Head's Up - Dad!

Most men who have grave fears about the sexuality of the children have received those fears in the form of false evidence appearing real. There are (2) groups responsible for this "false evidence". 

  1. Conservative fundamentalist-controlled 'reicht'.
  2. Liberal, gay-anti-ethos left.

To be delivered from fear into the peace that is the truth, - is to realize that both groups are vile liars, and that neither you nor your children need not be the object of their messages.  Both groups are preoccupied with STD's -like AIDS & their root messages connect AIDS (etc.) with sexuality.  Once you realize the TRUTH - that certain behaviors are key links to certain STD's -- then seeing thru the lies becomes much easier.  Generally, g0ys don't get Sexually Transmitted Diseases.  Hello.  That fact is a massive wake-up-call.  G0YS don't get STD's because we avoid the specific behaviors that are most likely to spread them, -& we avoid people who promote those 'behaviors' as being acceptable 'alternative lifestyles" (because they're N0T)!.  

As a parent, you can't control your kids sexuality. You can, however ingrain a sense of morality & ethics that will reject unnatural behaviors & fetishes when offered them.  Those inclinations will greatly affect who your kid chooses as his peer group -& this is highly important.  

"Bring up a child in the way he should go & when he is older, he will not depart from it." - Solomon 

What's important to realize is the same thing as said in the "Serenity Prayer".  "To accept the things I can't change.".  You can't change your child's sexuality.  It's determined by a complex pattern of neurons shaped by the winds of nature.  You can't change it any more than you can change your kid's hair color with anything more than superficial dye. It is this point that Conservative fundamentalists commit a gross fraud upon --claiming to "change sexuality" when all they do is "make a red-head look like a brunette", -or force the lefty to use his right hand.  Years of research prove that this sort of "change" isn't any more possible than turning a leopard into a cougar by simply painting it.  

But, pushing back the lies of the extreme left & reicht; -- just because Jr. like guys (/too), it doesn't follow that he'll behave in ways stereotyped.  The fact is that most guys who like guys have no external behavioral manifestations that would hint of it.  Those actions that are "camp" (stereotype) or dangerous (reckless sexual behaviors) are generally learned by bad associations with ignorant or unethical peers.  This is why it's important that you not let the lies & threats of either group (left or reicht), -come between you & your kid.  

Because what it really comes down to can be summarized by the following visualizations (with the help of your memory).  Look back at your teenage years -- when you were out with friends - probably driving around or socializing.  Consider your peer group & then ask: What part of my peer group would I want my kid to take on the attributes of?  Because I don't know everything about everyone's peers -- I'll use my own because I had a good peer group.  Mostly athletes & Kenny-Chesney types, -we weren't 'wild', dangerous or what most people would consider reckless.  And me, -I was the guy who watched the big picture & never let down my guard regarding the safety of my friends.  

So think: Who do you want for your kid's peers? 

  1. Self-centered idiots who drink 'n-drive -having  their 'metaphysical passengers at their mindless mercy' -& are constantly in friction with authority; 
  2. -or thoughtful guys who generally temper "fun" by doing the responsible thing - overall?

When your kid discovers his own sexuality has an M2M component: who'd you rather see him hanging out with? Guys who get their sexucation from the G00GLE'N "gay sex", -0r guys who are g0ys?  See, I've been with a number of guys in my lifetime ,--but never saw any guy as a 'score'. Friendship & the responsibility of it was always at the core of my relationship-needs.  Loving a buddy always involved sharing of myself & resources way beyond what went on in private.  It felt good to have the phone ring & be able to help. And, yes - I've also coaxed a number of them through some intense orgasms as well as a being a "real- buddy" to talk about anything with.  I've stood as the "Best man" at a number of my bud's weddings. I've helped provide for buddy's education.  A friend accidentally smashed up my car & I took it in stride.  I've lent a number money & let is slide when I didn't get paid back.  I've driven long distances on several occasions to pick up buddies in the hospital & then given them a place to stay while they recovered.  I've never treated any guy like a bitch & I've never given or gotten an STD from any guy I was tender on.  It is my belief that these friendships constitute the fullness of what being a guy can consist of without anyone surrendering a hint of his masculine ethos in feigning to be a faux-female. 

You can take steps to help your kid build the right peer groups. It probably doesn't start with "public education" (hint -hint).  I went to a private (secular) school --but I had a very high consciousness of "God's presence" - due mostly to good neighbors who "walked the walk."   Ironically, because of the mantra that gay-sex=analsex, --I presumed that "God opposing gaysex" meant God opposing anal (which made perfect sense to me & didn't cause a check in my conscience -because I myself considered analsex a degrading & dirty act; -an opinion I formed completely independently & instinctually).  I later learned that most "Christian churches" expanded "gay-sex as=any same-sex contact" which seemed absurd considering what I knew what going on between guys in school & church!  Most of the guys I shared a buddy-cuddle with were church-goers, too!  And they were solid, regular guys who wanted to do the right thing & generally only needed a constant source of encouragement to do it.  I was the only voice that I am aware of who wasn't telling them that they "couldn't eat from any of the trees in the garden".  I simply recognized a very real masculine need & provide a supportive, accepting atmosphere for guys to get genital relief in the context of intense friendship-building. And it was the peak of male bonding; -of that I have no doubt.

Tangent: 

Generally -- from 15 years old & up -- guys who don't shoot their manloads regularly began to act like junkies needing a fix; & this is why all those teenage guy problems begin at those ages; -- Especially in "westernized cultures". At a time in development when young-men are normally & naturally bonding with each other sexually (in honest, civil cultures), -westernized cultures stigmatize M2M intimacy by associating the behavior to genderphuck & the tort of analsex; --inferring a lie that M2M leads - ergo - to behavior that is grossly immoral (anal).  Guys who are unable to sort the lies from the mixed messages often end up in the "Gay Support Group" where the agenda is self-acceptance no matter what the behavior. And simultaneously -a buffet of "gay sex behaviors" is offered. The guys who drink this sex-cult kool-aid rapidly extinguish their natural aversions to acts (I.E: playing in sh1t) & believing themselves to be enlightened -take on the role of fools.  Such bad influences & brainwashing peer interactions can be devastating to the guy who (/also) likes guys.  Peers who are from the (God rejected me so I reject God ) camp --  soon become the voices for a crash course in every form of selfish sexual ambition & act you can imagine (& many you don't want to).  This is why it's so important for fathers to realize that if the decision comes between your "church" & your family; -Then kick the Church to the curb (because God would never request that a man abandon his family -- & the Scriptures call the abandonment of family members a rejection of faith itself):

"But if anyone does not provide for his own and especially his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." - I Tim 5:8

It is a well-settled matter in statistics regarding homeless teens that a primary contributing factor is sexuality: "My mother/father found out I wasn't straight so they threw me out.". Let me show you how Lucifer turns Christianity into a mockery & the followers of sects into the opposite of what the Faith itself actually teaches.
Here's the progression:

  1. Same-sex attraction is preached against as a sin (Instead of the actual specific sin of analsex). Doing so simultaneously adds & takes away from the "Logos Biblion" & according to the text:
    • Removes grace from the one teaching the lie (UNsaves him) [See Mt 7:2, Rom 2:1]
    • Brings about the plagues (curse) described throughout Revelation. [See Rev 22:18-19]
  2. Once the listeners have been adequately duped into believing that God cares about gender-mix (in contradiction to Gal 3:28), the next "lesson" taught is a principle Paul laid down to Corinth -to excommunicate people who called themselves Christian but lived immorally [See 1Cor 5:11, 13].
  3. What now occurs is that the innocent have been falsely labeled as "sinners" (simply because of their "feelings" of affection) & end up being put-out on the street (Excommunicated -with Paul cited out of context as the faux "authority" to do so).
  4. As a result, non-affiliated people whom the Scripture notes have the law of God on their consciences [Rom 2:15] -see this great injustice for what it is, & then blaspheme the 'religion' of those who practice such immorality as to put family onto the street over mere matters of affection! [See  Rom 2:24]  Those put out -inevitably share with others WHY. And once again, people who know nothing about Yeshua, -get the absolutely worst impression of what it is to be a "Christian" -- when ironically, the Scriptures themselves condemn the very message of prejudice being preached in so many places against people who happen to love (eros) their own gender. 

    "How horrible it will be to you: Self-appointed sect leaders! Hypocrites! Because you obstruct the way to Heaven to the people;  You will not enter, - for you divert those on the right path away from entering!" - Mt 23:14 GVT

You have (1) family. Hello.  Scripturally, it is the role of the parents -fathers particularly, -to set the correct guidelines for his family. My suggestion is that you consider very carefully how you speak of other people & what sort of authority you give your "spiritual advisors".  Because to get it wrong - on this matter & those like it - will exact a price you're not going to want to pay, (-but nevertheless, -you will pay it)!

"For [if] we [are] deliberately sinning after the receiving [of] the full [or, true] knowledge of the truth [there] no longer remains a sacrifice concerning sins but only a terrifying expectation of judgment and fiery indignation being about to be devouring the adversaries." - Heb 10:26-27

As one writer explained: "At a very early age, I found out that my old man 'hated fags", and to him -a 'fag" was anyone who had affection for his own gender. When I hit puberty, I discovered (& kept it a secret) that I was part of that 'hated group'. Although my perspective was clearly 'g0y' (we had no such term at the time), -I understood that no matter how much approval I was shown from keeping my grades up and staying out of trouble -- that the fact was: Winning the TRUE approval of my father was out of the question -because I was part of the "hated group". Even though he didn't know it applied to me; --I did. See, he'd indirectly set the terms of acceptance, & I knew (even if he didn't) that I was disqualified for genuine approval.  However, what I also knew was that to be honest in my own family would probably cause untold problems for anyone still in the vicinity of my father's prejudice & guilt-projections. So, I shut up the truth & eventually moved several states away to live my life -privately.  Let me be clear: "We didn't appear to be on 'bad-terms'. However, the 'condition' of our relationship was a complete illusion to him because he didn't know me; --because he'd made it clear (indirectly when I was 5) that he didn't want to have anything to do with guys who loved guys. See, in reality - he never cared about ME. What he 'cared about' was an image I projected to keep the peace by keeping the truth to myself.  I was never disrespectful, but when he finally died of a heart condition - I could have cared less (I did not attend the funeral). My actual words (muttered to myself) were; "Good fukk'n riddance!". 
Now, my advice to anyone who would like to become a good-example of a 'Bad-Example': Leave your kid with an absolute verdict that rejects people who have 'certain feelings'. Make the terms of disclosure so chilling that risking the utterance of the truth is too perilous (-as opposed to living a lie for decades).  You will find that whatever 'parental-bonds' you thought existed - indeed did N0T; --and the only sentiment that accompanies your 'memory' will be contempt - as you slide cluelessly hated - into the grave."    

If you're a guy who is dealing with the theological aspects of same-gender-relationships -- then you need to take a serious look at the down-to-earth theological essays on this site.  If you're a guy not dealing with that -- then what on earth is your big concern; -- That Jr. doesn't take on the mannerisms of Richard Simmons?  Who can say? What we're trying to do is provide a support mechanism so that your kid experiences a sense of genuine male-empathy & ultimately won't succumb to sociopathic suggestions to give/take "it" up the arse (like Ted Haggard or Lucas Ridgeston). OK?

If you're a man concerned that you have set a divisive tone in your own household, --there are some strategies you can take to set the right tone.  The g0ys men's movement is a great place to start. When the time is right, you can interject into conversation that you found out that there is a group set apart from the "gay thing" that you can respect.  And then you mention g0ys - spelled with a zer0.  

One I like particularly goes like this: "Ya know, -Although I think that Arse-fukkers are just about morally-bankrupt; --A guy I've known for years told me there is a group of guys into guys -  that sets itself apart from all that sh1t. They're called g0ys -spelled with a zer0. I can respect a group that doesn't disrespect men or advocate that anyone should tolerate dirty, degrading, sh1tplay as a so-called lifestyle."

Good follow up lines are: "In a series of polls, it turned out than about 70% of the population feels the same way.", -or: "It turns out that lots of GAYS don't like G0YS, --but about 70% of the population polled think the g0ys-thing is a whole lot more respectable.", -or: "Guys into that g0ys-thing claim that every guy was a g0y in Greece & Sparta culture about 3000 years ago. Heck - ASSFukk'n was even illegal!"

Once those who know you come to realize that you're g0y-friendly, while gAy-intolerant, -it will provide the framing for conversation & subtly-directed self-discovery.  The g0y-men's movement takes away the behavioral monopoly the "gAy male community" claims on M2M intimacy.  Suddenly, it's a noble thing to love your buddy from feet to follicles, -while seeing the arse-fukk in proper context: as an act of disrespect, violence or dirty-disregard for health & welfare.  Since statistically, +50% of men have had at least 1-g0y experience; -placing the term in your language of respect may deepen the friendships with guys you already know who have had g0y experiences.  Being respected for who you really are means a tremendous amount to most people.

If the g0y in your house -happens to be a family member, --your casual acceptance will create a bridge in the relationship that will help steer that person in a direction that is fulfilling & part of a noble history, -as opposed to the morally-bankrupt counterfeit called "gay" that implies that the entire world of men who love men is composed of ass-fukkers.  It's on par with asserting that all men who love women are rapists. Ass-fukkers scoff at comparisons like that, -but it's because their moral sense is so clouded that they don't recognize the ass-fukk for the capital-offense tort against humanity that it is.  It takes a few more IQ points to understand why the act is on the moral-par as rape (often as a component of rape).  Yet in the spreading of disease, the act has no equal: +5000% more pathogenic than all other sexual acts combined!

Rightfully dividing truth is one of man's highest callings & greatest missions.  The g0ys movement is among the very 1st to separate what is demonstrably noble -from the vulgar, & establish affection for the former -while holding in contempt for ignoble, perilous & selfish acts that nonverbally accuse the worth of the men.        

You cannot determine the affections of another. You can, however, encourage those affections be used in a noble way by setting apart  the right way from the debased (and debased is determined by the results that impact the real world -- not some whacko message that tries to debase what is inherently harmless [I.E: eating meat on Fridays, etc.]).

Expressing respect for the g0ys paradigm leaves open an avenue for dialog; -- where as the person who rejects the notion of noble same gender affection, -has essentially cut himself off from anyone who may experience it (& those who experience it are about +63% of the population).

G0YS assert that it is possible to be naked without shame with other men; -without being compelled to be baptized into the "gAy cesspool".