for a sec" as I slid my hands to his hips. He lifted his pelvis & I tugged each towel wrap loose & pulled them off us -leaving them on the far edges of the bed.  Tom lowered himself back down & his cock 'n balls rested on mine (& yes -they were cold).  I reached over & turned the light off & told him that he'd probably warm up soon & try to relax.  Well, it didn't take him long to warm up. Pretty soon his pulse was racing hard & his breathing was ramped up a notch as his stiffening dick grew & his warmed balls relaxed away from his body & rested more heavily on top of mine.  Neither of us said a word & just slowly -ever so slowly snuggled -enjoying all the skin to skin contact.  Tom was in shape & the muscles beneath his skin were easy to feel as I rubbed him from neck over his back to bare arse.  He was massively hard -but I noticed that slow strokes on his lower back & arse were causing his monster cock to momentarily harden even more & making his abs slightly tighten as well as the globes of his muscular arse.  It felt like I had a river of jizz stopped up in my dick -ever so close to breaching containment, -but the best part of the experience was Tom's reactions.
See, it wasn't like we hooked up to get-off.  What has happening to him was slowing getting him off & instead of trying to make it happen -- he was captive to it & it was such a turn on -that he couldn't control what his responses were.  And it was feeling him - slowly losing control that I found to be the biggest turn on of all. A quiet but frantic groan with a tightening of his hug, was accompanied with both arse cheeks turning to steel as he pressed the base of his balls hard into mine, & his frantic dick vomited out the 1st of a string of ejaculations that he expelled with such urgency that it felt like he wanted to crawl out of his skin.  Feeling it happen to him made me cum like a racehorse along side.  And then -feeling the intensity let up so that he was able to bask in the relief -even while intermittent contractions made his dick occasionally dry-heave; --Again -it was the focus of the experience.  The best part of getting the other guy off was the shared empathy of the act.  His experience mattered the most -& in coaxing an orgasm out of him - I was satiated too.
And that's my point. It's always been that way with a buddy. Empathy made the act totally rock & empathy afterwards reinforced the level of respect & compassion he felt radiate from me.  It was always a "guy thing", -NEVER a "gAy thing". There was never a hint of gender-phukk or that what we had as friends resembled in the least bit the relationship with women.  Masculinity was never treated as if any type of compromise had been made -because none had. Nobody had been "Bitched". And the innate aversion to arse-phukk'ing was central to this atmosphere of friendship, respect & intimate masculinity.  The combination was friendship mixed with a love of the masculine w. intense respect for the manhood of the man, - while never ever confounding M2M intimacy with anything resembling (or even hinting at) using a guy in proxy of a woman!  It's that extreme level of respect for masculinity that frames the M2M relationships I've had where testosterone turned tender. The "gay" community simply doesn't understand how repulsive "it" has become to lots of regular guys -whether ambisexual or 100% into men. Like the g0ys say: "Men don't bitch men!", & that sentiment is beyond obvious!

Inevitably there will be some people who shake their heads & insist that "g0ys are simply gAys in denial".  I like to line those voices up with the ones who insist that: "g0ys aren't really 'gAy' because we've never done the butt-nasty". Doing so is a little bit like putting a humidifier and a dehumidifier into the same room (let 'em fight it out).  Of course - you could always read our mail!

Hypothesis: Some men who are strongly "anti same-sex affection" are that way because they're afraid that a relationship with another guy will result in them being perceived/treated in the same manner that they perceive/treat women.  They simply can't adjust their thinking to accept that sexuality & friendship can be (& should be) combined. And because they mentally connect sexuality with disrespect, - they perceive an intimate relationship with another guy as necessitating imbalance & disrespect (a lie exactly like much of the gay-male community promotes with top/bottom - dom/sub pigeonhole schemes of imbalance).