Since beginning to observe the dynamics of what makes a relationship work and what works in the long-term vs. the short; --The one rock-solid observation I've made is the same one that writers have been noting since writing began: The external tells you little about what lies beneath.

Now, this isn't an essay that will attempt to get you to disregard the external-appearances of yourself or others.  What it will be an attempt to do is (3) fold:

1. Take a solid look at the man in the mirror and evaluate his motives & philosophies -especially the way he views other people.

2. Take stock of the fundamental g0y philosophy that advocates strategically building deepening-relationships from existing friendships.

3. And then examine those (2) goals together vs. the main-stream message/s broadcast by the "overall gay-male" community.

The stud-image/s shown above are actually a computer model cast out of light in 3D - with absolutely nothing beneath the skin in reality.  And yet the brain of the beholder tries to ascertain what sort of man the machine really is.  Hmmmm.  Trust me: It's the stuff sociopath's are made of.

You might encounter "him" in cyberspace in some "game" as "he" comes across the grid with his weapon pointed at your avatar. But despite the appearance: He has no appreciation of anything; -And the world he exists in consists of only rules for finding the target and a drive to engage it.  It can't be reasoned with. It can't be bargained with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse or pain. And it absolutely will not stop; -until you're dead.  I think that it's the same mindset behind the scripts of most "gay-porn"! Laugh, --but consider the deeper issues.

Isn't that the reality behind the mindset of the man who lives for his own pleasure at the expense of others?  He may appear stunning on the outside for a while -but a man who thinks only of himself will share - only when it benefits him equally or the more. Such a man may be the carrier of any number of diseases that he caught unaware from other such men and instead of a gun, -his loaded penis is just as perilous; -And instead of approaching with a battle cry; --he gains entrance with a mouth offering flattery & suggested-vulgarity.  He's the very form that Satan himself prefers to use, abuse & lay waste to.  It's just an animal-skin. What sort of creature lies just beneath it - takes discovery.

There is an old proverb that is translated: "Some men's sins are obvious; -While others trail behind.".  It is those that "trail behind" that are often the most insidious because the damage they cause is often concealed for some time until afterward.  Such is the practice of AnalSex. Some +5000% more perilous than any other form of sexual contact, --those who catch STD's as a result of it are often unaware that they've been infected or even "killed" until months or years pass!  And being unaware, --they become a party to continuing the cycle of spreading STD's until the past catches up.  And then it's too late.  Damage done.  

With it's predisposition for AnalSex, -the GayMale community has literally become the butt of the joke to the left. The irony is that having a fetish for playing inside the former - leads to being lowered into the latter (big enough to accommodate a coffin).  Hence the illustration takes on a new message: "Playing in this hole leads to that hole".

Of course, -once a man discovers he has contracted a disease that is currently difficult to treat or impossible to cure, --the actual nature of the man beneath the skin will become known by the course of actions he chooses that affect other people.  And there is no shortage of HIV+ "GAY" men who haven't altered their behavior a bit since discovering that they're +POS.  Such are self-absorbed, callous & indifferent.  A Hebrew Rabbi described such a person as: "Their lives are filled with all kinds of sexual perversions, wickedness, and greed. They are mean. They are filled with envy, callously-disregarding-life, argumentative, deceitful, and vicious. They are gossips, slanderers, (haters of authority) - hating God too;  -And haughty, arrogant, and boastful. They think up new ways to cruelly use others for their own ends. They disregard their parents wisdom, ignore common-sense, break covenants, and don't care to show love to their own families nor mercy to others. Although they know it's a righteous judgment that -those who do such things deserve to die, -they not only do these things but also approve of others who do them!"  

The speaker says: "Please Don't Wipe Your Arse on the Artwork."; -- And all the Out & Proud 'GAYS' -upon hearing the command, -recoil in offense and declare the command-issuer to be "Intolerant & Homophobic".

The 'GAY'-Male community seems preoccupied with making the beautiful, -hideous. Seriously. If I'm lying, -then why all the preoccupation with trying to make anal- acceptable? GAYS play in SH!T and call it "sexuality".  Then they try to understate the extremely well-documented medical outcomes of that bizarre fetish (& others).  Anyone who points this giant culture of sociopathy out is denounced with the use of any number of off-point terms - from "homophobic" to "self-loathing". And that's Fuck'd up.  It's just so, eh: GAY.

The G0Y predisposition is very different. And notice that I say "PREDISPOSITION".  It's the PREDISPOSITION of G0YS to be Alpha/Sigma Males in the regard that we who do not tolerate SH!T on ourselves, our buddies nor our beds.  The G0Y predisposition is toward RATIONALITY & RESPECT; --So G0YS do not try to twist what is vulgar into some sort of "fetish" for the sake of having a faux self-esteem.  If you're playing in SH!T and ripping out your collective AssHoles while spreading diseases explosively --then any "pride" you may have is grossly misplaced & undeserved.  The term "FAGGOT" is quite literally, reserved for such -as a warning to others.

As soon as I was old enough to enjoy the naked-aesthetics & company of a hott buddy all night, --the mindset that accompanied the closeness & affection was one of extreme respect & appreciation.  To say that I LOVE my buddies is an understatement, --but in the spectre of what "GAY" has done to taint M2M friendships, --I feel a need to qualify the term "LOVE" so that the victims of misinformation understand that "Love Works No Ill".  It's patient & kind. It's forgiving and unselfish. It seeks to build up the other person. It does NOT rip out arse-holes, nor does it smear SH!T all over others, nor does it P!SS in another person's face, nor casually call those close-by demeaning names, nor does love spread diseases nonchalantly.  Love does not wipe it's proverbial arse "on the artwork of humanity".  And people who do disregard those principles are NOT acting out of love.

Like a lot of guys, I discovered "sex" early into my teens.  I came from a conservative household where there was NO pornography in the house -so my realization of what was going on between myself & a few good friends was a realization arrived at in the aftermath of watching a buddy's soapy erection in the hot-tub seize his complete attention & rob his composure as his ejaculation reflex forced a gusher of creamy man-sauce from his lathery dick head into the air and all over my gently gripping hand upon succumbing to gravity.   The experience motivated him to gently grasp my dick & it took about 3 seconds to bring about the same experience from my personal perspective.  At first, it simply didn't dawn on me that it was "sexual".  I only knew that the less clothing my buddy was wearing & the more of his naked skin I got to feel provided some sort of intense motivation to extend the time & intensity of the experience.  He obviously was feeling the same way.  And what I felt was that what we shared as friends was completely private & was absolutely priceless.  The ability to stay overnight at each other's houses unsupervised in the same bedroom all-night was like being able to have unlimited access to somebody's credit-card, --only waaaay better.  I'm not too sure but I think that I did actually lick some of his freckles off over the next year or so.  People knew we were "best friends".  Strangers asked if we were "brothers". In public we were high-5's & handshakes with casual welcoming hugs with those palm-to-palm buddy handshakes that guys occasionally do.  But at night when we were alone-together, -it was shared showers & sleeping together in the raw with lots of cock-docking while cuddling & when truth-or-dare turned using the mouth in place of a hand while gently jacking the other guy; --things just were never the same once we discovered fellatio.  The guy was priceless and we both knew to the core of our beings that what separated us from the "gays" was the fact that we knew that it was completely wrong for a guy to bitch another guy and that willfully crossing that line meant that a person had fallen into some sort of morality wasteland that made a guy into something less than a man.  Anal- made a man an enemy of humanity itself; -- It was the moral boundry-line & sooooo obvious.  And the diseases the act transmits so readily have been known about for decades.  The thing I would never want to do was hurt any person I made love with by taking stupid chances and the fact that I was so naturally opposed to anal-anything never made those sort of risks a serious concern.  I've only been with a handful of guys during my lifetime (but sometimes, -it was with 4 a week).  A few of my best buds attended the same college and by that time -I rented an apartment & had my own room.  Between existing buds, parties and college-athletics I made a lot of friends and a few of those were friendships that became "best", too.  But what it never was - never - never was it "casual sex". Every new buddy in my bed was like an opportunity to discover the hidden gentle awesomeness of another guy from the way he responded to being touched to how his composure broke down as he'd spill his seed in climax (& then how he'd relax in the afterglow of it).  I loved learning the feel of different skin and the different textures of hair that covered each guy's body.  From the smell of a signature cologne on a sweaty passionate torso - to the shape of a guy's fingers & toes (even the amazing variations of different guy's dicks); --It was all like the ultimate art lesson with living statues that responded in kind & appreciated being loved, admired & respected by another guy whom they felt likewise about.  Like priceless artworks that were also my friends; --There was nothing "casual" about getting naked with a stud-bud.  They were the buddies that I shared their hopes & dreams with & friends that inspired the content of my prayers --even till this day.  And it's that deep set of feelings of respect, trust, discretion & appreciation that seems to be missing from relationships today --especially in the so-called "gay-male community".  If you see people as a meat-market on parade, and other guys as just 1-nite-scores; --Then you're probably a sociopath - a waste of skin & inevitably self-interested, absorbed & likely - arrogant as sin.  You probably give & take 'it' up the arse, too.  Anathema.

But about my very 1st bedable-buddy: As time would eventually tell; --he liked both sexes -while I only loved guys.  He has played the "straight" card -even into the present, --but is actually very "G0Y" in the way he interacts with a guy on an intimate level.  He'd tell you that the "GAY movement" has damaged what best friendships can naturally become because "GAY" tries to reframe the content of best-friendships in a context that most men do not relate to -often quite the opposite.  Fully appreciating a buddy from balls to brows has nothing to do with gender-bending nor AnalSex; --And even the mere hint of mixing the concepts is grossly offensive & disrespectful to masculinity.  And that is the gut-feeling of most men -because it's simply true. And in teenage guys -where social status & the perception of their image is 2nd-to-none; --The notion of being grouped with a bunch of arse-pounding girly-guys (image below) is on par with cutting your social-balls off.  Some may say that I'm merely creating a straw-man out of a stereotype, --but look for yourselves & you'll see that the so-called "stereotypes of gaydom" are actively & loudly promoted by the "gay-community" itself.  If you don't want people to associate your group with x-dressers, gender-benders & arse-fukkerz, -then perhaps your membership should stop promoting those very things first.  

Unless, of course, the stereotypes are the TRUTH.  And if they are the TRUTH, -then you can't complain about the debasing use of distorted stereotypes. In metaphorical terms, I tell a lot of the gAys who criticize g0ys:  "Quit trying to sell everyone on how good your pig sings by bashing his critics as being "biased & intolerant".  Your pig (like most) has repeatedly earned his tuneless-reputation, and men of common-sense grow tired of your appeals to ignore their own ears."

Can you imagine how society would react if we treated children on par with how the gay-male community treats men? Imagine mealtime: "Just eat around the sewage, Billy. Maybe you shouldn't take that out of the bag before you eat it. Use a plastic bag every time! Gotta wrap that rascal hot-dog! You don't want to get sick ... again..."  And then, -they'd wonder why kids were terribly ill & malnourished!  They'd probably throw fund-raisers to raise the awareness of how eating food should be done while it's still inside of a plastic bag & them try to sell everyone on how good it tastes that way!  They'd have a name for the practice, such as: "Full Mandible Maturity".  Eventually, they'd probably get to the point where they'd want people to shove thanksgiving dinner up their ass as the "gay way to eat".  This absurdity about proper form & function, - being perverted into a "cultural oddity" is precisely what prompted THIS EPISODE OF SOUTHPARK. And please take a moment to recognize that it was an ASSociation with "GAY" priests that framed the entire absurd episode. Of course, -a thinking person gets the point and will reason, "If it's a bizarre notion to stick food up my arse; --Why would I put a dick there?"! Butt I digress.

The bottom line ... is simply recognizing the contrasts between a group of men who love men & reject acts that put men in peril, -vs. the group of men who choose to proxy the arse as if it's a vagina ("mangina") & as a result, --have the highest levels of sexually transmitted infections of ANY demographic and the most medical-need for arse-surgery to repair trauma resulting from such UNnatural act/s. 

Moral behavior is NOT an abstract principle. It can be clearly gauged by the outcome of certain actions and groups can be likewise labeled - based on the outcomes of actions that they promote. It really is that simple to discern.

Sex by itself is about pleasure - connected to a biological "reset" mechanism that takes the "edge off" for a while. Since pleasure is a factor - the same dynamics can & do occur that are feelings connected to drug use and MISUSE. Sex can be associated with feelings of euphoria & "power". Because of these well established facts - g0ys believe that sex for the sake of itself moves in one direction only: ABUSIVE.

The "sexual revolution" that characterized the 60's & 70's had several faces. Some of those faces were masks that concealed an old form of evil - now ready to go on a rampage among the indiscriminate. It was UNRESTRAINED LASCIVIOUSNESS: LUST. Let's not be melodramatic. This has been around since the dawn of human history in many forms. Sex, however, like drug use, -provides a platform for this form of excess to root itself deeply. It literally says: "Hurray for me as I screw you"!

When inhibitions are totally removed - what manifests itself is every form of BDSM you can & can't visualize. It's appetite has no limits. And, those who are snared by the practices it spawns are ALL hallmarked by a single characteristic: The pursuit of pleasure outweighs the value they place on the humanity of those around them -& even their own well-being!  This is the mindset of the sociopath. It is, quite literally, without conscience.   

The "gay" revolution WAS and still IS punctuated by sociopath commentary. At the pinnacle of the "gay" message is the lie - that men who love men, buttphuck as the predominant expression of M2M intimacy. To the sociopath - the one who esteems his own pleasure above all else, - that message needs no discerning voice. Because sociopaths don't care about respecting the humanity of others.  

However, anyone who looks at the statistics surrounding related health issues soon discovers the acts of the sociopath are not the ideas nor inclinations of the vast majority of the public. However, as any study of mental dysfunction will reveal: the sociopath is an expert manipulator and skilled liar. The sociopath has an insatiable appetite, - and you are on the menu. 

Unleashed from the prison of moral compasses - the sociopath has flourished in the pornography business & at the art of human exploitation.  The goal of the sociopath is to get his way -& this is accomplished by sending a continual message that morality is an abstraction -so he insists that "His way is right & so is your's; - Pay no attention to who gets hurt"!  And because the sociopath knows no restraint - his menu extends all the way to children - cutting right thru the teenager as well. Sociopaths long to make complicit drones. Those who know no moral restraint seek satiation by the same.  They thrive best in situations that foster INequality: BDSM. Dom/Sub.  Top/Bottom. Prostitute/Jon. Clergy/Laity.    

"Love is the mortal enemy of the sociopath and empathy is the window love views the world thru."
-Gimmel Yod

Love does not work ill toward its neighbor.  Therefore, love always acts on knowledge that actions may need balance.  Love cares if  hurt is being done - even inadvertently.  Sociopaths may mislead & skew an education; -- but love will take steps to correct the course.  It is this reason why some men who have considered themselves "gay" for some while often embrace g0y principles upon hearing of us.  What g0y-converts will tell you is usually the same message with some subtle differences within the subjective life of the teller: "GAY" is a paradigm that has been shipwrecked by sociopaths and those naive enough to "tolerate" the lies of the sociopath without challenging them. 
Since the beginning of time, civil societies have labeled AnalSex as a tort - even criminal; - Yet the sociopaths of pornography have spun the lie that AnalSex is merely another form of "sexual expression.".  In the "gay revolution", the sociopathic peddlers of porn & smut now insist that "GaySex" is on par with "AnalSex".  Dissent of their death-message is met with accusations of "hate speech" & "homophobia".  Unfortunately for the sociopaths: G0YS are immune to such accusations and our existence exposes the lies and liars for what & who they are.  After all - you can't yell "Homophobic!" at [two men arm in arm] who just happen to be denouncing AnalSex!

And the result? For the 1st time since the "Sexual Revolution", men who experience Same Gender Attractions (SGA) have a giant option called "g0y" set before them! G0YS are the "moral high-road" for both health & perception reasons.  We provide the context in which men can reframe their entire thought process regarding masculinity without needing to accept the gender-confounding lies of the sociopathic "gay male community's" self-anointed spokespeople.
For example: G0YS know that it is a FACT that +60% of all men experience some form of Same Gender Attraction. Since +60% is a MAJORITY, g0ys can quietly presume that it is the statistical NORM for men to love men & that those people who expend the energy to "come out" are wasting their time - believing a lie that they're some sort of "minority". G0YS know that men have no more need to "come out" then they have need to announce that they possess a penis! G0YS are subversive. We often pull others aside & quietly let them know that +60% is NOT a "MINORITY". G0YS can undo a life of shame & denial with a single statement of truth (because the truth can set people free). 

G0YS reject "gAy" because the "gAy" sociopathic spokespeople cannot regulate their very own behaviors! G0YS reject gAy because it is dominated by pleasure-seeking, disease-spreading, immoral arse-phucks. Our position is based on over 4000 years of legal precedent. Theirs???

So, to the teenage guy who is beginning to realize that he has feelings for his buddies; -- the FACT is that a substantial number of them probably feel the same things back at ya! They're not afraid of loving their buddies... They're afraid of being associated with a bunch of gAys who have embraced the faux-paas of a woman by adopting an active or passive interest in analsex as a "defining gay act".  Specifically denounce the buttphuckers loudly; -- & your buddies will relax into your gentleness when directed toward them.  

Again, to the teenage guy who is beginning to realize that he has feelings for his buddies: Get some insight. Gain some understanding. Grow your confidence - knowing that you are in the MAJORITY. Gather into your personal group of friends those guys, - eh, g0ys - who are willing to embrace the truth. Read the g0ys website. This website is a great link to send to them from a "private" e-mail address you establish -not in your name. 

To the older guy who has been dealing with these feelings for a bit longer: Read the g0ys website. Process those ideas that resonate the best with you. The epiphany is an extreme one. Undoing years of self-loathing & undeserved abuse, judgmentally & often religious persecution as g0ys lifts a weight from the inner being that - even many words can hardly describe.  CERTAINTY of the WHY gives MORAL CLARITY & SELF CONFIDENCE. We hope to empower you. Join us.

It doesn't matter how well manicured the outside is. Because if the inside of the man resembles a demonized pig's mentality, the actions will likewise follow; --Making the beautiful, hideous!

The extreme irony that exists within the so-called "GAY CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY" is that they tolerate violence & call it "acceptance" -& they expect everyone else to tolerate it too. If you don't tolerate their callous, undiscerning "GAY" version of violence --you get labeled as "UnLoving". They're fools.

You see, AnalSex is ALWAYS a VIOLENT ACT. ALWAYS. And did I mention that it's VIOLENT 100% of the time?  The FACT (say "FACT") is that the human rectum (whether male or female) is NOT designed to be used as a dick - dock.  AnalSex always injures the recipient in some manner as well as creating a conduit for disease that is some +5000% more contagious than even 0ralSex (according to the CDC & World Health 0rganization).  It's +5000% MORE CONTAGIOUS on top (pun) of ALWAYS being INJURIOUS to the physical structures in the recipient!  At this juncture I'll need to point out that AssFuckers will belittle and try to dismiss this major point.  They will DENY that they are causing physical injury to each other via this act. That denial is part of a pathological lying nature of self deception. It is medically undisputable that AssFucking is physically perilous. And yet - AssFuckers will try to dispute it. That's how depraved these sociopaths are. They'll jump up and down red-faced while screaming that the truth is a lie!   

G0YS know these things by instinct. We KNOW that it's disgusting & wrong for a guy to AssFuck another person because of the perils connected to the act. And we also know that those who promote the AssFuck are criminally minded because they are promoting a "tort". Those who promote TOLERATING IT are CRIMINALLY MINDED (the legal term is "COMPLICIT").

GAYS argue that it's all just "sex". But, the FACTS (say "FACTS") prove (say "PROVE") otherwise. AnalSex is ALWAYS an act of violence as EVIDENCED (say "EVIDENCED") by decades of well documented FACTS about physical injuries caused DIRECTLY by that act.  Explosive disease spreading is only part of the issue. Physical injury is the other and a FACT (say "FACT") that AssFuckers want to ignore, demean, disregard & dismiss.  But FACTS don't go away, and if even a billion people call the MOON a star, --it does not make it so.  Likewise, --trying to position the AssFuck on par with other acts of intimacy does not make it so.

And this analysis, by extension, condemns so-called "churches" that do not draw a distinction between actions that cause harm vs. those that are inherently benign. Churches like the MCC that defend all things GLIBTQ^ETC... without using discernment that would protect their members from the perils of injury & sexually transmitted diseases. The Scripture is crystal CLEAR that those who eat/drink at the communion table of the lord without making these critical discernments eat & drink DAMNATION upon themselves! By failing to carefully investigate the Scriptures - they actually push the lies found in sloppy translations of the Bible! G0YS describe these corrupted Bible translations in-depth HERE.

And this MINDSET (say "MINDSET" ... and say it again) is a primary distinction between g0ys vs. gAys.  G0YS know that LOVE WORKS NO ILL.  The gAy male community -by "tolerating everything" -by admission disregards that simple TRUTH (say "TRUTH"), and by default -embraces a LIE that pretends that doing what is EVIL (say "EVIL") can somehow result in good. Gay sentiment sounds like this:  "I fukk'd his arse out over a long period of time - forcing incontinence & the need for rectal-surgery - because I love him..."!  And that insanity is tolerated as "par" within the so-called "enlightened minds" of the GLIB community. I say they're fools, criminals & sociopaths. And "churches" that tolerate such civic malevolence are apostate!

I'm being Harsh? Why not be harsh on Fools, Criminals & Sociopaths? They push a DEATHstyle under the guise of "tolerance".  What they tolerate are the life destroying acts of Criminals & Fools. I choose not to. I choose to love with a philosophy that says that "LOVE WORKS NO ILL."; -& I'll put my philosophy up against the Ass-ripp'n gay-mantra any day.  This issue is NOT about sexual orientation! This issue is about actions that routinely maim & kill other men!

You see, -I know what it's like to comfort a man who has been incapacitated & AssFuck'd.  I know what it's like to comfort a buddy as he tells about his experience of being turned into a pseudo-bitch & expresses the emotional pain about being so completely disrespected & injured.  It happens all the time because society "tolerates" the AssFuck.  And why is it that the same guy all busted up about being AssFuck'd can be relaxed in the extended hug of another guy -share tears with that same guy & sleep with that same tendering guy? Oh yeah: It's because his buddy is N0T an Arse-Fukker & seeks to do N0 violence against him.  He won't wake up with a bleeding rectum or an STD! The ability to be NAKED & WITHOUT SHAME is the most fundamental expression of balanced intimacy wrapped in love and is the ground-state of friendship that most men know by instinct.

But, who is it again who LOUDLY promotes the injurious & disease-spreading act of the Arse-Fuck on a regular & chronic basis? Oh yeah: "GAYS".  Gays call their media that glorifies AnalSex with "unwilling" guys to be just a "sexual fantasy" ,--but what it really is -are the maiming & murderous rape fantasies of the criminally minded & sociopathic. Say "Sociopath".  Promote the AnalSex thing & you'll become one of them:  Consciences seared ... morally bankrupt. Bad company really does corrupt good character. G0YS don't fit in whatsoever with such an abusive mindset!  

Throughout my life, I've been with a number of awesome guys: ALWAYS STRAIGHT - IDENTIFIED.  Always with RESPECT, FRIENDSHIP, AFFECTION & EMPATHY, --Lots of "straight" guys discover that they can bond so solidly with another guy that they'll share nakedness, extended physical-contact, frottage & even fellatio -all encapsulated in a level of shared intimacy that society wants to label as "GAY".  But, "GAY" is a term that now promotes routine violence by "tolerating everything" and making the AssFuck = "Defining Gay Sex Act".   G0YS don't want to march in "gay-pride" parades; --We don't want to be associated with Ass-Fuckers!

Guys with a moral-center & respect for masculinity want nothing to do with "GAY".  However, --many (+50%) of those same guys -have a part of their psyche that is open to being genuinely loved & respected by another guy who puts friendship first & know instinctively that "Love works no ill". It's NOT a MINORITY NEED as the gay-mantra asserts.  It's the MAJORITY MALE experience.  G0YS simply recognize that fact & reject the predominant gay ASSertions about M2M intimacy.  GAY has become a term not unlike cancer.  It wants to crowd into healthy cells of humanity & marginalize them while spreading a deadly message (venerating AnalSex)  throughout society.  And cancer is so dangerous because there is something about it that convinces the body to "tolerate it".  And g0ys simply point out that the curse of "GAY" is not the affection for one's own gender, --but the mindset of disrespect & disregard for what is so self-evident about perilous acts like AnalSex! And "gays" can't seem to understand this simple Fuck'n message - which is why they endlessly try to distort what g0ys believe.  

But what is the mechanism that makes the proverbial "GAY-CANCER" so prolific? It's a combination of something very good and common to lots of people: Same-Gender-Attraction; -Mixed with something very bad: The notion that "AnalSex" is "ok" & a message that promotes "tolerating" it (& everything else); -hence divorcing the term "gay" from the notion of healthy moral restraint.  

The dynamic this sets up is that LOTS of people (+63%) living under the shame promoted by corrupt right-wing philosophies (driven by bad religion -that purports that Same Gender Affections are a "sin") -they will at some time in their life come to the conclusion that bad-religion is the actual "sin" & that their natural affections for their own gender are not inherently evil.  However, there to greet these people once they come to that epiphany, -is the "tolerate everything" mantra of the "gay" community that will proceed to deceive many of those people into "tolerating" the most dangerous perverse-sexual-fetish ever to hit the planet: AnalSex.  

Are G0YS exaggerating the "gAy" perspective.  Are "gAy" men that preoccupied with ? Let's ask G00GLE.  Upon typing "gay sex explained" into the search engine -the very top listing out of over 75-fuck'n-million subject matches is shown above.  And keep in mind that such a position in the listing is directly related to the number of clicks the link gets relative to other links that are clicked more or less.  

Since G0YS reject anything to do with the "Top/Bottom" AnalSex paradigm, G0YS reject the very subject matter that "gAys" esteem the highest! GAYS are MEN WHO FUCK ASS.  GOOGLE exposes that the GAYS themselves say so.
G0YS REJECT THE "GAY" PARADIGM. CLEAR?

Why don't g0ys even try to "fit in" at all? Well, it's about empathy.  G0YS highly esteem empathy. Empathy is about seeing from the perspective of another person and trying to model one's behaviors so that the other person would be built-up in whatever dimension/s that the interaction/s involve.  Sexually speaking, --empathy is the mindset that desires the other guy's experience to be a good one, too.  Empathy does not derive pleasure in putting others in pain, peril or in need of pall-bearing.

Empathy is inherently incompatible with AnalSex (The risk, pain, smell, humiliation & self-deprecation).  You see, G0YS feel that AnalSex is the staple of PrisonSex stories. G0YS believe that it is the very epitome of a mindset bent on abusing another person. It is ALWAYS a violent act because it ALWAYS inflicts injury on the recipient. Say "Always".

Butt, how do the "gAys" explain why some men who love men do not engage in AnalSex (about 20% of men who openly-identify as "GAY" don't do the ButtNasty - and generally identify with g0ys when they hear that such a group now exists).  By clicking on that very G00GLE-link shown (upper right) ... there was another that went to a page that explained the reason -with this hypothesis:
According to Raymon J, "Anal penetration is one of our closest physical connections. Many prefer there be feelings associated with that level of closeness. So, some men abstain from anal unless they have an emotional connection with their partner."!

Huh? G0YS say it's just the opposite! AnalSex is the result of a LACK of emotional connection (lack of empathy); --  Because it's ALWAYS an act of ASSault.  

Judge for yourself: What form does "GAY PORN" most often take? ANAL -nearly 100% of it.  Is this because "GAY PORN" is so emotionally compelling?  Women - who also have arses, -occasionally find themselves being asked to do the buttnasty.  Do most women feel that AnalSex is their "closest physical connection"? Perhaps some do (which explains where most lawyers come from); --But I strongly suspect the majority don't. Can you see the couple on their honeymoon now? What does the bride say when the groom explains: "I love you so much, -that I'm going to fukk you up the arse!"?  Raymon J. thinks it happens 25% of the time (as opposed to the 75% he thinks do it outside of the marriage-commitment). He probably thinks that it's the woman's idea, too. Besides being Fukk'd in the arse, --Raymon J. seems Fukk'd in the head!  And every guy with a healthy sense of self-esteem knows it.   I think Raymon is a self-justifying, delusional arse-pounder; -Butt hey: you say.  See, sex is about genitals, not arses.  Men who think the arse is a genital organ only demonstrate that they keep their head up one.

Understanding masculine EMPATHY is where the Ramons of the world are emotionally bankrupt (which is why they emulate shemales by pushing penetration up their 'manginas').  Being a guy who truly loves guys, I see arse-pounders as a group of pseudo-men that other men (especially young, questioning, impressionable & naive men) need to be shielded from both physically & socially.  The reason we care is because G0YS have genuine emotional empathy & concern for those men who may be deceived & victimized by the gigantic lies told by the AssClowns who spread over 95% of all the diseases in the M2M community.  Yeah - that's another little factoid that Raymon left out: His AnalSex'd RumpRanger buddies spread over 95% of the STD's within the so-called "gay" community via AnalSex.  And they want our kids to follow their deadly lead by trying to soften the statistics.  Butt, the fact that "GAYS" are so preoccupied with AnalSex is why a man who claims the title of "GAY" is at least +4000% more likely to have a serious STD than the population at large!  Yeah: OVER FOUR THOUSAND FUKK'N PERCENT! Say: "GAY PLAGUE". 

According to the FDA, men who have had sex with other men represent under 10 percent of the U.S. population, yet accounted for at least 60 percent of all new HIV infections in the U.S. in 2010. Hello!

There's a certain relaxed atmosphere of friendship that exists in telling a buddy that he has a nice backside & having it clearly understood that you are offering a genuine compliment & not veiling some perversion that wants to climb inside his anus!  G0YS understand the hard-line of the male-mindset on proper behavior. GAYS don't.  

And that same mindset can offer a sense of self-esteem when talking in favorable terms to a guy about his other physical features.  So-called "straight" guys are not afraid of intimacy with another guy as long as they know that the other guy doesn't want to arse-fukk them.  G0YS know this by instinct. GAYS don't.

Several years ago, I made friends with a amateur male model from another country.  Early on in our conversation, he mentioned how often he was harassed by guys who wanted to him, & it really pissed him off.  I agreed wholeheartedly with him and although I'm a Kinsey-6, -nothing about my mannerisms suggest that I'm attracted to guys, -so the tone was immediately set that I wasn't interested in what the "GAYS" were. And it's true. I put friendship 1st and I prefer to build them with beautiful men as an empathetic peer with their interests at heart.  The guy stayed at my residence for a couple of weeks and I took photos & built a portfolio for him. I shot many pictures -but made it clear that frontal nudes were not necessary because they're so difficult to do tastefully; -Although backside nudes, swimwear & dress clothes were part of the mix. I gave the guy a number of full-body massages after workouts in which I'd comment of muscle development, symmetry observations & the astonishing calf, & foot development the guy had.  Some guys have stunning bone & musculature on their legs & this guy's lower legs & feet were perfect in symmetry & thick-structure.  By the time his stay was over --we were good friends & the same guy who didn't like "fag-aggression" was sleeping with me in the raw & beginning to spring wood every time I'd massage him. So did I take this opportunity to liberate his A-rated semen? No. You see, -he had originally contacted me because of an ad I'd  placed for a marketing business and I explained that I hadn't placed the ad in hopes of scoring with a hott guy, -so to do that would color the tone of my true intentions -which had been advertised as business related.  I told him that I'd gotten waaaay attached to him & hoped that he'd visit my country again; --but that I wasn't going to let any doubt enter the friendship as to my original intentions.  6 months later, he booked a return trip & that's another chapter.  However, -by keeping the friendship on the professional side during his 1st trip --there left no doubt as to my sincerity when I complimented his physique (including a stunning, uncut penis that naturally hung thick & long keeping his foreskin perfectly snug to it).  Man - what a stunning package the guys was!  A year later, -a modeling agency picked him up & sent him to Asia & that began a great career for him. Think he appreciated the career help? Think he learned something about the nature of deep friendship? If you truly love & respect a guy - casual physical intimacy often escalates in frequency & quality.

Because the mindset of G0YS differs, so is the nature of our relationships. I wasn't his "gay lover"; --I was his friend who loved him. Semantics? He'd tell you it goes way beyond mere semantics. See, the modeling industry has no shortage of "GAYS" in every dimension of it.  Finding a guy who loves his male friends as men without the need to rubber-stamp the excesses or drama of flamers under the amoral banner of unconditional tolerance -is a rarity.  How rare? A guy who loves guys & shuns AnalSex is among less than 25% of the so-called "gay" population - but comprise about +60% of men overall. And when the same guy actually stands against the practice or tolerance of it -he has just alienated himself from term "GAY"  completely.  G0YS see it this way: To merely stand together because of some sexual proclivity without demanding moral-restraint against perilous acts; -That's like a pack of dogs that all stick together -despite the fact that some are fukk'n-killing the others. Why "tolerate" that!

One of my earliest experiences was with a guy named Johann -who had come to our School from an eastern country.  He was quiet, athletic, friendly & appalled at (2) things:

1) How the "Gay" community tainted the perception of close male friendships.
2) How forming the types of friendships that were commonplace in his home country were eyed suspiciously because of "GAY" stereotypes & the innuendos around them.

Let me explain this seeming contradiction: His home country has a high percentage of Muslim people. AnalSex is a capitol crime (prison or death) & interfemoral sex (between the thighs) is criminal in many places. Why? Because the law prohibits men from using men in the place of a woman and both anal & interfemoral contact are considered violating that principle (the former as a direct assault & the latter as having a mindset that would like to do so -but stops just short).  Homo-repressive? No. And here's why:

Because men know that the law is so harsh regarding those (2) ACTS, --men generally feel confident that another man is not scoping them to proxy them as a woman.  As a result, nobody considers close male/male contact as a threat. The boundary line between moral & immoral is clearly drawn by defining specific ACTS as the crime.  Close contact, skin against skin & emotional bonding are not seen as immoral --just very private.  And lots of maturing guys can bond, explore & love each other as the very best of friends without the stigmas of "GAY SEX" being implied for merely being extremely closely bonded.

Johann explained that in many non-Muslim locations --the concept of intimate male friendships had been contaminated by the implication that AnalSex was somehow acceptable and part of those same relationships.  To him, that notion was appalling (as it is to ALL g0ys).  He said that many of the guys back home had their "best friends" and shared a level of acceptance & physical love for each other that he could not imagine living without.  But, "GAYS" spread a message - that "tolerated" acts that should not be tolerated, & thus threatened it all. He went on to say that what was beginning to happen was that a form of Islam was arising that was critical of all close male friendships -as a knee-jerk reaction to what "GAY SEX (Anal)" implied.  Hello!

Johann was clear that someday he wanted to get married & have kids. He was also open about the fact that he thought some men were beautiful & desirable for friendship & physical release as well.  But he would never use a man in place of a woman by even considering penetration -as that would be very disrespectful.  

He was apprehensive at first & then relieved when I invited him to stay over that 1st weekend and then put my arm around him while watching TV in my room.  After a few minutes of not moving a muscle, -he rolled toward my side -wrapping his left arm around me as he relaxed into the nape of my neck sliding his left leg over my right.  I applied a gentle squeeze to his upper body as I planted a light kiss on the top of his head.  He sighed in appreciation as I began to use my knuckles to softly tenderize his back.  I worked on him for about 5 minutes or so & then told him I was going to turn the light out & get "ready for bed" (in other words "undress") - & he could sleep with me if he wanted & I'd keep "hammering" on him (thumping him gently with the hand I was rubbing him with as I made the offer).