read a few posts and I am so relieved to know this is NOT a "gay" site.
Yes, WAY too much pressure and left feeling "labeled or trapped" by that
term. This moment has taken such a weight off my shoulders. I had a
buddy once many, many years ago and it was truly the best male-bonding
type of friendship that I felt could never be duplicated. Now I find,
joyfully, that I could have been wrong.
Plain and Simple: The g0y
philosophy goes far beyond simply opposing Anal 'sex'. The aspects of
Brotherhood, Camaraderie, Trust and Respect, Spiritual and Moral Strength, are
all aspects that share an equal, if not greater prominence aside from the
issues of Responsible Health and Sexual Practices.
never heard of this group before. I grew up in a very conservative
Christian home, but feel attracted to guys. I don't fit in to the
gay scene and so this post answers a ton of questions.
I enjoy men who are masculine
and drama free...men who you have to wonder what their preference is...and
what a nice surprise finding out.
am a doctor at UC** and recently came to terms with the fact that I am
attracted to men but not in the same way most gays are. Joining this group
will help me.
are a True Christian! (a term I do not use lightly) God bless you! Seldom is
a prophet recognized in his own time ..I recognize you ... you have found
the truth in "The Word"
The g0y website brought me back
to God... It was a building block that brought me out of the World, in the
biblical sense that is...
the g0ys.org page totally made years of feelings make sense. I want to be able
to discuss with others and network/meet similarly situated guys.
Thanks for the link to the
FROT site. Thought I was a complete anomaly - not wanting anal sex. Thank you
am a 53 yo married man who thought he was crazy--I want closeness/intimacy
with another guy but do not have any interest in gay sex (anal).
looking to meet more guys like me: masculine, hard working, outdoors oriented
who are looking more for a gym partner and a hunting buddy than a hookup.
have never been part of the "scene" I'm just a dude that's into
Nathan T, in Chicago, IL. I'm also a collage student. As a g0y, The reason why
I'll join this group is to be free, to be my true self and never have to live
a lie again.
incredible appreciation for my fellow man and enjoy very close bonding and
more with him. I do not "get" the gay thing. I've a military
background and very private about what I like.
just a Christian guy who loves another Christian guy and knows that there can
be good and decent love between guys.
have always felt I was bi because that was the only label that was close to
describing how I see myself. I am, in fact, very G0Y. It's nice to know that
I'm not alone in my attitudes.
a long time, I thought I was gay. But I've come to realize that I'm actually
g0y. I would like to meet others like me, so I'm identifying and joining g0y
am a masculine man that detests and is completely repulsed by the sign of
anything effeminate or gender-portraying oppositional chosen behaviors.
identify with the g0y philosophy rather than the weirdness of gay men, and I
live in the Las Vegas area.
was directed to this group from another site, and I have to say I think it's
freaking fantastic that there are guys out there who feel the same way!
have always felt MM affection should be something easy, profound and
delightful w/out being faggy, anal, or in exclusion to healthy MF
a g0y teen guy who is looking for other g0ys to talk to about everything. I'm
really interested in psychology and politics. I've read all the content on
g0ys.org and know what g0y means.
have been looking for this for 25 years. I knew I was not a QUEER! I am
married + have had a best buddy all that time. Bless u.
have never identified with being "Gay". I despise anal interaction
and crave a real respectful connection with anyone I'd want to get intimate
I just stumbled across this
group today and was hugely relieved when I read the description. That is me to
a tee. I think fit guys are hot and I think germs and shit are gross.
I have to say that I LOVE this
group. I had never even heard of the term "g0y" before stumbling onto this
group one night! It's amazing.
"This group describes me and my feelings." - Butch
Hi I enjoyed because I find
your site awesome! Yes I'm bisexual but has to repress those same gender
feelings because of the leftist Gay movement why I prefer to be more straight
I'm from west
Los Angeles. You
are right about this website being unique. Long overdue for honoring each
other's being. It is like honoring any wildlife animal or plant giving their
space. I do feel more relaxed now and will search for friendships.
When I read about your site I new I had to join, I feel the same way most of
you guys feel.
My name is Abb*, and I am very happy to become a new member of this group. I
teach psychology and anthropology at the University of *, Brazil.
I just learned about this
today--I've been trying to find like-minded brothers out there in "gay" groups
and I just wasn't finding it. This is an awesome site--thank you a hundred
times to its creator.
I have been very blessed also
to have found this group and have made a dear friend in KY. I am a 40 year old
happy married man with 4 children from the state of Pa. USA but have felt
attracted to the male body as well. Was not able
to find what I was looking for until I came across this group.
I've been attracted to other
guys since an early age. I've always backed away from any relationship because
I didn't want anything to do with "anal." One day at work, I walked into a guy
and almost knocked him down ... I put my arms around and hugged him and asked
if he was ok. He was fine. He did not reject the hug and seemed to enjoy it. I
know the hug felt right to me.
I am a normal guy, who has a
bud who is straight. I would like to hold him and kiss him and massage him and
love him but I have no desire to poke my dick in his ass.
Hi -- I think this is an
awesome movement -- totally what I think I might be in to.
- I'm John in ND
Sure glad I came across your
post. Like what you have to say, and have checked out the g0ys site - all
looks & sounds pretty good to me!
The first time I stumbled
across your site, i was awe-struck, as i
read further, i honestly started crying...i no longer felt alone!
I can't say I agree with
everything that the site presents, but I am one of those dudes that is
attracted to dudes, but pluggin a butthole is the furthest of my interests.
While I like a nice phat booty, the thought of sticking my thing in there
isn't appealing. It's nice to know I'm not the only one out there who sees the
degradation in that act.
I agree with everything you
said. I got married to be "cured" and after 27 years of marriage I decided the
"cure" did not take. I wish I had the information this site provides prior to
thinking the only option I had was to get married and hope the desire to have
sex with another man would go away.
I never considered myself gay
and after finding what g0y is, I thought that better described myself,
although I still throught myself more on the straight side of g0y.
Portland Metro area here. New
to G0yz group. Delighted to learn of other men who can be trusted in
understanding that your male bud is NOT to be used as female.
I thought i was gay. turns out
there is a niche of other gOys just like me.
I thought I was pretty
much the only guy I knew that had feelings like this. This is amazing and very
I am honerd to join you all. my
dream to be free was made possible by U!
All I can say is "incredible".
Thanks so much.
Wow, i really enjoyed
reading your profile and website, i'm a g0y! Never heard of that til tonight
i live in la and meet almost no goys yet i don't have anal sex. Well, take
Thanks a lot for answering
man. I put the
g0ys.org in my profile and I already got like 4
FOR THE TIP MAN. I BEEN WAITING FOR YEARS TO FIND A SITE LIKE THAT.
- BILL (a new g0y)
I really do think guys are bi
by nature. I've never had anal sex and never will. I finally read what I've
been thinking about for years. Thanks
wow.. I just read the
website... MAN.. this explains so much in my life! i wish I knew about this
when I was 20... Would have saved alot of hell living as a gay man... which..
hey m8!!!! i read ur post and
what a sigh of relief!!! i finally have a label for how i feel.. i hate
everything about what "gay"means because i do not identify with that... im a
normal str8 guy whos into being affectionate with others
thanks so much for the site
hook up bro! its kind of really awesome to know that im not fuckin queer for
just diggin aspects of other guys. i think its important to let others know
the same deal!
am glad i found they g0ys. I have sent the arguments to my old church, and
they couldn't refute it!
site for sore eyes!
This is absolutely fascinating
to me. I had no idea this movement was in existence. It makes so much sense,
and frankly gives me relief to know it. Thank you for introducing me to the
philosophy. It makes perfect sense, and it's what I've felt. I agree with all
its premises from what I can tell.
YUP, this is and was me back in
the early 70s when I came out. This is why I am still alive today. Never got
the.... need to get or fuck a guy in the ass. I LOVE to wrestle, LOVE
masculinity, snuggling and touching, being affectionate.
have been G0Y aware only about three years. That said, I have always followed
G0Y principals without knowing of the classification. Could never stomach the
gay Scene or what it stood for. It was difficult for me to come to terms with SGA, especially as it was a sackable offence in the Military (Navy) when I was
just wanted to say that I totally respect your whole group. We are so afraid
to realize that we can be attracted to other handsome, good looking guys and
want to share affection with them in ways that take the "romance"
into new realms. Why shouldn't we feel that. Everyone does. I believe that
words like "brotha," and "dude" are basically ways of
showing true affection for other good looking guys. Its the same thing as
essentially saying, "you're adorable and good looking" thanks for
your group. Im married. Have an attraction towards guys but have no desire for
anal sex etc.
- Scot L.
I just wanted to say how
awesome I think your site is and how much I appreciate you putting up a site
like this to help other g0ys like myself come to terms with what makes them
"different" from gays. I had been struggling with that issue for
many years, and upon finding this site, I've finally realized who I am.
- J Rilling
For 12 years I have been
begging God for an answer to this issue that has not gone away, and now I am
finding it. I say "finding" because I'm still learning, still
digging, still researching. But I can tell you right now that from what
I have read on g0ys.org in regards to anal sex, in the bible, in history, and
in the present today - the g0y thing is RIGHT ON!!!!
I was reading the intro page to g0ys.org I was stunned. Here is someone
putting down in words exactly what I have felt for all these years - giving
words to the feelings that I struggled to get a grip on. He described me and
immediately I felt "discovered". I am not lost anymore - I am found.
I could almost not believe that there are other men in the world who feel what
I feel. And as I continued to read the intro again and again and read over the
pages of information on the site, I could fell myself being transformed -
literally. I experienced a growth/reawakening of my masculinity, a change in
the way I view men and myself in relation to other men. Man I became whole
The 1st love
of my life was a guy I met as a teen at a Christian camp. He was jaw-droppingly handsome, friendly, a little-bit naive (& I
must have pissed testosterone). Many years
later, he's still in my prayers & periodically, I send him
birthday gifts. So glad the apologetics on this site destroy the
mantra against same-sex love that so many lax, lazy churches spew;
--While making it so clear why AnalSex is what Lev 20:13 & 18:22
specifically forbid. Love is the only "WHY", and it conquers all. -
get lots of e-mail. Here's some of the best. Might we add yours?
"It soon became very clear to me
the the author of the g0ys site had done his homework, because I couldn't
refute anything that he said Biblically." - Dan
"I read your post and took a
look at the website you listed and I can actually say for the first time that
I feel like I have a place bro. Thank you for the post...man, this is huge for
me today. I now know where I fit and that my feelings are normal and
pure...dude thank you so much. I connected with everything on the
list...the idea of a deep friendship with a guy has always been most important
to me. And also the physical display of compassion and love for one another in
a brotherly sense...man, I'm totally stoked." - TL
"I always knew I was not a straight man. But I never did fit
into the gay scene either. There just had to be another word I thought. I have
found it. You renewed my faith. Thank you."
I can barely explain just
how important the bible part was for me. Every Sunday in church I used to just
read the bible, kinda to pass the time. But the one chapter I read most
frequently was Romans 1. Each time I read it, I thought," Here it is,
right from the bible's mouth, condemning my existence!"
put it shortly, it was horrible spending about 2 years believing that. But
then I found the main g0ys website and
the theology completely did it for me.
Eternally grateful for finding the site that made it clear that I, myself, am
not the abomination; -Just the act of anal sex.
writing to thank you for your website g0ys.org. Two years ago, in my early
twenties and before, I was an evil legalistic and religious bigot suffering in
extreme self-denial of same-sex desire, but about a year ago, the self-denial
began to collapse. I sought a place in gay Christian culture, yet as blind as
I was, I still couldn't reconcile their theology with logic. I had come across
g0ys.org on multiple occasions, but I dismissed the site because it looked
like more homosexual lies. Eventually, I read through the content. I didn't
understand the theology articles, for I was blind at the time, but the idea
that I could experience physical, emotional, and sexual fulfillment together
with another guy---without anal penetration---stuck, and that piece of
knowledge led to the whole dam failing. Now,
a year later, I truly know Christ Jesus and am content and even thankful to
have same-sex desire (Kinsey 5), despite the foolishness of my church, so
thank you for spreading the truth about same-sex desire. I hope that your
message will reach many more guys who are like I was and lead to God changing
their hearts for good. What God gave you to write helped me, so I'm giving you
what God gave me to write in hopes that you might find it useful.
a big distinction - finding a group of men that love men/too, - who DON'T
Ass-Fuck, & as a result - do NOT suffer from the plagues of sexually
transmitted diseases that the 'gay-male' community oozes at a rate +4300%
higher than the general population! Imagine - guys who don't need PAP
smears, nor anal reconstruction surgery & could care less about the growing
clusterfuck of alphabet soup letter groups all generally starting with
"GL...etc."! G0YS! Men who actually enjoy being male & give the
flying-finger to the various groups of androgynous puss-pads who want to
suppress & deny the natural effects of testosterone! False religion
masquerading as "Christianity" almost destroyed me with their
corrupted Bibles. The theological
take on the g0ys.org website reframed the entire issue & totally made the
difference - delivering me from the false guilt so many sects project. When you see the movie '300' - be sure to remember
that is was 150-pairs of soldiers who lived in a culture that was
innately g0y. G0YS: The ethical, masculine high-road.
my despair during one Sabbath prayer, I wondered aloud again why I
That week, I stumbled across the G0Ys.org website and felt something
click as I devoured page after page. I found the arguments well
reasoned, the testimonials realistic and empathic, and the convincing
medical science matching what I knew about Leviticus and hygiene
laws. I realized I wasn't alone and maybe G-d wasn't as cruel as
I had first thought. I had an epiphany as sixteen years of regret
came crashing down.
This definition is definitely the missing
link!!!!! A lot has been discussed about gays, soul mates, brothers, etc etc ,
but the definition of a guy, wanting to have a close friendship with another
guy, and yet not to be stamped as gay, because that has always had some sort
of a trans-sexual tendency, is now clear!
- S Shah
I had NO IDEA men like this
even existed! It's such a profound thought, you know, that men can love men
without having to disgrace themselves, their masculinity OR their
spirituality. I gotta tell you, it's somewhat like being reborn, you know?
Hey I was just looking around
the site for other g0ys and after reading your page was wondering where you
attend worship service at, if any, if you don't mind my asking. Also can't
thank you enough for your activism on behalf of guys everywhere tired of being
labeled gay for loving other guys.
guys! Just found the g0y movement recently and was I ever relieved! I hate the
gAy lifestyle, attitudes and stereotypes and do not want to be associated with
any of that... As a masculine Christian guy I am excited that there is
something m2m that makes sense morally and spiritually and feels totally
I found out about this site
just a few months ago and it's been a God send. For the past few years, I've
had an attraction to guys in wanting to find one as a real brother I can love
on all levels. But they guys Im into are guys like me, who like their sports,
red meet, beer ect, not prancing queens. I am God fearing myself but am put
off by how people twist their beloved bibles into whatever makes them feel
better, and also by the gay community which I find gross and surface level. I
didn't know what to make of myself. Now I do: I am g0y.
LOVE this group. I TOTALLY relate... I have a GREAT difficulty understanding
gay guys, and just YEARN for a normal guy-guy relationship that could include
- John K
Someone told me about this site
on Friday and I've spent the whole weekend on it - I completely had an
epiphany. I feel like my salvation depended on me finding this site. I can't
thank you enough - YOU NEED TO WRITE A BOOK ON THIS! Granted I bought into the
anal sex thing and have been doing that for the past 10 years w/my partner but
NO MORE. I always found it gross but I thought that is what you did, geez I
didn't know but I do now I always felt awful about myself b/c of it. Again
thank you, you've gotta write a book man!!!!!!!!
Hi there, at last, what a
liberating experience it has been reading through this site, glad to hear that
there are so many other guys out there that share the feelings that I thought
were exclusive to me, it used to disturb me that so many people were not in
touch with this form of love making, I was introduced to
Frot a long time ago,
by accident, well perhaps not now that I have discovered this site, I had a
wonderful experience and relationship with a guy when I was a very young 18
year old and this went on for a year or so, I always have remembered this time
of my life with this man as the best physical relationship I had ever had,
never have I enjoyed anything as amazing as that again, I know what it was now
and will strive to achieve it again now that I know that there are so many
others like me and that wonderful man out there. Thanks to my new buddy for
introducing me to this site. I live in Zimbabwe...
Where were you 20 years
ago? What an amazing discovery for me. I am so glad to have
stumbled upon your site. I am in my early forties and have always been
attracted to men; women have never done it for me. My attempts to meet
other men have always been failures. I tried the bar scene when I was
younger. The majority of the guys were too feminine acting for my taste
(if I wanted someone feminine I would be attracted to women I reasoned).
I 'never fit in'. If I did strike up a conversation with someone, it
always led to the inevitable question 'top or bottom'? How I hated that
...finally, in the small hours of the morning on 5th September 2005, I
stumbled across the “G0YS” site while searching the internet (yet again) for
some explanation of my feelings. I read through the theological rebuttal on
the site (http://g0ys.org/newthang.htm)
I was dumbfounded and then elated. The theological ruminations of the main
apologists for the Gay Christian movement are so hollow, that I could never
accept them as the basis for my Christian walk. But the
actually open up Scripture and tear away the centuries of cultural
Christianity that has nothing to do with what God is actually saying.
I heard about the g0y movement
right on time. I was on the verge of having my first same-gender experience
& I know it would have led me down the wrong path. I am elated to see this
group show up on facebook! We are getting somewhere!
I'm from Lima, Peru. just joined this page a month ago after finding the g0y ... website. don't remember how I found it, but it was one of the happiest days of my life, just go crazy reading each line. finally I had found people that think exactly like me, in terms of sexual attraction and share love.
As I read the ever-lengthening
list of men who, like me, have had an epiphany upon reaching this website/webgroup,
I cannot help but experience several rather intense feelings:
RELIEF. I am
not alone. After ~40 years of confusion, I am starting to finally recognize
who and what I am. I realize that I am not alone, and I am not an aberration.
There are others like me;
DISAPPOINTMENT---I lament that this discussion (or concept/opportunity) did
not exist when I was younger. I could have saved myself a tremendous amount of
heartache, despair, and self-destructive behavior; Ah well, nothing I can do
about the past. I need to look forward now;
Let's talk it up! How do we meet? Nothing would please me more than in a short
time, have the term g0y mentioned in the same breath as "straight, bisexual
THANK YOU! You
folks who are spear-heading this movement cannot possibly understand how
grateful many of us are. This may sound trite, cheezy, or just plain difficult
to believe, but you are changing lives. You've help change mine, and I will be
Thank you very much, your
site... it's pretty damn amazing. I come from a somewhat religious family
comprised of many different religious beliefs although I myself am not
religious. least not with modern day mans version of the bible as it has been
re-written so many times and "updated with current English" that to me the
modern day bible is a forgery and meaningless on all fronts... BUT the
examples of original scriptures prior to translation loses... touched me,
which is a rare thing to say the least... the essence of theology fascinates
me but many times is beyond my understanding or comprehension but still I am
hungry to find those answers which SHAZAM! ( ha-ha) there they were on your
site! Damn good feeling!
Whew....I'm sure you've heard
it 1000 times before but thanks! I read your entire website and I can't
describe the feelings that rushed through my mind and body. As several of the
comments there mentioned, you hit the nail on the head. Then I read
stories....how erotic. I was
//REDACTED\\ by the end of the first.
I am a very masculine, great shape kind of guy...as well. I've had these
feelings you describe for years but have not had the balls to let them out.
What I'd give to find a buddy close to me that felt the same way!
How do I
find guys near me that share these feelings without blowing "my cover"?
of religious torture, self denial, self torture, counseling, prayer,
fasting, crying, weeping, sobbing before God and the compulsory
exorcism - until I totally broke down before God to say "Father, this
is me. Please accept me as I am." WOW what incredible peace washed over
me and filled me. For the 1st time my turmoil was gone and I was free
of the torture. Not long after that I discovered g0ys.org. Truly a
"Since becoming aware of g0ys, I have reached out and have found more love in the
world of men around me than I ever imagined I would. A bit more touch, a bit more feelings, a bit more bonding, more friendship, I notch it up
at every reasonable opportunity and it just keeps growing. Even at home, the conversation reflects a new level of male intimacy in my life. Certain
parts I share with my wife - the appreciation of masculinity and positive male role models. (Example, we both agree that Adam L****e is hot and exudes male sexuality.) Certain parts I do not. Overall, I feel more
love than I ever did. Romantic love. Loving friends. A loving attitude."
Hi, I am guy from Zagreb,
Croatia and agree 100% with your opinion. Haven't known that such "g0ys" are
in the world, even that I feel always that kind of love to the guys. Thank you
for let me know about this. Take care.
Hi, I was just surfing this
site after having not been on it for some while, and noticed your comments on
one of the discussion boards and then read your profile. I was really
interested in your comments - I agree entirely and went into the G0Ys website.
I just wanted to say thanks for drawing this to our attention. I live in
London and it really is difficult meeting guys who value true friendship,
compassion, etc. Most guys I meet just want anal sex for the night, and thats
it - which is certainly not what I am into. If you have any
suggestions on how
I can meet like-minded guys here in London - or even in the UK - it would be
great to hear. Take care,
"Good on you! Do
you know how long we've been waiting for this!" - BigW
Hey man- I checked out your site with the link you put in reply to my message.
WOW! I really don't know what to say. First of all- your site says everything
I have felt...that guys are Bi by nature and have a genuine desire to
be close with/to other guys. In fact that is the point I try to make on the -
Board. I never had anal sex and I never will.....I'd be interested in helping
you out in anyway. I think this is a message that needs to get to all of the
"goys" out there who don't feel gay, but suffer in secret because they think
they are. This is AWESOME!
Wow... that is one helluva
basic message! I have been a g0y all my life and just
never knew there was a name for it! Thanks a million... I have often
thought I was the only person who truly felt that way! Thanks again...
have a great day! Later...
Thank you for having this site! I
am a Straight guy who loves male companionship! I don't like being identified
as "gay" because of how the media has portrayed that life style. I consider
myself hard working, - definitely an asset to my community! I am active
in politics, social concerns for the whole community, - not just the "homosexual
concerns". I totally consider myself NORMAL! I am all man and will not act any
different fro ANYONE! THANKS FOR YOUR TIME! I hope this site grows beyond your
Thanks for the email I received
from you in guys4men.com, I am so happy and relieved. I am a g0y. I edit my
profile in guys4men.com and put there that I am g0y. Now, I want you to help
me increase my exposure as a g0y. So I humbly ask your help to me find other
This is what
I've wanted all along, to be with another man as a man, to have him close, to
be with him naked, to have him hold me, to allow me to cry when I'm hurt or
support me when I'm on top of the world. Thanks for taking the initiative in
setting this up. I'm shaking a little because of how excited I am, but how
many out there are like this? Check out my site now; I've added the g0ys.
like your style
man in what u said, maybe i am a g0y... for sure. am young dude from alabama,
and a jock, i have done frottage, not any fuck and stuff, would like to talk
to dudes like u
Hi I'm in my 30s
and have never been able to explain my sexuality to myself never mind anyone
else. How could I b gay but abhor the though of anal sex, (giving or taking).
Therefore I could not be gay - but then how come I am attracted to men?
Puzzled me from when I can remember. Read ur profile and you have it figured,
I dont like labels and I am what I am, but there seems to be more like me out
there and I am not alone. Thanks for that, going 2 look at ur website.
Thank you so much
for sharing your site. the information on it is exactly what I've been trying
to communicate to people for a few years now, and I felt like i was the only
person that had those feelings. At least now there is that feeling of support
and that I'm not alone. So, thanks :)
- Brown EB
Hello my friend. Thank you for
the website g0ys.org. I have been reading it and it has really clarified or
put into words what I have been trying to say for a long time. Again thank you
and I hope that we become friends.
Hey bud, I meant to be studying
for my final exam tomorrow but I can't get over how excited I am about this
whole idea of frottage and about g0ys. I've been in the male sauna in
the gym locker room twice today to just be surrounded by males. I'm planning
on posting something g0ys in a discrete place where guys in the college go
Right on bud!!!!! Just went to
goys website. Love the website. Im right there with ya! Finally there is a
group of guys that represents me too! Previously the closest thing I could
relate to or catoragorize myself with was bisexual, which, I prefer to refer
to as simply sexual. This follows those lines very closely.
- Jon B
Hey man, what's up? I know I live in NY, but
I'm writing to ask some questions, if that's alright. I just finished reading
the g0ys website and realized that it's exactly what I'm feeling. I had that
experience once with a friend of mine and have wanted to do it again. He
thinks that it means he's gay so he's opposed to the idea. I know I'm jumping
around but I'm so confused right now. Anyway, how do we find guys who are like
us? It seems like every guy I meet on these websites only wants anal and/or
has no interest in making it a loving experience - basically just hump and
leave. No holding, rubbing, touching, nothing. If you could hit me back I'd
really appreciate it. Thanks a lot man.
I just wanted to say thanks for helping me find
this site: g0ys.org. I felt "lost" before. I just don't fancy anal whatsoever.
I'm not effeminate or promiscuous, and I'm certainly no coward. It's really
hard to find someone like myself in the UK. Most guys are after a fuck and
that's it. I want a relationship. One with kisses, closeness, and monogamy.
Going on the scene doesn't help. It makes me depressed! G0ys.org cheered me up
I applaud you for this site,
well done. I’m 100% G0Y and loving it. I couldn’t agree more with your
viewpoint. The time for a change in how men loving other men see themselves is
NOW. The BPT is literally killing millions of men and women worldwide.
infection rate of HIV continues to climb, we know that the spread of this
scourge (HIV) in the “gay” community is associated with anal sex, it’s a
As men who identify as being G0Y, the road ahead can seem sometimes lonely and
daunting. As such, I’ll leave you with this quote from a famous Roman Emperor,
Marcus Aurelius Antoninus (121 – 180 AD) and his writings know as his
Book 4 – 49 “To be like the rock that the waves keep crashing over. It stands
unmoved and the raging of the sea falls still around it” | Grace
hi! i am totally the type of
individual you just described! the anal sex part is vile to me and all i like
to do is appreciate the man next to me for who he is emotionally, mentally,
and physically...i thought i was the only person who felt that way but now i
see i am not!
I thought I could try and
change how people thought about gays, try and show them that just because
someone liked another guy doesn't mean he is a flamer. I really tried, but the
stereotypes are too deep rooted. I've always found myself disgusted when a guy
acts girly, or is in drag, or even the idea of anal sex. I finally understand
- Jon S
Hi, Just a quick line to let
you know that I REALLY enjoyed your web site. What a refreshing breath of
fresh air that was. Always thought of myself as gAy but, now realize that I’m
really gØy! I feel so much better and just a little less alone in the world
knowing there are others who feel like I do. Thank You!
Well dude, I think you’ve
saved my slowly withering sanity. I’ve never come across info about G0YS,
and, trust me; I’ve searched, and searched, for something, anything that
made sense. After reading your ad, I checked out the GoYS.org site and
have been reading for the past 3 hours. Awesome, exactly the affirmation
I’ve always needed. I’m so pumped up; I hardly know what to do……. First
off, thanks for putting such a thoughtful and smart message in your post.
Take it easy. If you’d like to talk sometime, please let me know. I’m in
- Dr. G.
I found a link to g0ys.org this
morning on guys4men. I am so grateful to the guy in LA who told his story
and led me to that site. This is what I have been wanting for so long. I have
tried being str8 and that didn't work well...I was married for 8 yrs...I have
tried being gay...and that didn't work...never had a good relationship. What I
want is what I read about on the website...that male intimacy that strengthens
relationships. I like men who are men, but I have no desire to make them my
phuck buddy...just my buddy with whom I can share intimacy.
Greetings, My Bro! I love this site. It took me 40 years of my life
struggling between my faith and thinking I was supposed to remain a closeted
gay. Thank God I never fell into that lifestyle, and thank God I found your
site. Your site helped me figure out I
do love the beauty of the male body, and seek the natural affection only a
bro can provide, but most importantly that
I am NOT gay. Because of my faith I've always sought truth above feelings.
That means I scour the scriptures and history to align myself to the truth
of my faith." - Chris
WOW! I read your ad and
explored the g0ys web site. Man, finally, somebody "hit it right on the head."
In a nutshell, it fits me exactly. While I absolutely no interest in anal sex
(the thought of it upsets my stomach), I has always harbored a great desire to
touch, cuddle, massage another guy who happens to have a super body with
silky, soft skin. You obviously get the picture. Buddy, thanks for leading me
to your site. Nice! Thanks once again...
This site is so awesome! I
can’t remember how I came across it but I have not been able to stop reading.
I have printed out every g0y story and have been reading at least one a day. I
am so there. The only question is, do you ever hear from older men that
are just now finding their place? Most of the stories are of young hotties in
school. Thy are awesome but I am
40 years old and want someone my age. I was
married for 13 years. I very much enjoy being with women but I greatly enjoy
being with a man to be truly free and not have to prove anything to him, not
have to worry about doing the right thing with him, just being a man with a
man in what ever fashion we want wither it be in the nude, hunting, watching a
movie just as long as we can hold and touch each other like a real man needs
and wants. I have made myself try the gay thing to try and fit in some where
but it did not work. I felt dirty, disgusted and very degraded. It won’t
happen again! I am a man, an attractive man, I try to stay in shape and I will
be no ones bitch. I can get as many bitches (women) as I want but that isn’t
enough for me, I want a man too.
WOOO! I've identified myself as
a gay man for a long time because I thought if I had feeligs for another guy I
must be gay. I didn't fit into the gay scene and never tried. I was just a
regular guy who was attracted to other guys. I always knew that is wasn't
about the anal thing. It was an affectionate bonding that my soul was
thristing for wiht another man. Your site is refreshing and affirming that two
men can respect, bond, and love each other faithfully without anal sex.
This is all amazing to me. I
have been bisexual my whole life. I never married as I did not want to lead a
double life and cheat on my wife, or ending up in in court. I stopped dating
all the woman that I loved , hoping someday to meet the right guy for me.....
I am masculine and need to be accepted by society, Effeminate men do not turn
me on. I have just turned 33....I still have hope. I am not into a bar scene
either...I do have a membership at the gym.
My name is Keith. I'm
live in NC. I was told about both the website and this group by some guys. I
was floored when I visited the site. It really spoke to me. This was how I had
always felt. I never had fit in with the gay community. I didn't consider
myself a part of it. When I found out there were guys who were like me and
liked to do the things I liked to do, I was really happy.
hi everybody i found
really the honest male in the g0y group. i have even felt the joy we feel with
the sence of touch is really very much than the conventional so called gay s
are doing -thanks to g0y group for enlightening me . i call all like minded to
share and echange
I can just say I totally agree
with that message. I'm a 'gay' guy, (that is I really LOVE guys) but I could
never indulge into sodomy. My love is skin to skin, giving each other joy and
pleasure in many ways but never through something degrading and humiliating
for my friends. Respect and friendship, cleanliness and discretion (no showing
off in the type of so-called gay prides, etc) Thank you for sharing your
I've had these feelings all my
life, but knew I wasn't gay. I've been married twice and did very well in the
love life department...but something was always missing. ... Thank you for your
words and your site...it HELPS to know there are other Men who understand.
Hey guys, just wanted to say
hello from New York.... One day people will get it - that a man can be with a
man - and it's just as manly and natural as anything else a man is supposed to
do. I been thru the whole ex-gay thing, myself.. ... but at the end of the day, my feelings are my feelings.... so - that's
that. been somewhat involved in a g0y type relationship for the last few
months, but it's a difficult and complicated situation - - i don't like to
label it but yea.... i have no doubt God is blessing me and asking me to wait
for his timing..... To all the g0ys out there, you have a bro here who
understands. take care
I'm a 21 year old South African
dude, and for the past few years i've been beating myself because of the
feelings that i had. (I'm a Christian to so that made it more difficult for
me) I thought I was gay, but that couldn't be, i wouldn't believe it. I
struggled on, i would never accept it. Then i found your site. The feelings i
have is not have analsex with a man, but to be real intimate and close with
other men. Today i realized im not gay im g0y. It is a huge relief....
So I was in a gay chatroom,
always looking for someone like me, someone who enjoys the intimacy of being
with another man. But Someone who is not interested in all the gay
stereotypes, I met a man in one of those chatrooms who told me about g0ys.org,
and from there I made my way here. WOW! I never knew there were so many men
just wanted to drop a quick
line and say hello, been looking for something like this site for a while, i
glad to know that my best friend and I, his a jock all the way, we never felt
comfortable in the gay part of hollywod, we just wanted to be with others that
didn't need to go to gay bars,etc. But we liked to be close with men.....well
I'm just glad to be a part of something like this group now.
Sigh... Wish I had stumbled
across this group earlier, then I wouldn't have "relationships" which never
worked out. The emotional waves I'd been riding up & down before this group
cleared up everything for me. Before I stumbled upon this group, I used to
think of myself as gay, but a "weird" one, in the sense that while gays
usually liked anal &/or oral sex, I liked neither, but preferred jerking off,
touching, hugging, smelling, showering & sleeping with guys. Of course now I
know there's a term for people like me - g0y. So glad that I'm not alone in
being the way I am. Had always felt that I would never be a "normal gay" like
all the other guys who love guys. I'm so happy to know that there're people
who like guys in the way that I do. Stories/anecdotes like this let me know
I'm not alone in struggling with my sexual identity. Thanx g0ys!
- F Fire.
I coincidentally found this
group when searching for lists to discuss certain movies, such as LATTER DAYS
and BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN. At first I was intrigued by the term "g0ys" but when I
start reading, I 'recognized' something of myself. Most of my sexually
conscious life I have felt slightly misplaced.
My God! I am an "old fart", and
married. I have been confused my whole life, I guess. I felt I was completely
"alone & different". THIS (g0ys)
is JUST what I am. I have known for a long time that the male does
"bond", and one thing leads to another, but (this sounds strange) we are NOT
I Totally agree with you. I
just found out about this group today and couldn't beleive that someone out
there feel the way I feel even though I'm totally and completly gAy because I
can only imagin myself with another fellow not with another girl but I've
always found butt playinbg really disgusting but all that porn all over the
Internet made me beleive that's that what gAys do. Now after I found out about
this group I don't beleive this lie anymore.
I've only been "out" for about
6 years now; though, I've always known I am gay. Unfortunately, growing up
Southern Baptist and being in the US Air Force for 8 years can postpone many
of lifes to-do's. Suffice to say, I met a great guy and we've been together
for just over 6 years, but to this day, we have not done anything anal, mostly
because...I don't like it! Now, this doesn't make me straight, I just
think the whole act is repulsive and I've never been into that.
i want to thank you for
this..., i'm turning 21 in three monts, and i now know that the way i feel is
no shame. For too long have i suffered under the
burning eyes of condemnation
of the church, i never let any guy came close to me, because of the selfhate
and disgust i had of myself. I now know beter, your story inspires me not to
be afraid any more, im going to take a chance, live and love
I can't explain how happy I am
to have run across your site (thru a friend's reference). I would be honored
to let you use any pics from my website on yours, and even give you a free
membership at my website just for helping me out of my misery, because I've
been telling people I'm "gay" when I'm actually "g0y"...never knew the
difference 'till yesterday, and my friends are already accepting me more than
ever since I have a basis for explaination! (i don't hang in the gay community
very often anyway - all my friends are straight).
I just found this group by
chance and joined up. I'm a guy living with another guy, deeply in love and
have been together for 21yrs now. When we first found each other we were two
lonely 20 yr olds, stayed to ourselves and did not fit any of the so called
"gay" stereotypes. Butt-fucking was out of the question and still is,
we can't stand being around swishy fem guys and instead found friendship with
straight guys/couples who when they found out that we were a couple, blew
their minds because we weren't "gay". Well I've come to really hate that word!
I love another man, as masculine as I am, we kiss, hold each other, frot, and
caress each other - in private. Outside we're just like two other everyday
guys you'd meet with careers and lives. I was not aware of the word g0y but
sure am glad to find out about other men like us.
- F in TX
Nice to know I'm not alone - I am a "Gay man"
in the sense that I am a man who pair-bonds exclusively with other men, but I
reject absolutely the Hollywood/Madison Avenue dictum of what I am to be!
"Gay" does not describe any individual, it is the name of a collective whose
goal is to impose its social and political agenda on the world under the guise
of "minority rights" - it demands
absolute conformity and abdication of one's
own thoughts, tastes, judgment, reason, etc. I for one am glad to stand
hi-to-hip with y'all against them!
There is a lot to sort out with
being g0y, especially when you have the
baggage of a conservative church
upbringing. I've spent years in both conservative and more liberal churches,
and find there to be confusion on both ends. Today I love my wife and my kids,
but I also have affection for many of my male friends, and I am trying to be
as open as possible within those friendships. How to express that affection is
problematic at times, but I have stopped fighting the feelings inside, where I
used to think that it was wrong even to feel that affection inside. For some
of my male friends I have very strong intense feelings of love and affection.
This group has helped me learn to embrace those feelings much more than I ever
So, finding out about this
whole idea of g0ys has been pretty amazing for me. I've not had this message
portrayed before of such strength, integrity, and passion. It has always been
tainted for me by the gAy community and a model I thought was so sick - even
though I loosely identified myself there since I saw no other model. But with
this story of g0ys - I have a new story to consider - one that resonates with
me. I am especially drawn to
g0ys in the military because of what I
experienced when I was in the Air Guard for a short time. It was such an
amazing bond that was so natural and all male!
Im new to this g0y thing but
thank god I found it! I always new that I had a special appreciation and a
sense of wanting intimacy with my close male buddies but I have lived in
confusion for so long because I knew I wasn't what society labled as gay.
I just joined this club
today. So glad I found it!! I'm so excited because I 've always had "feelings"
for guys but wanted to be more than just "friends", if that makes any sense.
I'm a very masculine guy & look forward to making & hopefully meeting some new
great friends here.
As a g0y now, I am a extreamly
happy person with no-self hate and a lot of respect for myself and my
masculinity. I have been able to devolp a relationship with god and know that
I will not be going to hell becouse of my same-sex attractions. Through the
glory of god, I have been able to find inner peace through finding the g0y
I have always had same sex
attractions but never wanted anal sex. It seems gays always want that but I
never felt comfortable with it. I didn't know that groups like this existed. I
didn't know anyone could respect each other like this. It is great.
- Sonny S
This isn't to anyone specific,
but I am a 45 year old married guy with kids and have always had this
attraction to other dudes that I have always felt guilty about. I ran across
the g0ys.org website and it was as if someone was emptying my head onto the
screen. I just want to say that, for me, I am now completely relieved.
I have been dealing with this
question since I was a child. I was always in love with my athletic and other
brothers, but in the 70s when I was a teen I got mixed up in gay culture and
hated it, when I tried to back out, the bitches tried to have me killed and
raped in Newark, NJ only it backfired on them, over 30 years later I was still
conflicted about this until I read about g0y groups in Yahoo looking for
something like this, and GOD bless, I found it, I hope we can have a
supportive dialog and I can do whatever I can to help......thanks......
- JK Campbell
I liked your article ... I feel
liberated. I didn't realize that men like us are around. I feel like I've been
converted ... I am a "GOY" Thank you ... I've been a clergyman for my entire
life and recently retired early so that I could discover the real me. I did
today ... because of you. Thanks!
I recently learned about what
it meant to be g0y. For many years I have been confused about what I felt for
guys because i admire other guys and sometimes wished i could cuddle with one
of my bros, however i knew that i didn't fit into what is called gay. I have
never wanted to have anal sex, or act like a girl or any of those things.
Because of all this I tried to not think of guys at all and tried to only
think of girls, but it felt like i was fighting a losing battle. honestly
there were times when i felt so bad i thought about suicide, however because
of my moral values i could never do it. I felt so lost and broken. This battle
inside of me has kept me from enjoying a lot of things in life, and has
distracted me from actually having a life. However when i first read about
g0ys i instantly felt better. All i've ever wanted is to be close to another
guy, but in a masculine way.
Hey bud, saw your post and
wanted to say hey. It's an interesting concept with the g0ys movement. I have
always felt that as a guy who likes guys, I shouldn't be classified the same
as other guys who act like girls, wear makeup, wear women's clothes, or don't
act like guys. I was raised on a farm, have played sports m whole life, am
masculine, athletic, work out . . . and I just happen to like the feel of a
hot guy next to me.
Thank you for your posting. I
have googled g0y and am sitting here stunned. I have felt the way I have since
I was in my early teens, and to have it all translated for me is an extreme
epiphany. I have always been turned on by masculine looking guys, pictures of
guys in their underwear and watching guys in the locker room. I like to get
intimate with guys without the anal part of it. I'm a divorced guy who went
through all of this because my ex-wife found out about my relationship with my
best friend growing up and couldn't deal with it. Funny, she had her own same
sex experiences as little as 8 years ago and continually made comments about
how hot certain women were. But I guess that's her loss. Thank you again for
your enlightening post. I am forever in your debt.
I stumbled upon this site I was in shock. I couldn't believe it’s real!
You’re redefining the concept of male/male bond! I’m 28 years old and
would love to experience a true bond with a guy. I don’t believe that
male intimacy could be reached by sex only. The greatest thing is to
have a friend who appreciates outdoor activities, sports, nice book or
a movie as much as you do… a person you feel comfortable with and you
can learn new things from. For years, I couldn't understand these
feelings I have and now everything make sense and I'm not alone!
making a difference! Would you consider
G0YS continue to do that?
Where the G0YS are:
Those who've taken the time to read at "G0Y
Story" probably have realized that most G0YS
are well hidden because they are N0T part of the "gAy" scene.
G0YS are all around us & most are totally invisible by choice.
They're N0T "0UT", & they'll never be "0UT" because they
are N0T "gAy". Most have never heard of us or "G0YS.ORG", &
those that the concept rings true to, are going to be very cautious
because they don't want to be "gAy"-identified, - for
good reason. Most
G0YS are N0T interested in having gAy "friends" ...
because "gAy" friends might "OUT"
them. G0YS want
str8 friends or G0Y friends (who don't point "OUT"
G0YS). They often describe themselves privately with
language that almost seems conflicting, I.E: "I'm a str8 guy who
happens to prefer other guys in the bedroom."!
It's N0T gAy; ... It's "G0Y"!
So, how do we find them? Likely the same way you found this
site. Banner links, E-mail links, & forums like chat rooms, dating
portals & ads. We just put it out there & let them find us!
If you're a G0Y & you have some friends who you've happily
discovered are G0Y too, -- then you owe it to their peace of mind to
send them here! As the incidence of these links increases, so will
the number of on-line G0YS to hook up with. They, for the
most part, do not know who they really are ... or that we're even here!
When they find out that there IS a place for them, -- they get excited
about it! And many of us know how good it can be to be in the
vicinity of an "excited G0Y"!
Hooking up w.
Since this site started, the hits have been increasing
& the questions keep pouring in: Namely, "How do I get involved with this?"
There is an old saying: "Many hands make light work". After doing some
preliminary testing, there is a strategy that is working.
Guys who are discovering G0YS are beginning to hook up with other G0YS using
this technique, so here it is:
- If you already have an account on one of the major
dating services, edit your profile to include the fact that you are
G0Y. Be sure to point at this website
& be clear that you are seeking other G0YS for
relationships. If you don't have such an account,
Most are free for basic membership.
- There is also a
page on this site that
has a couple of banner-links that you can rip to add to your own
webpage. You can also create an HTML signature for your e-mail with
the same code - complete with working hyperlink! The banners link
back at this site. Let this site educate men & do the work of
explaining what "G0YS" are all about. There is no need for you to
rewrite the book! Point them here!
- This technique is working! There are G0YS
sending feedback about how they've updated their profiles on all the
dating engines their on & are getting hits & hooking up! If you want
to find these clean, masculine men who are more interested in the "whole"
you (& not your anus): Then take the steps outlined. It really IS that
Besides being a
great way to plug g0ys.org, it
also lets guys know what you're about before
they waste your time or theirs!
Some systems don't allow URLs in ads - so write something like "G00GLE G0YS"
to learn more.
Picture ads get lots more hits.