Since beginning to observe the dynamics of what makes a relationship work and what works in the long-term vs. the short; --The one rock-solid observation I've made is the same one that writers have been noting since writing began: The external tells you little about what lies beneath.

Now, this isn't an essay that will attempt to get you to disregard the external-appearances of yourself or others.  It will not attempt to get you to disregard your feelings. What it will be an attempt to do is (3) fold:

1. Take a solid look at the man in the mirror and evaluate his motives & philosophies -especially the way he views other people.

2. Take stock of the fundamental g0y philosophy that advocates strategically building deepening-relationships from existing friendships.

3. And then examine those (2) points - together vs. the main-stream message/s broadcast by the "overall gay-male" community. G0YS is vastly different from "GAY"

The stud-image/s shown (right) are actually a computer model cast out of light in 3D - with absolutely nothing beneath the skin in reality.  And yet the brain of the beholder tries to ascertain what sort of man the machine really is.  Hmmmm.  Trust me: It's the stuff sociopath's are made of.

You might encounter "him" in cyberspace in some "game" as "he" comes across the grid with his weapon pointed at your avatar. But despite the appearance: He has no appreciation of anything; -And the world he exists in consists of only rules for finding the target and a drive to engage it.  It can't be reasoned with. It can't be bargained with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse or pain. And it absolutely will not stop; -until you're dead.  I think that it's the same mindset behind the scripts of most "gay-porn"! Laugh, --but consider the deeper issues.

Isn't that the reality behind the mindset of the man who lives for his own pleasure at the expense of others?  He may appear stunning on the outside for a while -but a man who thinks only of himself will share - only when it benefits him equally or the more. Such a man may be the carrier of any number of diseases that he caught unaware from other such men and instead of a gun, -his loaded penis is just as perilous; -And instead of approaching with a battle cry; --he gains entrance with a mouth offering flattery & suggested-vulgarity.  He's the very form that Satan himself prefers to use, abuse & lay waste to.  It's just an animal-skin. What sort of creature lies just beneath it - takes discovery.

There is an old proverb that is translated: "Some men's sins are obvious; -While others trail behind.".  It is those that "trail behind" that are often the most insidious because the damage they cause is often concealed for some time until afterward.  Such is the practice of AnalSex. Some +5000% more perilous than any other form of sexual contact, --those who catch STD's as a result of it are often unaware that they've been infected or even "killed" until months or years pass & the symptoms of disease/s finally manifest!  And being unaware during the interim, --they become a party to continuing the cycle of spreading STD's until the past catches up.  And then it's too late.  Damage done.  

With it's predisposition for AnalSex, -the gay-male community has literally become the butt of the joke to the left. The irony is that having a fetish for playing inside the former - leads to being lowered into the latter (big enough to accommodate a coffin).  Hence the illustration takes on a new message: "Playing in this hole leads to that hole".

Of course, -once a man discovers he has contracted a disease that is currently difficult to treat or impossible to cure, --the actual nature of the man beneath the skin will become known by the course of actions he chooses that affect other people.  And there is no shortage of HIV+ "GAY" men who haven't altered their behavior a bit since discovering that they're +POS.  Such are self-absorbed, callous & indifferent.  A Hebrew Rabbi described such a person as: "Their lives are filled with all kinds of sexual perversions, wickedness, and greed. They are mean. They are filled with envy, callously-disregarding-life, argumentative, deceitful, and vicious. They are gossips, slanderers, (haters of authority) - hating God too;  -And haughty, arrogant, and boastful. They think up new ways to cruelly use others for their own ends. They disregard their parents wisdom, ignore common-sense, break covenants, and don't care to show love to their own families nor mercy to others. Although they know it's a righteous judgment: that -those who do such things deserve to die, -they not only do these things but also approve of others who do them!"  That mindset perfectly describes people who have been warned about the extreme perils of AnalSex & continue to practice & promote the act regardless of the deadly potentials! Even the infamous gay-activist, Larry Kramer, wrote that this behavior was akin to "MURDER"!

The museum recording says: "Please Don't Wipe Your Arse on the Artwork."; -- And all of the Out & Proud 'GAYS' -upon hearing the command, -recoil in offense and declare the speaker to be "Intolerant & Homophobic".

The 'GAY'-Male community seems preoccupied with making the beautiful, -hideous. Seriously. If I'm lying, -then why all the preoccupation with trying to make anal- acceptable? GAYS play in SH!T and call it "sexuality".  Then they try to understate the extremely well-documented medical outcomes of that bizarre fetish (& others).  Anyone who points this giant culture of sociopathy out is denounced with the use of any number of off-point terms - from "homophobic" to "self-loathing". And that's Fuck'd up.  It's just so, eh: GAY.

The G0Y predisposition is very different. And notice that I say "PREDISPOSITION".  It's the PREDISPOSITION of G0YS to be Alpha/Sigma Males in the regard that we who do not tolerate SH!T on ourselves, our buddies nor our beds.  The G0Y predisposition is toward RATIONALITY & RESPECT; --So G0YS do not try to twist what is vulgar into some sort of "fetish" for the sake of having a faux self-esteem.  If you're playing in SH!T and ripping out your collective AssHoles while spreading diseases explosively --then any "pride" you may have is grossly misplaced & undeserved.  The term "FAGGOT" is quite literally, reserved for such -as a warning to others.

As soon as I was old enough to enjoy the naked-aesthetics & company of a hott buddy all night, --the mindset that accompanied the closeness & affection was one of extreme respect & appreciation. To say that I LOVE my buddies is an understatement, -but in the spectre of what "GAY" has done to taint M2M friendships, -I feel a need to qualify the term "LOVE" so that the victims of misinformation understand that "Love Works No Ill".  It's patient & kind. It's forgiving and unselfish. It seeks to build up the other person. It does NOT rip out arse-holes, nor does it smear SH!T all over others, nor does it P!SS in another person's face, nor casually call those close-by demeaning names ("girl", "bitch", "queer", etc), nor does love spread diseases nonchalantly.  Love does not wipe it's proverbial arse "on the artwork of humanity".  And people who do disregard those principles are NOT acting out of love.

Like a lot of guys, I discovered "sex" early into my teens.  I came from a conservative household where there was NO pornography in the house -so my realization of what was going on between myself & a few good friends was a realization arrived at in the aftermath of watching a buddy's soapy erection in the hot-tub seize his complete attention & rob his composure as his ejaculation reflex forced a gusher of creamy man-sauce from his lathery dick head into the air and all over my gently gripping hand upon succumbing to gravity.   The experience motivated him to gently grasp my dick & it took about 3 seconds to bring about the same experience from my personal perspective.  At first, it simply didn't dawn on me that it was "sexual".  I only knew that the less clothing my buddy was wearing & the more of his naked skin I got to feel provided some sort of intense motivation to extend the time & intensity of the experience.  He obviously was feeling the same way.  And what I felt was that what we shared as friends was completely private & was absolutely priceless.  The ability to stay overnight at each other's houses unsupervised in the same bedroom all-night was like being able to have unlimited access to somebody's credit-card, --only waaaay better.  I'm not too sure but I think that I did actually lick some of his freckles off over the next year or so.  People knew we were "best friends".  Strangers asked if we were "brothers". In public we were high-5's & handshakes with casual welcoming hugs with those palm-to-palm buddy handshakes that guys occasionally do.  But at night when we were alone-together, -it was shared showers & sleeping together in the raw with lots of cock-docking while cuddling & when truth-or-dare turned using the mouth in place of a hand while gently jacking the other guy; --things just were never the same once we discovered fellatio.  The guy was priceless and we both knew to the core of our beings that what separated us from the "gays" was the fact that we knew that it was completely wrong for a guy to bitch another guy and that willfully crossing that line meant that a person had fallen into some sort of morality wasteland that made a guy into something less than a man.  Anal- made a man an enemy of humanity itself; -- It was the moral boundary-line & sooooo obvious.  And the diseases the act transmits so readily have been known about for decades.  The thing I would never want to do was hurt any person I made love with by taking stupid chances and the fact that I was so naturally opposed to anal-anything never made those sort of risks a serious concern.  I've only been with a handful of guys during my lifetime (but sometimes, -it was with 4 a week).  A few of my best buds attended the same college and by that time -I rented an apartment & had my own room.  Between existing buds, parties and college-athletics I made a lot of friends and a few of those were friendships that became "best", too.  But what it never was - never - never was it "casual sex". Every new buddy in my bed was like an opportunity to discover the hidden gentle awesomeness of another guy from the way he responded to being touched to how his composure broke down as he'd spill his seed in climax (& then how he'd relax in the afterglow of it).  I loved learning the feel of different skin and the different textures of hair that covered each guy's body.  From the smell of a signature cologne on a sweaty passionate torso - to the shape of a guy's fingers & toes (even the amazing variations of different guy's dicks); --It was all like the ultimate art lesson with living statues that responded in kind & appreciated being loved, admired & respected by another guy whom they felt likewise about.  Like priceless artworks that were also my friends; --There was nothing "casual" about getting naked with a stud-bud.  They were the buddies that I shared their hopes & dreams with & friends that inspired the content of my prayers --even till this day.  And it's that deep set of feelings of respect, trust, discretion & appreciation that seems to be missing from relationships today --especially in the so-called "gay-male community".  If you see people as a meat-market on parade, and other guys as just 1-nite-scores; --Then you're probably a sociopath - a waste of skin & inevitably self-interested, absorbed & likely - arrogant as sin.  You probably give & take 'it' up the arse, too.  Anathema.

But about my very 1st bromanced-buddy: As time would eventually tell; --he liked both sexes -while I only loved guys.  He has played the "straight" card -even into the present, --but is actually very "G0Y" in the way he interacts with a guy on an intimate level.  He'd tell you that the "GAY movement" has damaged what best friendships can naturally become because "GAY" tries to reframe the content of best-friendships in a context that most men do not relate to -often quite the opposite.  Fully appreciating a buddy from balls to brows has nothing to do with gender-bending nor AnalSex; --And even the mere hint of mixing the concepts is grossly offensive & disrespectful to masculinity.  And that is the gut-feeling of most men -because it's simply true.

And in teenage guys -where social status & the perception of their image is 2nd-to-none; --The notion of being grouped with a bunch of arse-pounding girly-guys (image below) is on par with cutting your social-balls off.  Some may say that I'm merely creating a straw-man out of a stereotype, --but look for yourselves & you'll see that the so-called "stereotypes of gaydom" are actively & loudly promoted by the "gay-community" itself.  If you don't want people to associate your group with x-dressers, gender-benders & arse-fukkerz, -then perhaps your membership should stop promoting those very things first.  

Unless, of course, the stereotypes are the TRUTH.  And if they are the TRUTH, -then you can't complain about the debasing use of distorted stereotypes. In metaphorical terms, I tell a lot of the gAys who criticize g0ys:  "Quit trying to sell everyone on how good your pig sings by bashing his critics as being "biased & intolerant".  Your pig (like most) has repeatedly earned his tuneless-reputation, and men of common-sense grow tired of your appeals to ignore their own ears."

Can you imagine how society would react if we treated children on par with how the gay-male community treats men? Imagine mealtime: "Just eat around the sewage, Billy. Maybe you shouldn't take that out of the bag before you eat it. Use a plastic bag every time! Gotta wrap that rascal hot-dog! You don't want to get sick ... again..."  And then, -they'd wonder why kids were terribly ill & malnourished!  They'd probably throw fund-raisers to raise the awareness of how eating food should be done while it's still inside of a plastic bag & then try to sell everyone on how good it tastes that way!  They'd have a name for the practice, such as: "Full Mandible Maturity".  Eventually, they'd probably get to the point where they'd want people to shove thanksgiving dinner up their ass as the "gay way to eat".  This absurdity about proper form & function, - being perverted into a "cultural oddity" is precisely what prompted THIS EPISODE OF SOUTHPARK. And please take a moment to recognize that it was an ASSociation with "GAY" priests that framed the entire absurd episode. Of course, -a thinking person gets the point and will reason, "If it's a bizarre notion to stick food up my arse; --Why would I put a dick there?"!

The bottom line ... is simply recognizing the contrasts between a group of men who love men & reject acts that put men in peril, -vs. the group of men who choose to proxy the arse as if it's a vagina ("mangina") & as a result, --have the highest levels of sexually transmitted infections of ANY demographic and the most medical-need for arse-surgery to repair trauma resulting from such UNnatural act/s. 

Moral behavior is NOT an abstract principle. It can be clearly gauged by the outcome of certain actions and groups can be likewise labeled - based on the outcomes of actions that they promote. It really is that simple to discern.

Sex by itself is about pleasure - connected to a biological "reset" mechanism that takes the "edge off" for a while. Since pleasure is a factor - the same dynamics can & do occur that are feelings connected to drug use and MISUSE. Sex can be associated with feelings of euphoria & "power". Because of these well established facts - g0ys believe that sex for the sake of itself moves in one direction only: ABUSIVE.

The "sexual revolution" that characterized the 60's & 70's had several faces. Some of those faces were masks that concealed an old form of evil - now ready to go on a rampage among the indiscriminate. It was UNRESTRAINED LASCIVIOUSNESS: LUST. Let's not be melodramatic. This has been around since the dawn of human history in many forms. Sex, however, like drug use, -provides a platform for this form of excess to root itself deeply. It literally says: "Hurray for me as I screw you"!

When inhibitions are totally removed - what manifests itself is every form of BDSM you can & can't visualize. It's appetite has no limits. And, those who are snared by the practices it spawns are ALL hallmarked by a single characteristic: The pursuit of pleasure outweighs the value they place on the humanity of those around them -& even their own well-being!  This is the mindset of the sociopath. It is, quite literally, without conscience.   

The "gay" revolution WAS and still IS punctuated by sociopath commentary. At the pinnacle of the "gay" message is the lie - that men who love men, ass--fuck as the predominant expression of M2M intimacy. To the sociopath - the one who esteems his own pleasure above all else, - that message needs no discerning voice. Because sociopaths don't care about respecting the humanity of others.  

However, anyone who looks at the statistics surrounding related health issues soon discovers the acts of the sociopath are not the ideas nor inclinations of the vast majority of the public. However, as any study of mental dysfunction will reveal: the sociopath is an expert manipulator and skilled liar. The sociopath has an insatiable appetite, - and you are on the menu. 

Unleashed from the prison of moral compasses - the sociopath has flourished in the pornography business & at the art of human exploitation.  The goal of the sociopath is to get his way -& this is accomplished by sending a continual message that morality is an abstraction -so he insists that "His way is right & so is your's; - Pay no attention to who gets hurt"!  And because the sociopath knows no restraint - his menu extends all the way to children - cutting right thru the teenager as well. Sociopaths long to make complicit drones. Those who know no moral restraint seek satiation by the same.  They thrive best in situations that foster INequality: BDSM. Dom/Sub.  Top/Bottom. Prostitute/Jon. Clergy/Laity.    

"Love is the mortal enemy of the sociopath and empathy is the window love views the world thru." -Gimmel Yod

Love does not work ill toward its neighbor.  Therefore, love always acts on knowledge that actions may need balance.  Love cares if hurt is being done - even inadvertently.  Sociopaths may mislead & skew an education; -- but love will take steps to correct the course.  It is this reason why some men who have considered themselves "gay" for some while often embrace g0y principles upon hearing of us. I.E: 

"I completely had an epiphany...Granted I bought into the anal sex thing and have been doing that for the past 10 years w/my partner but NO MORE. I always found it gross but I thought that is what you did, geez I didn't know but I do now I always felt awful about myself b/c of it. Again thank you, you've gotta write a book man!!!!!!!!" - Will

What g0y-converts will tell you is usually the same message with some subtle differences within the subjective life of the teller: "GAY" is a paradigm that has been shipwrecked by sociopaths and those naive enough to "tolerate" the lies of the sociopath without challenging them. 
Since the beginning of time, civil societies have labeled AnalSex as a tort - even criminal; - Yet the sociopaths of pornography have spun the lie that AnalSex is merely another form of "sexual expression.".  In the "gay revolution", the sociopathic peddlers of porn & smut now insist that "GaySex" is on par with "AnalSex".  Dissent of their death-message is met with accusations of "hate speech" & "homophobia".  Unfortunately for the sociopaths: G0YS are immune to such accusations and our existence exposes the lies and liars for what & who they are.  After all - you can't yell "Homophobic!" at [two men arm in arm] who just happen to be denouncing AnalSex!

And the result? For the 1st time since the "Sexual Revolution", men who experience Same Gender Attractions (SGA) have a giant option called "g0y" set before them! G0YS are the "moral high-road" for both health & perception reasons.  We provide the context in which men can reframe their entire thought process regarding masculinity without needing to accept the gender-confounding lies of the sociopathic "gay male community's" self-anointed spokespeople.
"The goal of G0YS is to explain, not 'Argue'. Facts, no matter how well settled, will not sway the willfully stupid." - Veh
For example: G0YS know that it is a FACT that +60% of all men experience some form of Same Gender Attraction. Since +60% is a MAJORITY, g0ys can quietly presume that it is the statistical NORM for men to love men & that those people who expend the energy to "come out" are wasting their time - believing a lie that they're some sort of "minority". G0YS know that men have no more need to "come out" then they have need to announce that they possess a penis! G0YS are subversive. We often pull others aside & quietly let them know that +60% is NOT a "MINORITY". G0YS can undo a life of shame & denial with a single statement of truth (because the truth can set people free). 

G0YS reject "gAy" because the "gAy" sociopathic spokespeople cannot regulate their very own behaviors! G0YS reject gAy because it is dominated by pleasure-seeking, disease-spreading, immoral arse--fucks. Our position is based on over 4000 years of legal precedent. Theirs???

So, to the teenage guy who is beginning to realize that he has feelings for his buddies; -- the FACT is that a substantial number of them probably feel the same things back at ya! They're not afraid of loving their buddies... They're afraid of being associated with a bunch of gAys who have embraced the faux-paas of a woman by adopting an active or passive interest in anal--sex as a "defining gay act".  Specifically denounce the buttphuckers loudly; -- & your buddies will relax into your gentleness when directed toward them.  

Again, to the teenage guy who is beginning to realize that he has feelings for his buddies: Get some insight. Gain some understanding. Grow your confidence - knowing that you are in the MAJORITY. Gather into your personal group of friends those guys, - eh, g0ys - who are willing to embrace the truth. Read the g0ys website. This website is a great link to send to them from a "private" e-mail address you establish -not in your name. 

To the older guy who has been dealing with these feelings for a bit longer: Read the g0ys website. Process those ideas that resonate the best with you. The epiphany is an extreme one. Undoing years of self-loathing & undeserved abuse, judgmentally & often religious persecution as g0ys lifts a weight from the inner being that - even many words can hardly describe.  CERTAINTY of the WHY gives MORAL CLARITY & SELF CONFIDENCE. We hope to empower you. Join us.

It doesn't matter how well manicured the outside is. Because if the inside of the man resembles a demonized pig's mentality, the actions will likewise follow; --Making the beautiful, hideous! The lesson is: Don't underestimate the destructive power of large numbers of stupid people!

The extreme irony that exists within the so-called "GAY CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY" is that they tolerate violence & call it "acceptance" -& they expect everyone else to tolerate it too. If you don't tolerate their callous, undiscerning "GAY" version of violence --you get labeled as "UnLoving". They're fools.

You see, AnalSex is ALWAYS a VIOLENT ACT. ALWAYS. And did I mention that it's VIOLENT 100% of the time?  The FACT (say "FACT") is that the human rectum (whether male or female) is NOT designed to be used as a dick - dock.  AnalSex always injures the recipient in some manner as well as creating a conduit for disease that is some +5000% more contagious than even 0ralSex (according to the CDC & World Health 0rganization).  It's +5000% MORE CONTAGIOUS on top (pun) of ALWAYS being INJURIOUS to the physical structures in the recipient!  At this juncture I'll need to point out that AssFuckers will belittle and try to dismiss this major point.  They will DENY that they are causing physical injury to each other via this act. That denial is part of a pathological lying nature of self deception. It is medically undisputable that is physically perilous. And yet - 's will try to dispute it. That's how depraved these sociopaths are. They'll jump up and down red-faced while screaming that the truth is a lie!   

G0YS know these things by instinct. We KNOW that it's disgusting & wrong for a guy to another person because of the perils connected to the act. And we also know that those who promote the are criminally minded because they are promoting a "tort". Those who promote TOLERATING IT are CRIMINALLY MINDED (the legal term is "COMPLICIT").

GAYS argue that it's all just "sex". But, the FACTS (say "FACTS") prove (say "PROVE") otherwise. is ALWAYS an act of violence as EVIDENCED (say "EVIDENCED") by decades of well documented FACTS about physical injuries caused DIRECTLY by that act.  Explosive disease spreading is only part of the issue. Physical injury is the other and a FACT (say "FACT") that AssFuckers want to ignore, demean, disregard & dismiss.  But FACTS don't go away, and if even a billion people call the MOON a star, --it does not make it so.  Likewise, --trying to position the on par with other acts of intimacy does not make it so.

And this analysis, by extension, condemns so-called "churches" that do not draw a distinction between actions that cause harm vs. those that are inherently benign. Churches like the MCC that defend all things GLITQ^ETC... without using discernment that would protect their members from the perils of injury & sexually transmitted diseases. The Scripture is crystal CLEAR that those who eat/drink at the communion table of the lord without making these critical discernments eat & drink DAMNATION upon themselves! By failing to carefully investigate the Scriptures - they actually push the lies found in sloppy translations of the Bible! G0YS describe these corrupted Bible translations in-depth HERE.

And 0ur MINDSET (say "MINDSET" ... and say it again) is a primary distinction between g0ys vs. gAys.  G0YS know that LOVE WORKS NO ILL.  The gAy male community -by "tolerating everything" -by admission disregards that simple TRUTH (say "TRUTH"), and by default -embraces a LIE that pretends that doing what is EVIL (say "EVIL") can somehow result in good. Gay sentiment sounds like this:  "I fukk'd his arse out over a long period of time - forcing incontinence & the need for rectal-surgery - because I love him..."!  And that insanity is tolerated as "par" within the so-called "enlightened minds" of the GLITQetc community. I say they're fools, criminals & sociopaths. And "churches" that tolerate such civic malevolence are apostate!

I'm being Harsh? Why not be harsh on Fools, Criminals & Sociopaths? They push a DEATH-style under the guise of "tolerance".  What they tolerate are the life destroying acts of Criminals & Fools. I choose not to. I choose to love with a philosophy that says that "LOVE WORKS NO ILL."; -& I'll put my philosophy up against the Ass-ripp'n gay-mantra any day.  This issue is NOT about sexual orientation! This issue is about actions that routinely maim & kill other men!

You see, -I know what it's like to comfort a man who has been incapacitated & AssFuck'd.  I know what it's like to comfort a buddy as he tells about his experience of being turned into a pseudo-bitch & expresses the emotional pain about being so completely disrespected & injured.  It happens all the time because society "tolerates" the AssFuck.  And why is it that the same guy all busted up about being AssFuck'd can be relaxed in the extended hug of another guy -share tears with that same guy & sleep with that same tendering guy? Oh yeah: It's because his buddy is N0T an Arse-Fukker & seeks to do N0 violence against him.  He won't wake up with a bleeding rectum or an STD as a result of sleeping with a g0y buddy! The ability to be NAKED & WITHOUT SHAME is the most fundamental expression of balanced intimacy wrapped in love and is the ground-state of friendship that most men know by instinct.

But, who is it again who LOUDLY promotes the injurious & disease-spreading act of the on a regular & chronic basis? Oh yeah: "GAYS".  Gays call their media that glorifies AnalSex with "unwilling" guys to be just a "sexual fantasy" ,--but what it really is -are the maiming & murderous rape fantasies of the criminally minded & sociopathic. Say "Sociopath".  Promote the thing & you'll become one of them:  Consciences seared ... morally bankrupt. Bad company really does corrupt good character. G0YS don't fit in whatsoever with such an abusive mindset!  

Throughout my life, I've been with a number of awesome guys: ALWAYS STRAIGHT - IDENTIFIED.  Always with RESPECT, FRIENDSHIP, AFFECTION & EMPATHY, --Lots of "straight" guys discover that they can bond so solidly with another guy that they'll share nakedness, extended physical-contact, frottage & even fellatio -all encapsulated in a level of shared intimacy that society wants to label as "GAY".  But, "GAY" is a term that now promotes routine violence by "tolerating everything" and making the = "Defining Gay Sex Act".   G0YS don't want to march in "gay-pride" parades; --We don't want to be associated with Ass-Fuckers!

Guys with a moral-center & respect for masculinity want nothing to do with "GAY".  However, -many (+50%) of those same guys -have a part of their psyche that is open to being genuinely loved & respected by another guy who puts friendship first & know instinctively that "Love works no ill". It's NOT a MINORITY NEED as the gay-mantra asserts.  It's the MAJORITY MALE experience.  G0YS simply recognize that fact & reject the predominant gay ASSertions about M2M intimacy.  GAY has become a term not unlike cancer.  It wants to crowd into healthy cells of humanity & marginalize them while spreading a deadly message (venerating AnalSex)  throughout society.  And cancer is so dangerous because there is something about it that convinces the body to "tolerate it".  And g0ys simply point out that the curse of "GAY" is not the affection for one's own gender, --but the mindset of disrespect & disregard for what is so self-evident about perilous acts like ! And "gays" can't seem to understand this simple Fuck'n message - which is why they endlessly try to distort what g0ys believe.  

But what is the mechanism that makes the proverbial "GAY-CANCER" so prolific? It's a combination of something very good and common to lots of people: Same-Gender-Attraction; -Mixed with something very bad: The notion that "AnalSex" is "ok" & a message that promotes "tolerating" it (& everything else); -hence divorcing the term "gay" from the notion of healthy moral restraint.  

The dynamic this sets up is that LOTS of people (+63%) living under the shame promoted by corrupt right-wing philosophies (driven by bad religion -that purports that Same Gender Affections are a "sin") -they will at some time in their life come to the conclusion that bad-religion is the actual "sin" & that their natural affections for their own gender are not inherently evil.  However, there to greet these people once they come to that epiphany, -is the "tolerate everything" mantra of the "gay" community that will proceed to deceive many of those people into "tolerating" the most dangerous perverse-sexual-fetish ever to hit the planet: AnalSex.  

One of my earliest experiences was with a guy named Johann -who had come to our School from an eastern country.  He was quiet, athletic, friendly & appalled at (2) things:

1) How the "Gay" community tainted the perception of close male friendships.
2) How forming the types of friendships that were commonplace in his home country were eyed suspiciously because of "GAY" stereotypes & the innuendos around them.

Let me explain this seeming contradiction: His home country has a high percentage of Muslim people. AnalSex is a capitol crime (prison or death) & interfemoral sex (between the thighs) is criminal in many places. Why? Because the law prohibits men from using men in the place of a woman and both anal & interfemoral contact are considered violating that principle (the former as a direct assault & the latter as having a mindset that would like to do so -but stops just short).  Homo-repressive? No. And here's why:

Because men know that the law is so harsh regarding those (2) ACTS, --men generally feel confident that another man is not scoping them to proxy them as a woman.  As a result, nobody considers close male/male contact as a threat. The boundary line between moral & immoral is clearly drawn by defining specific ACTS as the crime.  Close contact, skin against skin & emotional bonding are not seen as immoral --just very private.  And lots of maturing guys can bond, explore & love each other as the very best of friends without the stigmas of "GAY SEX" being implied for merely being extremely closely bonded.

Johann explained that in many non-Muslim locations --the concept of intimate male friendships had been contaminated by the implication that AnalSex was somehow acceptable and part of those same relationships.  To him, that notion was appalling (as it is to ALL g0ys).  He said that many of the guys back home had their "best friends" and shared a level of acceptance & physical love for each other that he could not imagine living without.  But, "GAYS" spread a message - that "tolerated" acts that should not be tolerated, & thus threatened it all. He went on to say that what was beginning to happen was that a form of Islam was arising that was critical of all close male friendships -as a knee-jerk reaction to what "GAY SEX (Anal)" implied.  Johann was clear that someday he wanted to get married & have kids. He was also open about the fact that he thought some men were beautiful & desirable for friendship & physical release as well.  But he would never use a man in place of a woman by even considering penetration -as that would be very disrespectful.  

He was apprehensive at first & then relieved when I invited him to stay over that 1st weekend and then put my arm around him while watching TV in my room.  After a few minutes of not moving a muscle, -he rolled toward my side -wrapping his left arm around me as he relaxed into the nape of my neck sliding his left leg over my right.  I applied a gentle squeeze to his upper body as I planted a light kiss on the top of his head.  He sighed in appreciation as I began to use my knuckles to softly tenderize his back.  I worked on him for about 5 minutes or so & then told him I was going to turn the light out & get "ready for bed" (in other words "undress") - & he could sleep with me if he wanted & I'd keep "hammering" on him (thumping him gently with the hand I was rubbing him with as I made the offer).