Ground ZER0 in the "UNgay" Paradigm Shift!

+60% of all men experience some SameSex attractions. You know that +60% is NOT a "minority", -right?
G0YS is testosterone driven (unlike so many 'gaycentric' groups). Because we 'have a pair', we speak from the perspective of men who don't tolerate the lawless rantings of fools. Our philosophy is simple: "Love works no ill.", & "No victim; -No crime". If you can't wrap your brain around those principles, -then you're in the wrong place!

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What G0YS embrace is masculinity in it's purest forms.  Many G0YS are GAY-identified, or (usually)-amBIsexual men (who might wear those labels IF they were not aware of the G0Y movement).  Many G0YS are STRAIGHT identified (involved in marriage or exclusive relationships with women) also - but have these deep feelings for masculine affection nonetheless (whether ever acted upon or not).  Many of these men have had 1 or more sexual encounters with other men (not anal) & lack the language to describe those feelings & relationships.  The term "gay" simply encloses too large a group & offensive associated stereotypes.  G0YS place friendships at the top of their proverbial "list".  Some of those friendships deepen to a level that is so intimate & personal that sexuality often becomes an element; -- & strong, invisible cords of love, respect & extreme-discretion cover what is an intensely personal thing.  The reputation of the flamboyance, promiscuity, filth & bizarre cross-culture of the term "gay" - is seen as an affront to g0y relationships. G0YS are not homo-phobic (as we readily admit that we are men who love masculinity).  Perhaps we're "PHREAK-O-PHOBIC".  We detest acts that degrade & disrespect masculinity; - & thereby diminish the man.  This is why we have adopted the term "G0Y" as opposed to "GAY" - & we offer no apology for our discretion in doing so. Also realizing that "GAY" is a slang, nebulous term (not a precisely defined word); -G0YS have chosen to form a separate group where "who we are" is tightly defined with an unmistakable term. Even if some people consider "G0YS" to be a subset of "GAY"; -We represent less than 5% of the "Gay Male" community -- while encompassing a much larger number of men who happen to have Same Gender Attractions (& may or may not have attractions for the other).  Using Kinsey's numbers to clarify: Gay's represent K-6's while G0YS encompass K-[1-6] men within behavioral constraints.  Because G0YS technically represent a much larger number of men than "gay"; -- it is actually inaccurate to consider us a subset of gay-male culture.

It's about the Connection

Out of the research I've done on the Internet about everything "gay" - It's been my observation & experience that being "g0y" is about the deep connection between a couple of men. That connection begins as a friendship that gradually deepens to the point where defenses come down & inhibitions drop as a bond of powerful affection grows - often beside an appreciation of each guy's masculine traits & physique.

And here's the astonishingly boring fact about what g0y relationships look like: On the surface - people usually only see a strong friendship.
Often - how deep that friendship goes - is invisible.  Like a couple of trees growing side by side - you can't tell how deep the roots go or how entangled they are.  People run across g0ys all the time and don't recognize it because g0ys aren't into advertising who they get naked with.  Remember this point: In the original vernacular, -the terms "Best Friends" implied a connection not seen nor realized by casual observations. As one g0y explained: "I gave a kidney to my g0y-buddy.  It was one of the easiest decisions I've ever made. I would have rather died myself in the accident that injured him - rather than to have lost a best-friend whom I loved from balls to brows. The expenses, pain, hospitalization & recovery didn't compare at all when contrasted to the relationship I was getting to keep in return."        

Love is a complex, wonderful language that expresses itself in many ways. Sharing property - such as living space, money or vehicles with another person makes a powerful statement. Sharing laughter, deep conversation & personal issues - likewise is often a strong step toward intimacy. Between a couple of men, reaching a point of trust where sharing touch, nakedness & mutual climax is the ultimate bond of intimacy between a couple of buds.

In my experience, there is a place in the heart of most men where they want affirmation from other strong, masculine men that affirms them as men & does not threaten their masculine core. Is this not exactly what sons want from their fathers on a basic emotional level? Likewise, guys shun 'sissy-bois' because sissies do not affirm a joint sense of masculinity. Aggressive boys fight & aggressive bois phuck - - all done for masculine affirmation. But, that affirmation is one of outward roughness & shunning of external perceptions of weakness.

And what is the emotional reaction when one tough guy makes it clear that he values the other guy as much - even more than himself? How does the man feel who realizes that his friend will not raise a hand against him in conflict because his friend values him more as a person than his right to 'exact vengeance'?

I think we're beginning to uncover the difference in the feelings between the depths of masculinity vs. the petty vindictiveness of effeminate thoughts, acts & lifestyles of the cowardly. Being g0y is about the deep connection. Being g0y is about loving the wholeness of the other guy so much that the barrier to touch, closeness & emotional intimacy dissolve.

It is a deeply intimate & private thing - never to be lauded or flaunted. Being g0y is a mindset that says (often nonverbally) "Although I am a guy with an arsenal of assault weaponry as close as my fists, -- I value you so much that I want to make you feel good - & feel accepted by me - a peer." It says, "As a guy, being naked makes me vulnerable - but I trust you to be so with you.". It says, "As a guy, I know that being touched like this has great meaning & feels very good when done in proper context & with total respect; - & because I have such feelings toward you - I enjoy touching you in this way because I accept you totally & want to make you feel very good when near me." It says, "I accept you without reservation - from your embrace - to your hardened penis that is expressing your mutual feelings as it frantically disgorges the evidence of your reciprocated appreciation - as mine answers in kind.". It says, "Relax into my hug & into the afterglow's peace - with no anxiety, or fear - because you are loved & accepted as the virile guy you are; - And I affirm you because I am likewise, such a guy." It says: "I will never show other's your weaknesses or do anything that puts you in the light of compromise. I value the secret depths of our friendship so much that only with mutual consent would I ever disclose them."

Because this is the heart of being g0y - it is why the "gAy" community is virtually unaware of our presence & society does not comprehend our number. G0Y is about the "connection". It is about the sacred trust of love between guys who show their soft-undersides to each other in a paradigm of "being tough".

This is what men want & why so many who are in this group have come here. This is the focus of what so many guys write to me about. This is what is missing from the visage of the "gAy male community" as it thrusts it's arse into everyone's face.

We are the g0ys. The distinction is self-evident & if you knew who was among our numbers ... you'd be astonished!

When the term "GAY" was coined, --it originally meant "Same Gender Attracted".  G0YS have no problem with THAT simple definition. However, -as time passed, the term "GAY" became connected with cross-gender behaviors (which is why "intersexed" & "transgender" ride in the gay-pride passenger seats) & perilous acts such as AnalSex. In many places, the term "GAY-SEX" has come to equate "ANAL-SEX". G0YS completely reject that notion and find the ASSociation repugnant to our innate morals.  Please keep those distinctions in mind whenever you read a G0Y commentary critical of "The GAYS".  It is  not the original use of the term, --but what it has morphed into, -that g0ys find reprehensible (& "reprehensible" is perhaps, -too soft of a descriptor).


Yes! This website is where the g0ys movement sprang from!

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G0YS - in Brief...

What's a G0Y?
Short Version
It comes up in chat rooms and conversations more & more: "That G0Y thing."  Everybody wants to comment with few seeming to actually read the website ... so, I've put this page up to TRY to explain (once again) what a g0y is:

G0YS (Spelled with a ZER0) are guys who find men physically & emotionally attractive, but (for whatever reason) are offended with the stigmas that currently define the 'gay community' in the public psyche.  G0YS recognize that the prominent facets of the "gay-male" community tend to embrace every gender-bending act, fetish & affectation; --And include those things in the general specter of the image that "gay" projects publicly.  The easiest to observe example is the commonly used acronym "GLIT" (sometimes "GLIB") meaning Gay, Lesbian, Intersexed, Transgendered (or BiSexual).  The fact that "GAY" is grouped with "Intersexed & Transgendered" is evidence to our primary point showing what the term "GAY" has morphed into.  G0YS reject those associations completely & consider it a form of gender-prejudice against men who love men(/too). 

And the fact g0ys say (/too) is also a hint that "G0YS" is NOT a "sexual orientation"!  A man can be anywhere on Kinsey's scale (except 0) and identify his attitudes as "G0Y" in nature.  In fact, -most men are generally g0y - based on statistics & studies done about male sexuality.  This is actually a gigantic point of fact that most people & publications fail to recognize.  G0YS is NOT a minority. G0YS represents the vast MAJORITY of men and describes what men actually FEEL & actually DO; -- As opposed to what most openly claim regarding an intimate context with other men. Again: G0YS is NOT a sexual orientation. It is simply a term that describes what most men feel towards others across Kinsey's 1-6 range while eliminating any notion of gender-phuck (& especially shunning all anal sex fetishes).

Anal-sex is innately shunned by g0ys - as it represents the ultimate form of sexual disrespect whether male/male or male/female.  Other distasteful stereotypes include (but are not limited to): Effeminate behavior, extreme passivity (like cowardice), & gender-phuck (I.E: drag).  G0YS don't call other men "girl", "bitch", "queen", etc.  G0Ys embrace the strong androgenizing effects of testosterone; -Bracketed in a philosophy of sound ethics summarized in the expression that: "Love works no ill toward others". 

G0YS also reject (due to well developed theology), the lax & lazy prejudices that have arisen in conservative fundamentalist circles against all same-gender sexuality.  In Christian circles, this travesty has arisen due to the extremely sloppy exegesis (& outfight fraud) of (6) verses of Scripture, w. a total failure to rightfully divide the Word.  This becomes quite apparent when the theme of the New Testament is held up as a standard, & these anti same-gender teachings are examined in light of that theme. Very briefly, Romans chapter (1) is a scathing commentary exposing temple prostitution & Anal-sex (Women w. men, & men w. men; -- N0T what is called 'homo-sex').  This is made very clear by other writings of Saul/Paul himself, & a warning from Peter about those who would misinterpret Paul's writings.  Paul writes that those who did these things received within themselves the due penalty for their perverse behavior - & that penalty was death.  Likewise, G0YS point out that Anal-Sex is the mechanism for the EXPLOSIVE SPREAD of Sexually Transmitted Diseases over the globe - many deadly.  The anus is not a sexual organ (genital) & treating it as such violates Moses' command "Not to bear false witness".  Scripture teaches that one of the very foundations of the faith involves "repentance from acts that lead to death".   G0YS believe that changing the meaning of the Romans (1) from being against anal-sex, to a focus on (& against) 'homo-sex', -simultaneously adds & deletes from the canon of Scripture; & carries the ultimate penalty for perverting the gospel.

The perversion of the text has led to the phenomena called the "Ex-Gay" ministry - which is an attempt by men to "fix" peoples sexual orientation.   Ex-gay programs are a mockery of the gospel & an accusation of the renewing power of God's Spirit.  Paul called such teachings "other gospels" & said that as far as he was concerned, the leaders of such movements were eternally condemned! Strong language! Caveat! See Galatians (ALL; & examine 3:28 carefully)

Why 'G0Y' -- spelled with a ZER0? What's up with that? Because the g0y movement was created as a departure from stereotype; -- A term was needed that had some meaning behind it, while being simple enough for people to remember; -- plus stir some curiosity. Because the movement also was designed to eviscerate abusive religion (primarily fundamentalism in it's many forms), the term needed to have foundations in Scripture as well (Because there are now "gAy affirming churches", the term needed to confront sloppy theology that supports "everything gAy" -- including Anal). How was this all accomplished? Read on...

Ancient Hebrew, (the language the Torah & rest of the Old Testament was written in), - is an amazing language. In its original written form, it has no vowels. They are inferred. If we were to adopt the same technique for English, the words:
gOy (In Hebrew, the term "goy" applies to a non-Hebrew person -- foreign national)
... would all be spelled:
G Y; & the reader would place the vowel upon speaking based on context. Well, since English is NOT Hebrew, people might not "get it". However, something else also came to light ... and that was the fact that the Apostle Paul wrote that G0D chose the "thing which is N0T" to "NULLIFY things which are". He basically explained that G0D used the power of a ZER0 to establish His new covenant by canceling out the written code that stood in opposition to us. This worked out well, because by inserting a '0' between the 'G_Y', - the "A" in "GAY" was essentially zeroed out (see ... N0 Anal) and the new term formed was 3 characters & looks like it should be pronounced "goy" (a Hebrew term that rhymes with "toy" & fits context perfectly) However, this new term is not really designed to be spoken, but rather EXPLAINED. So you see, this new term has some intellectual backing & some rich history!     

"You're 'GAY'. Get over it!" - Ms. Blah Blah

G0YS are constantly being accused of being "gays in denial".  After all, G0YS are guys who love guys/too. And for some people, -that's what they think the word "GAY" means. And early on, -it did.

However, word meanings change over time, and eventually, -society at large comes to have a different perception of a word once used in a different context.  And "GAY"? Well, it was a slang term in the very beginning. Being slang, -the definition was soft from the beginning. It still is; --And g0ys find the fluidity of the term to be part of what makes it so offensive to us.  When you say "GAY", many people relate the term to vastly different meanings - many implications being offensive to g0ys. 

So, we have defined our own term - one that many men can relate to without the confusion allowed by slang & soft definitions.  "G0Y" is our word and we have precisely defined what "G0Y" means.     

The extreme irony is that many, many men who call themselves "GAY" will insist that G0YS are NOT "GAY", anyhow. Why? G0YS absolutely reject Anal-Sex. And "GAYS"; --Are ALL about Anal-Sex. Seriously. It's not simply a stereotype. It (Anal-Sex) has become the "DEFINING GAY ACT". Ask any search engine on the Internet. Clicking the box below/right will poll G00GLE in real time.

G0YS reject Anal-Sex! It's dirty, dangerous & damn - disrespectful of masculinity. 

And, most self-professed "GAY" men insist that Anal Sex is the "DEFINING GAY ACT".  Not G0YS!

So, G0YS reject the very core of what GAY men say it is to be "GAY". 

When people say "GAY" today, -AnalSex is what comes to mind as does the showcase of "bizarre" gender-bending seen in "GAY PRIDE" parades.  "GAY" is a term with lots of baggage - now welded to it.  It doesn't simply mean what it once did.  

That assertion stands in contrast with those who insist that simply loving your own gender makes one "GAY".  

So, what is the truth? What is "Gay today"?

Let's ask G00GLE:  As of 05/27/2014

With the search terms shown, -this is a screenshot of the topmost search-engine page (image right) - which means that G00GLE's search engine identified the content of these pages to be what people wanted to see FIRST.  The search results will change slightly over time, but I suspect that the content will remain generally the same (until society grows some real balls). Click the chart to see where things are today.

Every link makes our point about anal-sex being "gay-sex" and you'll notice the #2 link is a Wikipedia article on ANAL SEX (but wait: I searched for "GAY SEX" - not "ANAL-SEX"). Notice how society so easily interchanges the terms!  And G0YS, by our very nature, -find that implication morally reprehensible. Why should G0YS be expected to be connected to an act that we find detestable; --An act that happens to be the very PRIMARY act ASSociated with the term "GAY"!

I want to draw your attention to the 3rd link - which is actually an OK article about accepting your own same-gender attractions. It's not about "sex" at all, but about attraction.  However, the author then goes on to explain how terms such as "same sex attraction" are actually divisive terms and that "gay" should be the standard.  G0YS disagree. See, the author doesn't question for a moment the CONTEXT of the term "GAY" in light of the massive public perception of the IMPLIED meaning/s - clearly shown in the example.  And it is this exact form of shortsightedness that g0ys specifically point out regarding the loose-use of the term "GAY".  

One voice may say that mere same-gender affection is what "GAY" is. Meanwhile, the vast majority of  MILLIONS imply that "GAY" actually means: "Gender Bending & Anal Sex".  

So, what can men do if they have same gender attractions and do not relate whatsoever to the overwhelmingly loud spectre of "GAY" stereotypes?  What can men do - who actually find such widely promoted "GAY" stereotypes to be extremely personally & morally offensive?  

You are looking at the answer!
We are the G0YS:

 ZERO Gender-Bending
ZERO Anal-Actions

Words are Important - Beyond Words
A Tale of Two Pet Shops

In a town, very close to you, there are (2) pet stores.  The more flamboyant of the (2) is owned by Percy & Perry Gay.  They sell reptiles. (2) of the reptiles are pictured above.  Each is a snake - that is red. And that is all the information the store owners care to know about these snakes.  They have many -- all in the same cage labeled "Red Snakes - make swell pets". 
One cage. Lots of snakes. Percy & Perry don't discriminate. (Made that rhyme myself)

Across the street is the other pet store. It's owned by Mr. G0Y (probably a foreigner) and his silent business partner.  Mr. G0Y DOES discriminate regarding the very reptiles that the Gays simply call "Red Snakes".  Look carefully at the above close-up of the (2) snakes.  As it turns out, -the snake with the yellow in it's tongue & blue in it's eyes is a poisonous species! The other is not.  Do you suppose that the poisonous species makes a "swell pet"?
So then: The fact that each is a "red snake" is not the most important distinction, -is it?  Being the case, - Mr. G0Y has (2) containers, -each with a slightly different name for the different species; -And with a loud warning sign on the cage housing the "Venomous-Reds". Oddly, to explain this distinction to their weary customers, -the "Gays" accuse Mr. G0Y of being "discriminatory" and segregating snakes by eye & tongue color. "How politically incorrect & back-woods to be so petty!", - the Gays exclaim about Mr. G0Y!  The Gays accuse Mr. G0Y because they do not want to change the way they do business nor admit they may be marketing death to the unknowing.  Of course, -this vital lack of moral discrimination completely confounds Mr. G0Y. He believes that the Gays are completely self-centered, narcissistic, petty sociopaths, -perhaps insane (I'll let you be the judge).

So: Not all snakes that are red are the same. The subtle differences are the differences between life & death!
Likewise: Not all men who love men - are "GAY". The subtle differences are the differences between life & death!
Discrimination can be a very positive thing when done for important reasons. Details matter. Go G0Y!